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Perception with guys with abs
September 30 2014
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Missb4u
10 years ago
and always appreciate a gorgeous body. I don't think they are all boof heads or just gym junkies I have met some highly intelligent ones same as I have met some rather stupid guys with average bodies. It's not the body that makes the man after all. The thing I find hard is trusting that the guy is actually attracted and into me and not just looking for a fuck. It's pretty easy to work out which are genuine and which aren't though once you chat and meet. I guess what I'm saying is it still comes down to personality and how he treats me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why is it seemingly ok to cast nasturtiums at fit people for being "gym junkies", shallow self absorbed narcissists, bimbo's and himbo's etc. But say anything negative about the fatties and the sky falls in ! So next time you see a fit person, look past the toned muscles and rippling abs and see the beauty within
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your 17yo is too smart for her own good. She can be the spawn of Satan sometimes with her wicked wit.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'perth_metro'...... and again, its down to the stereotypical view of people with 'fit' bodies. Crock pot.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Crock pot. Sorry i had to google what 'crock pot' meant because im sure you didnt just mean a slow cooker? CrockpotThe act of farting in a car while locking the windows so other riders can't roll them down to relieve the stench, sealing in the smell like a crockpot. This is best done while the heat is on to maximize the odor. Not sure if thats an insult or something you would like to do to me? :l
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On_Safari
10 years ago
It was a pleasure having you join the girls and I for lunch. 😏 I like to think there's still hope of salvation for them 😇
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RHP User
10 years ago
most of my gay friends are obsessed with their abs, it doesn't turn me on sorry.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I get your frustration that people make assumptions based on your physique but sadly there too many knuckleheads who just love looking at their own bodies more than their partner's and anyway having massive muscletone is not a good indicator of true fitness let alone athleticism in or out of bed. Gym junkies of either sex can be slightly obsessed and even a female version can make me hesitant in case they are too focussed on it ie addicted. Sometimes even when fit you just gotta enjoy the sugary lazy best bits of life too! Dont give up your fitness but dont lead in with it. Eventually that wont be what secures you a date or partner or gets you great sex. Chemisty will though - whatever you look like. I do prefer great female bodies but then again the best looking girl i knew was a model and as cold as a fish. We got nowhere. The hottest results have come from women whomexude that special something. If they didnt have perfect bodies I was past the point of noticing or caring. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Always comes down to the message I think.., unless you looked like you crawled out of a horror film.... But I do some what agree ladies that aren't stupidly fit can fell uneasy next to a guy with 2% body fat.... This is why I don't look like a fitness model and nothing to do with my love if chocolate and pizza.... Nothing at all... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
With a face like that I doubt I'd notice your abs :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MakLilly
10 years ago
I have to agree with Missb72 I to find to believe that the guy is actually attracted me and not just looking for a fuck.So i guess its all in what you message.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Why is it seemingly ok to cast nasturtiums at fit people for being "gym junkies", shallow self absorbed narcissists, bimbo's and himbo's etc. But say anything negative about the fatties and the sky falls in ! So next time you see a fit person, look past the toned muscles and rippling abs and see the beauty within Six pack ....Yes Please Healthy athletic person ...Yes Please I am more likely to yes at meeting a fit athletic person/couple far sooner than an overweight person/couple but your not allowed to say that here are you. The forums love to beat up on the person who dares to say they don't like overweight people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm willing to say I'm not physically attracted to overweight men and women. My personal preference.
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RHP User
10 years ago
i think its ok to say you are not attracted to larger woman or men. But casting a stereotypical view based on their physical size is what people wouldnt like
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RHP User
10 years ago
What you need to understand is that everyone has individual taste. What I might consider attractive you might find unattractive, and it's the same with women. If your trying to attract the attention of a particular female there's a few things that might help. No 1 don't be one of those try hard douchbags just because you have abs and work out all the time doesn't mean that all women like it. In fact I know quite a few women who are turned off by overly huge muscles etc. No 2 some women find shy guys attractive. But don't take it to far otherwise you might come off as creepy or something lol. If your sorta getting somewhere with a chick at a nightclub or pub or whatever maybe say something like "what does a guy like me got to do to get a girl like you" lol might seem lame but its worked occasionally lol No 3 be genuine nice and down to earth. If your at a bar ordering drinks an a girl comes up be friendly and have a chat an once you got your drinks say to her something like "it was nice chatting with you, if you want to continue the conversation I'm sitting over here" an walk away sometimes it'll work an she'll come over but nothing is guaranteed. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Actions speak louder than words... The very fact that you are asking for advice... Proves you are humble... And strive to understand women. Which is a difficult task. Well done. xxxxxxxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mr Perth. Feel free to chat with me anytime you like.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was pleasantly surprised at the reaction and rapid response from men, as a curvy woman.... I love your pic. It's human nature to be jeolous. When you put in those hard hours of training and the amount of discipline it takes to watch your diet.... Believe me. Take your shirt off and the rest. You have earnt it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wish I had a sick set of rock hard washboard abs. They look really joy. But thats about all they do right?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am super fresh to this and just staring to look around but from what I have seen so far I would have to agree with the comments about the profile needing work and especially the pic. You have a great smile but there is only one photo and it’s of your "athletic" body and you are holding trophies. Immediately I feel that you would not be interested in anything from a girl who does not have the typical “hot bod” to match. Then when you look further at your profile other the friends and parties, your only other interests are fitness and outdoor activities. This along with your age (and I'm only 27), and earlier comments lead me to believe you will take if from a curvy girl but just because you want the sex not because there is an attraction or connection.
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Splicey
10 years ago
Like attracts like. Some people are threatened by people who have what they don't
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'PMD_lad_4' I wish I had a sick set of rock hard washboard abs. They look really joy. But thats about all they do right? Don't people want a Ferrari for the same reason? I mean.... its not as if all that performance gets a run in congested roads and limit speed streets. But people still want them. Some get them. Same same.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Until I inevitably start thinking about the countless hours they've spent standing in front of a mirror checking themselves out (I blame one guy, caught him admiring himself while he was banging away, FFS, he obviously didn't need me there to turn him on!!!) ...BIG ewwwww. 6 packs and muscles from actual hard labour, ahhh yeah! But if that's all you got, nah, Id rather be with someone that's spent that time working on their conversing skills..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes of course you get those guys constantly looking at themselves in the mirror, but then you get girls who constantly look in their pocket mirrors, looking at their hair, pouting, adding make up, taking 'selfies'...i think its pretty easy to distinguish between the people who loves themselves and the people who dont... If i saw a larger lady, i wouldn't automatically think that she is too shy, quiet and have zero confidence...once again people assume that someone with a decent body cannot put two words together...the equivalent of stereotyping a blonde girl with being ditsy and dumb i guess But then again, people with 'normal' bodies dont always have the best conversational/social skills.....
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chevtrek
10 years ago
But is there a good answer.I find it hard to believe that you cant get a woman as I know plentywho are shallow.Just last week I dumped such a woman who was a sub of mine--shes in Perthage 45.For those ladies who see more you have to be intelligent ,know how tomake her orgasm hard and put her needs first that will give youmore success than a 6 pack or looks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Lil_Spermaid' 6 packs and muscles from actual hard labour, ahhh yeah! I do a fair amount of hard labour, and I can tell you, it doesn't give you much. At least, not if you're using your body correctly to lift things, it just gives you a lot of core strength. But it won't give you a six pack, or a huge amount of muscle tone. Still I'll have no trouble picking you up (if you like the standing/carrying position hehe), and with my last g/f I discovered I can do a few pushups with her lying on my back. Frankly, I don't have the motivation for the thousands and thousands of crunches and other necessary exercises for abs and a six pack. I work also with a big fat dude (he's proud of it), and he's the strongest guy I know. I've also had muscled up gym junkies try to help, and were useless. Free lifting and carrying things around is not the kind of training they do.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm probably considered a "gym junkie" as I prefer to head to the gym in the evening than spend it watching TV. I actually do it to keep depression away, as exercising is the most under utilised anti-depressant there is. I'm also very quickly turned off by a women who make comments about my size (I'm 6 foot 6 and well built - think fireman calendar and have been called "huge" on more than one occasion by a woman). My mates are always commenting that women check me out. I've learnt not to take notice of it and I look for someone who can laugh with and is cheeky with me. For me, if you've got good looks then for me your character is of most interest - as I've known a lot of roses with very sharp thorns. And connection comes from personality... otherwise go watch some porn where it's only visually disconnected.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I'm 6 foot 6 and well built - think fireman calendar You're really using that phrase to its full potential...... aren't ya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mileage... Yes, one must sell themselves a bit... I don't want to go buy a car online and find it's a picture of a matchbox car :p Many body builders are quite short making it easier to put on muscle mass... with a lot having "short man syndrome". I tend to wear things to hide or at least not accentuate physique. But yes repeating myself too much, that in itself can put people off. Thanks, point made and please excuse the noob to forums :p
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On_Safari
10 years ago
You never hesitate to promote your glories and although I consider you interesting looking you aren't always the "pussy whisperer" you espouse yourself to be. (Gentle smile) just give some of the guys room to bathe in your shadow hey. ~ Indy x
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
It was a joke.... folk OF got it..... he seems like a sweet smelling and level headed man of exquisite bone structure. Welcome to the asylum! PS.Indy...... nevermind
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks Indy :)
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On_Safari
10 years ago
This is why I ❤️ you.....lol niw run along and play nice together xx
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Missb4u
10 years ago
the last fireman's calendar wasn't as good as they have been in the past....I get what you are implying OF but when I read that in your profile that was my first thought cause I get one each year. Your pic is to far away to see you clearly but tall and built will no doubt get you attention and views here. Then you will need your winning personality, which you do seem to have, to close the deal. Good luck!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lol.... Still trying??? I love your persistence. You know I did forget to mention that women don't realise the opportunities that come with men who train hard. Two types of workouts... In the bedroom and personal training sessions to maintain stamina. Physical attraction is a beautiful thing.... Guys don't give up. We are waiting!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I would only go for a fit guy because I take so much pride in my own appearance,
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RHP User
10 years ago
I work out for myself and my own reasons. And being single, I'm not possibly the best to think. But a different perspective in this is that keeping in good healthy shape is respectful to your partner. Now I may be flamed by suggesting this. But I don't overly look at my body during sex, I feel it. But I do look at my partner's body. So in keeping fit and working out, in one way it could be perceived as being respectful to your partner. Happy to be flamed on this suggestion, but interested to hear if others have considered it from this perspective?
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
OF.... I think if you're striving to be your best.... and your partner is striving to be their best.... ... then everybody wins. This isnt strictly limited to your physique, but, it goes without saying that there are certain benefits to being a itter, than unfitter version of yourself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
MischievousLad.... yes, being the "better" or as I don't like the word as it implies issues with you currently, so will use grow and improved self does not just imply physique. Having a happy disposition, being wiser to things and working on virtues like patience and acceptance, plus a whole lot of other is again could be perceived as being respectful to your partner. Just OP is about fitness, and in particular abs, so just keeping focus on topic. Does the ladies on this thread think I guy trying to maintain a good body is actually a sign of respect to them? Or as I'm possibly guessing this is just one aspect with many other forms of respect more important?
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