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Pretending to be less smart
December 04 2016
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Generally, chicks like to flap the gums a lot........a real lot. If they can think of a question that camouflages meaningless gum flapping then by all means they rattle that question out. If they don't flap the gums at a minimum rate they will perish. So it has nothing to do with intelligence. Its in their genes. Guys put up with it so they can get into their jeans. I've just realised I've flapped my own gums excessively on this post. I'm becoming one of them.......
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
I can't imagine anything worse than feeling like I needed to pretend I didn't know something, so I could be all fascjanted by the oh so smart man I was with. I spent decades with a man who was intimidated by my intelligence, so I downplayed it a lot, particularly in social situations. I'm not doing that again - ever! Having said that, though, I'm more than happy to have conversations with a wide range of people around a diverse twnge of topics. I'm not an intellectual snob - at least I don't think so! I'd hope that I am the kind of person who can make people feel comfortable around me, regardless of intelligence or interests.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't mind saying touché..... I love a debate, I love someone willing to put their 2, 4, 8c worth in... Much rather that than someone that wants to appease me....if I wanted that, I'd buy a puppy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Most of teenage years dumbing myself down because of guys and wanting to fit in so to speak. I stuffed around in my senior years, didn't care about handing assessments in or grades. Move onto work and I worked hard, took on challenging roles and additional jobs, but still adjusted who I was according to who I was with, often finding conversations empty and tedious. Fast forward to being at home for ten years with minimal stimulation, combined with the attention span of a toddler - and the irony is I feel a complete lack of intelligence. I've just started making up for lost time but my brain is finding hard to retain information, probably from a lack of use. There's nothing unsexy about intelligence as long as it's not accompanied by arrogance. Although I will say I've probably grown in the areas of existential and interpersonal intelligence because of quite traumatic and life changing experiences. But often times I feel inadequate in factual or scientific discussions. There's something very sexy about someone who is in a constant state of learning, inquiring and questioning. People who aren't become boring very quickly. I couldn't be with someone who likes to feel superior over me - whether that be intellectual, physical or emotional. I have been in the past and lost myself. There's a difference between having strengths and weaknesses, and being valued on whether you're inferior or superior. I like a challenge and I love someone who will challenge me and push my boundaries. Just my two cents.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...a long time female friend messaged me through fb messenger for a chat. No particular reason and it wasnt unusual, but it was soon obvious she wanted a sounding board. She and I have played around in the sack before,and that didnt go anywhere, but there is no awkwardness. Anyway. Im usually a bit slower on the reply than she is...just my texting skills...and so comments and replies can get a bit out of sync, but I'm quite aware that my opinions dont really matter...and that showed in the flow of the conversation. At the time, she wanted someone to listen who isnt one of the girls from work or part of her inner circle. I respect that...she's had a rough year and her father passed away from cancer early in it. I could tell she really wanted to talk...about mostly random shit...and it would be best if I just said the minimum.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What a cack!!! @AnnieWhichWay - your post was almost like poetry LMFAO @Stirry - I gotta say your punchlines are awesome @PatchworkGirl - I agree
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
Excuse typos.
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RHP User
8 years ago
that would be as bad as someone just giving you the argument win just to shut you up, not because you had the better argument. I like smart ladies, the more intelligent the better, I find it incredibly attractive when they're quick witted and can give as good as they get in a discussion/argument/debate/discussion. I find it tiring to really slow down when talking about something, or not be able to leap in and out of multiple topics of conversation with the one person. I also like a bit of word play... people on here might have picked up on that once or twice ;) To me, intelligence, inquisitiveness, logic and lateral thinking are necessities for anyone I'm interested in being with - dullards are a soft-on.
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inspirit
8 years ago
Mysterious. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
a good brain and intelligent conversation every time. I prefer to spend my time with people who like to think and engage in interesting conversation. Im perfectly happy to be proven wrong and challenged, this is what makes a good and interesting conversation.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What a revelation ..so that's why I am single:) Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
I recently said to my boyfriend. "I don't talk too much do I?" He completely froze like a deer in the headlights. Clearly he was contemplating how he should answer - that is obviously telling me what I wanted to hear. I was shocked! I am pretty quiet compared to some chatter boxes, or so I thought. Unbelievable!! Lol Although he has told me that when he was seeing his boyfriend the two of them could sit there watching Netflix (True Blood was the fav) and not say one word to each other for hours!!! I mean what the! 😱😅😅
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
I do like intelligent women who are capable of sharing and respecting their knowledge with other people. That will usually come across through their own personalities and you will soon find out how comfortable you feel with them. Intelligence is only one aspect of getting to know someone, and how you put it across determines how far you will go. Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with all of you on here, however I think that those who do pretend to be less smart - would not put in their 2c here lol I do love a dynamic relationship and I normally put up my argument or I do listen to their POV . A lot of the time the guy I'm with will get all emotional and then I feel horny and he doesn't... with some guys once you tap into their emotional side, they don't feel physical. What's make up sex like in the heat of the moment? I've only experience calmed-down make up sex. :'( I guess I go for guys who are less argumentative and more laid back. Maybe you can't have both. I should just let them win, so I can have my way hmmm.... and then after tell them what I think ;) hotttt...haha What are your experiences with this? I know there is another post on here about sex in a bad mood and it does turn some people on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
If the lady is comfortable in her own skin then I'm comfortable. Who the hell wants someone challenging anything and everything that's said. ? It's only a recipe for drama... Besides , you can have a decent conversation without someone trying to be a know it all..
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RHP User
8 years ago
I want my play partners to be up there in terms of intelligence ... the brain is a massive sex organ and intelligence is a major trigger for me Doesn't need to have a PhD, awesome conversation is a great start - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pulled over to help a woman change her tyre, I asked her if the manual was in the glove box, and then where the jack and spare was etc and proceeded to show her how to do it herself. She spat it, she knew how to do it, she just wanted someone else to do it so she told me to piss off. Women who play dumb shit me to tears.
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
Does one really want to lead a life without having an exchange of ideas or your friend OP doesn't need a man for that? Not a good opinion of men. All I know is that I don't like those games of deception, compromise and convenience. We should never listen to opinions if they were not well thought out. Every opinion is not equally worth listening. There is a culture in Australia that inhibits critical thinking, and discourages it from an early age. Having a critical mind and being articulated is perceived as 'elitism' in a culture of "that's what you think mate". (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Einstein is quoted as saying "The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination." One definition of intelligence is "The ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills." And I guess that's maybe where there needs to be a distinction. You can possess a high level of cognitive intelligence but not be a 'know it all' and be open to different perspectives and ideas. You can have a high IQ but not possess the social or emotional intelligence to deliver anything of significance. I guess I will clarify my first comment and say I feel that in the last decade I've not acquired as much knowledge on topics as I would have liked to. I completely agree Mr Urn with your comment. I'm trying to guide my children to continue to be inquirers and use their brains - rather than just believe what they've been told. And imagination along with mathematics and science is how we've ended up where we are today. Without creativity, knowledge is powerless. I won't dumb myself down for anyone these days, and love conversations that have been questioning my previous beliefs. But I'm also not one for intentionally making anyone feel uncomfortable or inferior by bragging or beating my chest. I'll save that for our primate relatives. I feel sorry for anyone who thinks that dumbing themselves down for attention is going to hold any real value. What are they gaining? Acceptance? Well I for one just want to be accepted for me - intelligent, thoughtful, a little bit crazy and sometimes someone who says really stupid things. I don't get how it works in favour. It didn't for me and I'm glad I realised how much more there is to life when you're open to ideas and just being yourself. If you're pretending to be someone you're not, you're not really being accepted are you? Just the version you're projecting is.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not been questioning.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...you are right on the money...and may I add, blokes hate women asking them questions. Once the questions start we know we are fucked. Why? Sometimes it's a form of passive/aggressive interrogation whereby honest answers are demanded but invariably are wrong. e.g. Q "Tell me why you feel like that?" A "Because I'm a bloke". UNACCEPTABLE. What is actually being sought by the female is an admission of, or better, a sudden epiphany about, male inferiority on the Emotional Intelligence scale...followed by a commitment to rectifying said problem...to the uninitiated, this will be the first of many such 'conversations'. Other times it's not interrogation. It's completely innocent, but honest answers are still wrong. F: "What are you thinking about?" M: "What I always think about...sex". F: "But we were talking about blah". M: "Yes, I know...but I am always thinking about sex". I love M/F conversations that involve no questions whatsoever...and my favoured type of relationship is one where few words are necessary. Kisses to all
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow such profound responses! Totally spoken from the heart of worldly human beings :D I agree with all of you - thanks for your input, especially the long, meaningful responses - sunk my teeth into those - @UsRightNow @SoftandCurious In her defence, my friend is very bubbly, creative (love the Einstein quote) and intelligent. When I met her in our early 20s, she was hanging around a bunch of immature girls. But over the years we have gotten to be better friends as she is a very curious person to a certain extent. I did crack it one day and said "you know the answer, why do you ask?" Knowing her better than she was so used to portraying herself as. I told her a few things I knew. It's the protective instincts that create the dynamics between her and her partner. Even with her ex gf, who I'm also good friends with and of all their friends, I was the first to know and only to know for a long time. She's marrying a well, travelled down to earth doctor, that snapped her up before anyone else could - smart guy. Just goes to show honesty and openness can really be so liberating and should never be undermined if one is to be truly happy in life. If not for our creative imaginations, where would our visionaries, leaders and innovations for future realities be? We don't stay stagnant. I know I need to learn to ask intelligent questions, here's my trying to do that haha ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Maybe did kill the cat:) but for me being curious,wanting to learn something new everyday no matter what my level of intelligence is,is what is important. There will always be people who know more ,but we can learn from them.There will always be people we disagree with.For me it's all about how we interact with each other. Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
In the article I was reading, there are times when you should pretend to know less, eg, to ensure survival :P (I mean if your partner would throw knives at you, then your plan of escape must be kept secret at all costs *touch wood) or if someone is on their death bed, but these are extreme cases. Just to cover off on that. As I got older, I realised all the little white lies my Mum told me to make me do what was good for me but I didn't want to do. I see all her little tricks of the trade now. It worked mostly, until I grew smarter. She protected me though and for that I'm thankful. She always told me, you always need to save face with a man in front of a crowd and that I agree with. (Goes with anyone really, not just a partner). Of course my questions were just in regards to general interactions with people around you and whether you do that to manipulate people and activate certain gender instincts. But intuitive people generally know when they are being manipulated or at least realise after the spell has worn off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@SmileyFoxy I agree with your sentiments but don't get me started on the outdated education system. Most switched on people if they focus and work hard enough they can get a PhD and be called Dr. It's unfortunate how corrupt and outdated the system is, that it almost counts for nothing in the real world. Street smart counts more in my books. Than just going off published theories and deductions. Science only disproves theories or eliminates the untrue. Side note @that50zguy - exactly what I mean - manipulation to get a guy to do a "man's job". Thank you on behalf of the female race for taking the time to be a gentleman :) don't let thatbone incident change that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
... reckonises a woman who plays the dumb card . If he does'nt, he probally deserves what he's got coming...
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RHP User
8 years ago
But thats how I get my teenage son to mow the lawn. I fiddle around with the mower. Pretend to have trouble starting it, and he comes out and says, "Here, let me do it". Works better than asking him 5 times to "get the mower out of the shed and mow the lawn for me please" True dat!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is that just a parents reverse psychology?
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inspirit
8 years ago
I think you're on the money. You talking personal questions tho, just to clarify for others. Personal questions suck and sooo small talk. Bleh. 🤕 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@Masculine Bridge the gap a bit... it's obvious that you don't wanna budge when the woman is trying to understand you. Just like some guy wanna fix things for women and if they can't they feel helpless. You're the exact opposite masculine type. You should watch the male vs female brain by Mark Gungor. It's hilarious. You are the perfect male specimen hahaha @Willow - perfect plan! I hope your son never sees this! Hush hush... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
8 years ago
I sincerely hope that isn't a thing.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' But thats how I get my teenage son to mow the lawn. I fiddle around with the mower. Pretend to have trouble starting it, and he comes out and says, "Here, let me do it". Works better than asking him 5 times to "get the mower out of the shed and mow the lawn for me please" I never got asked again after the whole lawn ended up in a chessboard pattern. Cliche Misunderstood Artist ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's called ingenuity 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Remember to wise him up...cute while he's a man-child but you'll never forgive yourself if he falls for that stuff when it matters...you know, after the thunderbolt hits and he could care less about mum's counsel.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You clown! Hahahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thats how he gets out of washing up. He does a crap job.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just realised I missed posts, going through from page one on the RHP app. The comments aren't synced properly. Sorry if I don't reply. @Tall @Haemo - touché - Posted from rhpmobile
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MrPlayful
8 years ago
To see if he knows the answer?!
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RHP User
8 years ago
"pretending to be less smart" is two fold on the intelligence side of things. IQ (traditional intelligence) is less a demonstrator of success in life than social intelligence (cognition, EQ) which is the "pretending to be dumb" play in order to effectively, manipulate an outcome to get what you want. Just look at who gets promoted at work for the best examples... Or in medieval terms, better to be thought of as a dumb peasant, but alive, than a smart witch burning on a stake.. Smart ones use one form of intelligence to conceal another. So, by that logic, women are smarter by pretending to be less intelligent. Ah the irony.. And yes, they're generally prone to chat more but that's a chromosome thing. lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Personally I could not think of anything worse than going out with a woman who was not at least a little switched on but preferably intelligent. Most people are smarter than me so it is not difficult lol I want to know someone who has opinions and beliefs and the ability ti support them with rational arguments not ridiculous quotes from internet memes and proven liars... Donald Trump springs to mind lol Intelligence, to me, is incredibly sexy and an inquiring mind is a must. Don't dumb yourself down. Whether male or female you are doing yourself and gender a disservice.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I believe that generations of women have been taught that their value is in their bodies and not their brains... their strongest commodity is their body, so focus on that - the pharmaceuticals make billions from it 🙄 Happily, the tide is slowly turning. In here (the fora), we see a rather strong group of contributors, of all genders, who are just themselves - which is why I enjoy this environment. It is (mostly 😉) full of strong people, who know who they are and are happy within themselves. As far as the dumbing down thing goes - not this chick, ever. But then, I don't understand people choosing to pretend they are something other than themselves, it must be exhausting.
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RHP User
8 years ago
A smart woman please ! who doesn't feel she has to tell me absolutely everything that is going on in her life. Do I really need to know if one dressshop is better than another? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter' There is a culture in Australia that inhibits critical thinking, and discourages it from an early age. Having a critical mind and being articulated is perceived as 'elitism' in a culture of "that's what you think mate". (Ms) Australia in general is not a country that values education, critical thinking, and scientific and technical endeavour / inquiry (outside of a very few economically important industry areas). It's no wonder we're lagging behind other developed countries in so many areas, and that many of our brightest minds are basically forced to leave the country if they want to pursue their ideas, projects, and further education. As for dumbing myself down for a man, or for anyone, I can sum up my response in two words: Fuck that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I thought this line of thinking was well and truly extinct in todays world. Or am I that naive? Nothing sexier than a woman that can carry herself in a conversation and know whats shes talking about. I enjoy talking about some left of centre topics such as string theory and evolution and any woman that can bring something to the table there has my utmost attention. And like a few of the posters in this thread, yes I too am over rescuing princesses. Would rather a queen to fight by my side anyday... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Always. If people don't like/can't handle that then too bad. It is their loss...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is in her early 30s and sometimes now when I subconsciously explain things from the beginning (because I am so used to her asking these silly questions), she gets annoyed sometimes - like "I know that yeah yeah", and then she will explain what she actually means. What you project out is what you get back. It's a law of attraction. This worked a charm ;) we have gotten closer because she's been more real in her relationships. No more Disney princess where the prince won't break her heart :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
8 years ago
She asks to see if his relationship material. True Story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Especially if its a movie or TV show that I need to concentrate on because its a bit more cerebral. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Social, emotional and 'smarts' ... I like all three and am drawn to such people who possess all three :) Annie, I talk and ask questions incessantly and I drive the men in my life to distraction lol but only because I constantly want to learn things or see things from their perspectives. I'm a very visual/linguistic learner and speak and ask questions to understand the things around me better :) I will not ever play the bimbo for anyone. I'd rather not be in your company if you're intimidated by my intellect :) As a teacher and a mother, I work hard at letting girls know that beauty and brains are not mutually exclusive. I have a daughter who is highly intelligent and beautiful and I see the struggle she has in just fitting in because she is intimidating that way. Add to that a healthy dose of sarcasm and teenage angst and she leaves people in her wake lol :) I believe in having integrity of person, be yourself and be proud. Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't you dare shrink yourself for someone else's comfort. Do not become small for people who refuse to grow. 😍
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
I've met plenty of people who like to push a line that they're smart..... smarter than they actually are. So I guess acting less intelligent is on the same behavioural plane. But neither really advances the person because it's incongruous to their true identity. We are all smart at some things and less smart at others. Our passions and experiences and how we share those is what makes us interesting... so why act at all - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Intelligent, smart, confident and sociable women are sexy women! Nothing more attractive than a women that knows how to use her mind as well as her body! If a guy is threatened by this then you might want to question the intelligence, confidence and self esteem of the guy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Australia in general is not a country that values education, critical thinking, and scientific and technical endeavour / inquiry I agree, but feeding populism could be interpreted as a strategy of power spreading all over the world. In Modernism mutual idea of truth was a reference. Post modernism deconstructed and made all values relative. With relavitism it became obvious how the 'values' we treasure have always been appropriated. And now it happens we are stuck without the idea of mutual truth where every opinion is equally irrelevant ... in a place where populism, greed and collective irresponsibility holds us hostage. Over the centuries women and men had to pretend to be dumb, today they are expected to be dumb. If I have to burn as a witch... be it (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I totally agree... luckily I realised this early on and try to help other females have the confidence too. I only keep friends around me who aren't fake, but are just completely fun and I really get a kick out of watching them grow and unleash the beautiful person inside. Anytime those negative thoughts come into mind and they say it out loud, I crush it immediately and they laugh haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sexy for us is a woman who is knowledgeable, driven, puts her all into a situation to receive the most out of it! eg, Nigella Lawson....suggestively sexy. Very sexy!! Funny thing though, some times especially when indulging in a little roll play its a huge turn on to find the lady playing the All innocent less intelligent version of herself, as if we are the great teacher's of life! Sweet, innocent, needing to be taught. Oh my god! Sir...you want to do that to me? I've never done it before..please be gentle....Mmmmm? Its all relevant. haha💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are "common sense" things that I'm still learning, being an intelligent person who over thinks far too often. I do appreciate an intelligent partner though, a foil who stretches my brain muscles. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@Spankthatbum Most people need variety. There's something about a brain that can re-create new things in the same line of work and make it exciting. We all must do that in our lives. As "inspiration in its purest form comes from within". Role play is a little different to talking to a non-sexual friend in reality haha but yes I do agree *bites lip @UsRightNow It's been an interesting topic... I never imagined people could talk so much on this topic - loving the responses. Deep and/or hilarious. Ahhh the spices of life :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree friendly couple... and also one thing that seems to be skipped is how skilled / confident someone is at delivering their intelligence. I don't want to gag on anyone's opinion male or female- so if intelligence is combined with righteousness or opinionated arrogance then that is a big turn off. For me, I need to be physically attracted - sorry I just can't get past it - but being smart, confident and knowing how to laugh is seriously sexy.
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RHP User
8 years ago
And the reason why is, I had to bite my tongue every time I wanted to use long words in conversation with my ex-husband; I knew he wouldn't understand half of them. He'd get moody and stroppy and it was all because he knew he wasn't as intelligent as me and felt insecure about it. Then I came to realize that displaying his displeasure was controlling me and it gradually eroded my confidence down to nothing. The wonderful thing about education however, is how it opens your eyes and mind to so many ideas and experiences that you'd never have considered existing in isolation. I don't assume that I'm overly burdened with intelligence, but I am very proud of the letters after my name, because of the learning accrued from earning them, and the insights I've gained into people, relationships and perspectives on the world. Now to find a man who will love me for my love of words, and not just the four letter kind. ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
You go girrrlll!! You made my night...was feeling a bit flat until you came along with your passionate post! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Less opinionated - perhaps. I know a number of people who think they know a lot and are only too ready to tell you about it. I don't find them easy to be around ... definitely not sexy. I like open-minded questioners who aren't in a hurry to be the first to talk, but say interesting stuff when they do.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Woohoo! cool comments from all. I don't like it when I see my 2 friends playing dumb and I jump up and down and ask what the hell are they doing? But? who am I? I like all of the above when it comes to conversation. Especially like witty sarcastic humour spiced with logic it makes me laugh hehe. Boundaries are out there to be pushed and why not push them. Is probably why I get into trouble a bit. Intelligent conversation makes me feel sexy but laced with humility and humour exasparates my hormones haha Be defiant people's and just say what ever is on your mind!!!
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I agree with most that you had to say except the last bit. By all means , say what's on your mind , but be smart enough to know when it's time to hold some things back. That's the sign of a thoughtful person. Just saying... Jay
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RHP User
8 years ago
...blokes know that red socks and white socks are perfectly happy together in the laundry, although most blokes would not have either colour in their sock draw...blokes have black socks with clever things like left and right written on them in fluorescent blue.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I consider an intelligent and forthright woman to be highly attractive and a massive turn on. When her knowledge / experience surpasses mine on any given subject I'm happy and eager to hand her the soapbox...... the floor is all hers...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Socks have left and right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who are these nonces buying non-colourfast socks, and using a hot wash cycle that makes them bleed? My machine is set to cold, and only goes to hot cycle if there is a specific reason.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...it's secret blokes' business.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Doesn't buy anything red, separates, doesn't have the hot water connected - and then gets other to do the washing. Not speaking from personal experience of course ;)
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
That counts me out then - half my wardrobe is red. I'm told it's my colour! ;-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Lol! Just make a load of red for them ;) or buy no white. Most of my clothes are black. So washing is easy, just can't leave them on the line for days in the a Brisbane summer, and my kids are too short to reach it!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Ride2nite' Socks have left and right? imagine reenacting Red Hot Chili Peppers with a left when you're a right, just imagine how ridiculous that would be :p
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RHP User
8 years ago
Socks. Don't all the smart people wear crocs? :p
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have left and right, only inside out or right way. I also don't separate colours (shock horror) I only handwash delicates.... we all must shop differently. I've thrown my only pair of red socks in nonchalantly and no colour leakage. If I suspect something bright and colourful is gonna spread it's love onto my other clothes I handwash and out it all comes...what can I say it's just more efficient on the environment and my time and effort. But then again I don't have kids *thankfully. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Most attractive qualities a women can posses charisma, common sense, intelligence, self respect and pride and not in that order. Have met some drop dead gorgeous women, but have lost interest the moment I realise there isn't much going on upstairs. I am not interested in comparing egos, I enjoy a woman comfortable in her own skin, who has her own opinions and is not afraid to voice them. It takes a real man to acknowledge and appreciate a real woman who is strong and demands respect, but a boy who is more interested in her loins then her mind is just that, a boy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm so hooked on smart sexy. Is realy that simple. I lust for an intelligent girl, its a huge bonus of she's attractive, but first and foremost I love smart girls. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pacific instead of specific, aks instead of ask, could of instead of could have and spell definately instead of definitely. Lmao when some guy on here said I could spell... it's like we didn't learn basic English growing up. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Ride2nite' I only handwash delicates.... they're too delicate for a lingerie bag?
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RHP User
8 years ago
helps garments last longer :) and sometimes that's all it needs. But obey instructions when it says dry clean only... ruined a really nice dress handwashing instead of dry-cleaning (*o*) guys don't needs to do this ever... do they? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Ride2nite' helps garments last longer :) and sometimes that's all it needs. But obey instructions when it says dry clean only... ruined a really nice dress handwashing instead of dry-cleaning (*o*) guys don't needs to do this ever... do they? I have some shirts and other things like my garter belt I'll wash in a lingerie bag (ice hockey garter belt, a touch more industrial than the things LittleGiant was posting ... yeah yeah, he doth protest to much :p ) Some things I'd send out for dry cleaning - suit jackets, some trousers.
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lovman8
8 years ago
Intelligence is sexy!
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RHP User
8 years ago
About intelligence but there is something very lonely about realising that your partner is just simply not on the same page Q
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
That was a decorating realisation for me, and one hat I think I deliberately ignored for a very long time.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is the realisation of whether they want to catch up to your page or read another book...
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
Just saw my typos - my reasiatiom had little to do with curtains and cushions, and everything to do with interests and intellect.
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RHP User
8 years ago
on your typos PatchworkGirl - evrybody does it ;)Doesn't even need a mention. If everyone had to be perfect, i don't think anyone would talk to each other or try and try again at what they love. Please don't start analysing our grammar lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Smart is sexy. I like a smart intelligent women. Everthing is so much more interesting. Definitely smart is best and should never play dumb at all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
have to pretend
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think you just did pretend hahaha ;) Just being modest... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
school at 14 , played pro football at 18 starting a 12 year career. Opened a small business after football then sold it at a handsome profit . Opened another business which Im still active with. Not very well educated but confident enough to hold my own in almost any company. If a woman is sexy, cute AND smart that's nice. But not neccasarily a must have. I don't have certificates to say I'm smart , but that doesn't mean I'm not.
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's the thing - too many people place too much emphasis on being academically educated as a sign of being smart. I know a lot of people who have degrees who are really quite average in terms of intelligence. I respect anyone who has achieved a higher level of education but I don't define how smart someone is based on that achievement alone. Some of the most intelligent and insightful people I know never finished high school. Life experience also provides a great education and knowledge base, even though it's not regarded as a qualification. A guy I went to school with was extremely intelligent. He came to school stoned and slept in class. His sister studied relentlessly, while he partied. He achieved an OP of 1 which is the highest achievement in secondary education. He decided to become a baker. If people judged his intelligence on being a baker, they'd be missing out on a real gem.
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's quite a story - not going any further with that potential, blocking out the noise... knowing he could go further, but there's no excitement in winning every time. Same with friends I play games with. They get bored when they win all the time, so when they meet a challenge, they get nervous and excited. Nervous because they might win again and be, yet again, disappointed. I was just having a chat to a South African friend today and he and I were so unmotivated and felt like we were bored and wasting our potential. Australia appears to be like this. Everyone is so relaxed and it's hard to get anywhere and be excited about too much. He says it's so different here as his job would only would pay $1.2/hr in South Africa, so you really have to be motivated to get your credentials and experience to achieve a better life. I've tried to be grateful for what I have but feeling unsatisfied here. Even knowing that I would be coming back from Toronto back in 2012 after being overseas 4 years made me really scared of boredom and sad. I had nightmares. I partied hard. The cycle now continues to block out overthinking. Intelligence is one thing. Competence is another, boredom and motivation is another. My friend that pretends to not know anything, is almost known as always happy. Maybe it's not so great to be smart all the time :) hahaha intelligence does have its flip side. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
No I wasn't pretending 😀
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Yes , what you say is right. Smart by study is one thing and smart by learning in the school of life is another. I've had some very well educated ppl work for me over time and some have left me scratching my head. Just my observation...
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've seen enough smart people do stupid things in my time. Wisdom is a more ideal attribute - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
But like money....it doesn't buy happiness, though it does buy wine, which for some, is the next best thing ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I have to be a people pleaser at work and I have to suss people out quickly and then try to pick a topic of conversation that they will like. For people who are chatty, and if I'm not in the mood to talk (or compete with them for air time), I'll dumb down, ask them a question, get them chatting and then I kinda have an opportunity for my mind to go off-tangent and relax a little. Some people shoot their mouths off with so little substance that you only need to "tune in" once for every 5-10 sentences and still get the gist of their chat. :P If I'm talking with people who are experts in their field or who have substantial experience doing what they do, I'll ask a question I might already know the answer to just for affirmation and to tap into their expertise to see if they might have an interesting perspective that I can learn from. If I've read something in theory, but am not confident about setting things in motion and actually putting it in practice, I'll ask and risk appearing dumb. Better to be safe than sorry. In a play situation, if it's already established that the man isn't as smart, but with the context in mind, ie. it's just for sex, I'd want to stroke his ego a little so that it'll spur him on to be a bit more Dom so that I get to enjoy an awesome session. Make him feel manly so that I get royally screwed! Playing dumb and dumbing down could be the means to an orgasmic end. Small sacrifice for them multiple O's, IMO. :P Sometimes, I might ask a question I already know the answer to because I love the man's voice and it turns me on, or he's intelligent and hearing him talk gets my juices flowing. That's akin to giving him an opportunity to prove his superiority. I always love a stronger and smarter man! Of course, if we are talking about life partnership, I won't be dumbing down because he had better rise to the occasion, or there'll be no happy ending! LOL! I'm strong-willed and devious-strategic and I want a lioness tamer who can dominate and subdue me, not a prey who'll be eaten alive and spat out by moi. :P IMO, here's what's worse than a woman who's smart enough to evaluate the situation and react accordingly in order to attain the maximum desired outcome - women who think they are smarter than they really are and who won't shut their trap. Empty vessels... A strategic move to play dumb might get you places in the corporate world vs being like a bull in a China shop. Again, it's all about context and what one seeks out of a particular situation.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... lengthy analysis aside, isn't dumbing down a form of flirting? A foreplay of sorts? It's not necessarily about intelligence but it's all about setting the scene for an awesome playtime, screw everything else about ego, etc. Similarly, observe the real bitches - when they meet a fellow canine they want to play with, they assume a posture of submission - chest lowered to the ground, hindquarters up, tail wagging furiously. Does that indicate weakness? Nope. It simply means that the bitch wants to play and is setting the scene for playtime! It's all about the sex, no? ;)
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Ain't that the truth.. Watching a woman ozze into the submission position is a very sexy signal in the world of mating, no matter what species you belong to....
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RHP User
8 years ago
@PurePeony Sex play is a different story because its role playing ;) which is perfectly fine if you know how to play and what you like! You go girl ;D) But when it comes to other topics in regular everyday conversation, then it's a little different. Getting to know someone through small talk - yes that's cool, but this is one of my really good friends that I've known for over a decade. I went to a party and she has gotten a lot better!! :o it just seemed too fake before. But the good thing is that she is not judgemental or egotistic at all and she keeps the peace for sure :) and I'm equally ok with that :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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