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Pretending to be less smart
December 04 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
Saying nothing is the most intelligent thing to do. :) Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sounds like a load of garbage to me. Plenty of gorgeous girls I would have loved to sleep with but gave up early because I couldn't put up with how thick they were. Conversely, plenty of plain janes who are witty and intelligent who drive me wild (in a good way). - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@Q I do agree and as you say "sometimes" - timing is equally critical at times. Knowing when to speak and when there needs to be silence. In silence, we can find more clarity and consciousness.... or fall asleep lol jk - Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
8 years ago
I love a smart gal but not a genius then it gets boring.If she can convers on many topics that's cool and I findit a turn on however she still must have humour and sexual stamina.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek'I love a smart gal but not a genius then it gets boring.If she can convers on many topics that's cool and I findit a turn on however she still must have humour and sexual stamina. why do you say that? what gets more boring vs if she wasn't as bright? Not having a go at you, I'd be interested to hear that comment expanded on. I suspect that most of us say "smart" and mean "about as smart as I am", does anyone prefer people much smarter than they are? (I don't remember any)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Can only comment on my preference and I don't have a penis. But I'd much prefer a guy who's smarter than I am, or at least on par. I'd rather be challenged and intrigued than bored to death. However in saying that his personality has to carry weight. If there's no humour or ability to get down and dirty with the common folk, then eye rolling might ensue.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I cant handle people that insist on reminding me how smart they are. Also people who say they are an expert on a subject because they have studied and followed it( yay for google, we can all pretend to be experts) To me, an expert is someone who knows a lot about a little. I soon get bored with those types. While Im also being negative, I dont like text book ppl. Thats ppl who treat every case by the book, not individual. Thats one reason why I moved away from welfare work. Too many hard hearted text book workers. Im a street smarts person.i wont try and defeat you in a battle of words. Debates on politics bore me to tears. i get bored with monotonous banter on one subject. I disengage. Give me laughs and fun talk, and you will keep me engaged and awake!! So I dont have to pretend to be less smart. I probably am. Lol
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LittleGiant
8 years ago
I've pulled the dumb female card before and used it to my advantage. Why not use all of the tools in your arsenal? I'm also aware that while I know some big words so can come across as fairly intelligent, my actually general knowledge is not so great and I'm pretty ignorant on subjects people seem to enjoy discussing in general company. Miss little Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... your friend was probably trying to find her footing in the world. ;) We all go through learned and observed responses; we mimic, we modify and eventually, we learn to strike a happy balance and leave our unique mark. :) What is of utmost importance to me is keeping the peace and harmony. What's the point of out-talking everyone and then pissing everyone off and getting ostracised in the process? Some toxic folks will bring on hellfire and brimstone just to win an argument and often smash the other person's ego to smithereens. Is that worth it? Like Q says, sometimes being silent is the wisest decision. If one always like to prove how intelligent one is, they might win the battle but lose the war. At the end of the day, people who shoot their mouths off relentlessly do not impress me. They may have almost the facts and starts at their fingertips but they fail to see all the ruffled feathers they have left in their wake. Tact and diplomacy is on a higher plane of EQ than just wanting to win arguments. I back off a lot to keep the peace. I don't need to have the last word to feel intelligent. Sometimes, not letting others know how much smarter one really is, is the smartest tactical move of all. I'll suss the man out before deciding on the best course of action that'll result in rough, hot sex. A smart alec female kills some guys' libido and what good will that serve during playtime? :P PurePeony says : "Don't bite off the sausage that you want to lick, suck and fuck later!" Hahaha! :D
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RHP User
8 years ago
I personally cannot stand girls pretending to be dumb. I like to feel challenged and a like it when my partner is my equal. It's good to talk ideas over with someone you have faith in, makes honesty easier as well I think. it's not even about being smart, just bing opinionated, and wanting to back it up. My two cents x
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RHP User
8 years ago
ummmm... I do it all the time...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Despite the fact that I am a passionate enthusiast for D/s relationships and some people would think it is about one of the two people in the relationship being superior and the other inferior... that is so wrong... well from my experience. Submission is about surrendering and giving ones self to the other of your own free will... not it being taken by some superior being. D/s is about RESPECT and CARE and EXCHANGE. Giving one thing and receiving something in exchange... The best D/s relationships are where all are open and respectful... REAL... not pretending to be lesser... or pretending anything (well role play can be fun... but). I personally want to be challenged... mentally and pushed... that will never happen if you are pretending to be dim, silly or thick. TO STIMULATE MY ORGAN YOU MUST STIMULATE MY BRAIN!!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
And any good Dommydom knows, its the submissive thats in control of a D/s. The minute she/he changes her/his mind.... All over red rover.
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RHP User
8 years ago
"...they might win the battle but lose the war." "...they fail to see all the ruffled feathers they have left in their wake." "Like Q says, sometimes being silent is the wisest decision." "Tact and diplomacy is on a higher plane of EQ than just wanting to win arguments." "Sometimes, not letting others know how much smarter one really is, is the smartest tactical move of all." It is very easy for people to lose sight of first principles (or to abandon them) in conflict and other emotive situations. (Almost by definition, in situations of conflict/contention, feathers are ruffled). Whilst the "names may be changed to protect the innocent", the basic story remains the same, whether on a personal or international scale: Any/every war is a series of battles. It is not possible to win at war if you cannot win battles. It helps to understand the difference between strategy and tactic. I agree it is better still to employ diplomatic efforts to avoid the onset of war. If you are to successfully resolve conflict (which might be taken to be the achievement of lasting peace), it is first necessary to understand the nature and root causes of the conflict from both sides whilst maintaining perspective on overall objectives. (In Australian Law, this overall objective is ostensibly what is "Fair, Just, Reasonable, and Otherwise Proper in all of the Circumstances" to enable us all to live as peacefully and harmoniously as possible, according with our national Constitution). Even at an international level, efforts at conflict resolution fail at the first step because of stubborn refusal to fairly consider the interests of any/all other parties (and potential victims) to the conflict. Diplomatic efforts to avert war, should not be taken to mean disagreement should be avoided, or is not to be expressed. Remaining silent about injustice is to do literally nothing contributory to the achievement of peace (any more than simply wishing or praying does). Likewise, I would say appeasement, pandering or preening of 'ruffled feathers' is not necessarily wise means of attaining an appropriate outcome. If we can see and understand the source of disagreement is sufficiently important or significant (on principle) to achieving what is "Fair, Just, Reasonable, and Otherwise Proper", we might determine it necessary to express disagreement in very strong terms (usually when more tactful attempts have failed). This is not to suggest vehement argument, belligerence and/or personal verbal attack is either necessary or advisable. The rights and freedoms we enjoy in this country were hard fought and won through the hard work and sacrifice of vast numbers of good people over many centuries. I see some of that being seriously undermined and eroded simply because of reluctance and/or refusal of people today to argue for what is right (Read: "Fair, Just, Reasonable, and Otherwise Proper in all of the Circumstances"). Hats Off To The Heroes A sign of intelligence to choose what you likea sign of maturity to choose what is right, A sign of character to voice what you likea sign of integrity to voice what is right, A sign of bravery to do what you likea sign of heroism to do what is right. Jonah C. Nader (then aged 16 years).
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RHP User
8 years ago
*applauds* great explanations! Yes she wanted to be protected but time and time again after several break-ups she has now learnt to speak her mind more in her own way. Friction is a fact of life, maybe telling you that you are off course. Intuition is an amazing thing - that gut feeling, that inner voice... if controlled can be very powerful tool to have on your side. Mostly, silence is extremely effective, other times you need to stand up for yourself. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'RoscoeLDN'it's not even about being smart, just bing opinionated, and wanting to back it up. I find that dullards are usually more opinionated than the clever clogs.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Very philosophical in here.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Some days my mind works better than others. and Some days, it's more my heart in control. I don't try to pretend to be what I'm not. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I party!!!! :P Gimme some dance music and smarts go out the window! I have a nothing box in my brain too :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
Some communicate to draw attention to themselves. Some communicate to outcommunicate (to fight battles and win wars) And some to find the truth about the subject and satisfy curiosity.(Ms)
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Sawadee
8 years ago
You are obviously a very learned person, but unfortunately I think most forum dwellers come here for a lighthearted jaunt around the forums. Just my opinion , but that was quite deep.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter' Some communicate to draw attention to themselves. Some communicate to outcommunicate (to fight battles and win wars) And some to find the truth about the subject and satisfy curiosity.(Ms) I seek to learn all that I can in order I may fight and win my own battles. (I'm done getting ripped off and taking shit from arseholes! No-one will look out for, or take greater care of my interests than me. I expect it is much the same for everyone). Much of my communication in the fora has been about comparing notes, and helping others test their own thinking from another perspective. I thereby hope I might help myself and others avoid some of the difficulties I've experienced or witnessed. It's cost me a great deal of money and trouble to learn what I know* (and I'm now spending yet more on formal education). I could say/do/write nothing, but then again: "ex nihilo nihil fit". (Translation: "Out of Nothing, Nothing is Produced"). * 'Hard Knocks' - Joe Cocker 2010.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ontology'Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter'Some communicate to draw attention to themselves. Some communicate to outcommunicate (to fight battles and win wars) And some to find the truth about the subject and satisfy curiosity.(Ms) I seek to learn all that I can in order I may fight and win my own battles. (I'm done getting ripped off and taking shit from arseholes! No-one will look out for, or take greater care of my interests than me. I expect it is much the same for everyone). Much of my communication in the fora has been about comparing notes, and helping others test their own thinking from another perspective. I thereby hope I might help myself and others avoid some of the difficulties I've experienced or witnessed. It's cost me a great deal of money and trouble to learn what I know* (and I'm now spending yet more on formal education). I could say/do/write nothing, but then again: "ex nihilo nihil fit". (Translation: "Out of Nothing, Nothing is Produced"). * 'Hard Knocks' - Joe Cocker 2010. A big fat yes from me to the part I bolded in your post. And in reply to the underlined part... We here at home have tried to pass on our example of what we know to those who matter most to us only to have it strongly resisted, and in the long run, literally have to live with the results. It is a frustrating thing but the way of man? That we need to make our own mistakes?... I know I am the first to resist well meant advice, generally because I didn't ask for it and like to think I'm in control of my own life. Just thoughts I'm supposing as I write. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
In a world with plenty of shonky advice and con artists, its very easy to be once bitten, twice shy. Then when genuine people come along and want the best even for strangers, that advice is rejected. It is a common occurrence that I've seen over and over. I no longer take it as a rejection and I do not take it to heart because I know my intentions are real when I say things and I seemingly "give advice". Our first reaction is to reject it... but upon thinking about it later, we can appreciate some things that are said and maybe not other things. When people realise they actually know a lot and all they need to do is tap into that reservoir and connect the dots, they experience an epiphany. I get addicted to that light bulb feeling...that's why I try to be open-minded and curious. Our brains can never stop learning. We should never stop being curious. The day we think we know it all, is almost being dead to the ever-changing world. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' A big fat yes from me to the part I bolded in your post. And in reply to the underlined part... We here at home have tried to pass on our example of what we know to those who matter most to us only to have it strongly resisted, and in the long run, literally have to live with the results. It is a frustrating thing but the way of man? That we need to make our own mistakes?... I know I am the first to resist well meant advice, generally because I didn't ask for it and like to think I'm in control of my own life. Just thoughts I'm supposing as I write. Peachy I know unsolicited advice frequently (usually?) is not welcome. Fair enough. However, in the fora, people specifically raise topics for discussion and seek advice or opinion. Sometimes the advice and opinion offered is worth challenging, or considering from another perspective. Ultimately, it is up to the recipient of said advice to decide whether they are prepared to consider... Pretending to be more smart, or less smart than you (anyone) are (is), may bear unintended consequences which unnecessarily creates problems (of varying complexity and/or significance) for self or others at some point. I realise it's widely considered terribly cliche, but I've come to think honesty usually is pretty good as a policy (if you're seeking to solve problems rather than create them).
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RHP User
8 years ago
@Ontology - I do agree with you wholly on what you said above. Sometimes I come across very forward and (perhaps selfishly cos I want to help, but some don't accept or ask for it) question people directly, but it's usually rhetorical. Some come back very defensive and I realise that I'm so used to my friends asking me what I think and asking me for advice, so it shocks me a bit, but when I gather my composure, I just apologise because I've said too much. I forget that these people don't know me on forums haha but it's ok, live and learn. I will never stop being myself and my intentions are always good even if misunderstood - that's not my issue. I like seeing things from another perspective. For example, being jealous of someone... why did they go and do that act and why do I feel this jealousy...? They don't mean to hurt me, but did they even know that they hurt me? Should I tell them or should I just be all bitter... are they just being themselves or do I see something else happening? When you look at your own jealousy right in the eye (so to speak) from a different perspective, it slowly melts away and sets you free because you understand why. Well that's how I see jealousy. It means something to me. Can't stop feelings but it's a signal and how you react is up to you. Some people will pretend not to acknowledge their own feelings. That to me isn't the best solution when you don't listen to your gut. But it takes a lot of guts to look inside yourself. So pretending to be less smart can often be easier than to fight. Keeping the peace? There are times when it's a matter of just keeping the peace than being the one in "control" or not :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think I see the intention and sense of your posts. Sadly, social interaction and communication is frequently open to misinterpretation. This particularly is the case with online comms due to the lack of facial expression and body language to support the words (even despite the recent proliferation of emojis!). I know many here have misunderstood, or misinterpreted some of my contributions to the fora. It does not particularly matter to me whether someone/anyone is intelligent or not, except in context of particular situations. Irrespective of one's level of intelligence, we each have worthwhile knowledge, skill and experience to contribute. Someone's actual level of intelligence is not always relevant or necessary to people getting along (though it might/sometimes does impact the enjoyment or others qualities of personal interaction). I'll be the first to admit I sometimes get a bit defensive. I've been through the wringer (and have offered multiple subsequent chances to try again - various contexts). Now my 'Spidey senses' tingle to even the most subtle signs someone might be trying to pull the wool over my eyes. Mixing the metaphors yet further (I may have missed a calling to football commentary): 'Once bitten, twice shy?' What about multiple venomous bites/strikes in rapid succession by multiple predators? It's something I'm still working on. Rather (or more) than simply fighting for my own sense control (or even any sense of pleasure or enjoyment from fighting), I personally take on battles to defend myself or to obtain justice for wrongs perpetrated by (particularly) liars, cheats and manipulators (but also against imposters, incompetents and other parasites. By these last terms, I mean the 'fake it 'til you make it' type f@ckers who enjoy status and prestige, and/or who exert control over others by selfish manipulation* of those who possess knowledge and skill the manipulator does not possess himself/herself). I've frequently witnessed and experienced situations where 'giving in for the sake of peace' has actually been the objective of manipulative people. For (just one of many) example(s): the feigning of ignorance, or lack of capacity being a deliberate strategy used by someone to manipulate others to perform their (the manipulator's) work for them. This is sheer rat cunning. It's not always easy to spot, and it can set a precedent that's very difficult to expose and reverse without potentially causing further problems for the person who's been manipulated. Another example of manipulation I am reluctant to cave in to, is that of people who are deliberately, but subtly 'difficult' to get their own way. These sort of people do so knowing most other people will give in to their crap 'for the sake of peace'. I despise that sort of behaviour because of the precedent it sets. I think that sort of manipulation has developed/evolved only a short way from that of a child's temper tantrum. When I was a boy, that sort of behaviour would get me a clip around the ear and a restriction of privileges! It absolutely shits me when adults stack on this kind of behaviour and are permitted to get away with it. * I refer specifically to the motivation behind behaviours I can't abide.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ontology - thanks for sharing and yes, as someone said in this thread previously, context is very important. The example you wrote above is very clear. On that topic, I would like to share something very personal. My brother (the biggest clown of the family) has always been popular and an extrovert. He had a great job in government until they brought in a manager to "clear out employees". My brother stepped in for other people as he knew employees were being treated unfairly. He thought he could find a loophole and sought the union. People backstabbed him and he got sat next to the supervisor even though he is quite senior. The toxic environment has lead him into depression because he could focus on nothing else but that unfairness in that toxic workplace. I have been so lucky not to have been caught up in any situations like that. But my eldest brother and I told him to GTFO! (In more sensitive ways of course, but writing it that way makes me smile a bit). When he was away from work he was himself again. One day he called my eldest bro that he was dreading work that day and wanting to kill himself... that hit me like a tonne of bricks. There was nothing I could say cos I'm too much sunshine for him to listen. I had to sit and hope that he'd listen to my eldest bro to go to his therapist and say he's unfit for work for 3 weeks and that's what he did. Thank GOD there is someone that he listens to. But now he realises that he has a wife and kids and they are all that matters in his life. Trying to save people when you are being attacked yourself is the worst thing you can possibly do. He is now grateful for the people that actually has his back. I watched an interview with Michelle Obama with Oprah and as such a woman of influence, she said she wish she could do more against gun violence. Sometimes you think you may be doing good, but you don't know if you're gonna do more harm, unintentionally. My point is there are times when you cannot save or teach these manipulators a lesson. That pattern is so deeply engrained and they can only help themselves if they want to be helped or taught. They will get what's coming to them. I believe there is a balance in life, a force greater than ourselves that restores order and balance. Let it do its thing. You manage yourself and your own thoughts and actions and don't worry, be angry or jealous of those people because focussing on that only does yourself harm. Letting go in life is a huuuuuugely underestimated form of power. If you want to take control of your life back, you must must must let go of that pain and forgive all the things that you have hate for. If Christianity is good for anything, that's one thing it has taught me. I prefer Buddhism, if I had to choose a religion. I leave toxic environments in a heartbeat if it's unsalvageable and just keep the friendships that are like diamonds. Toxic environments will eventually collapse and perhaps rebuild. I ain't sticking around for that. Life has many other things to experience and worry about. I don't make the rules therefore I go and find something else. Some things like family, you have to keep chipping away at their jadedness, step by step. Some things I will never give up on and I am relentless about it, like family. My father tried to get back into the family through me years later and all that he has done for me. He never treated me badly, but the thought of him ruining our family again made me cut off all contact. I was the connection. It was the hardest thing to do as I was his little princess growing up but at 20, it had to be done. My Mum almost crumbled after she secretly ran away 5yrs before. but I didn't witness him almost punching her in the face as I came home from school at 14 for nothing... I believe I came home at the right time - it made him miss her but he took that swing and miss to get the frustration out. He left her and her hair was a mess. She sat there so helpless. I was helpless... but it taught me. Many things taught me. I have forgiven him, but I don't forget. He recently contacted me through my cousins and I was extremely angry at her over text. She used to be my favourite cousin and I always told her that, but not anymore. As I said, people don't know how they hurt you. Anyway! So there you have it! Nothing in this outside world can get me! And even if it does, hopefully I will have done everything on my bucket list and touched some people's lives, even in the slightest :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Thanks for sharing such a personal insight and therefore sharing your strength so that someone else may get some of yours. It all helps. Annie. Have a good xmas.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I left school with 4 pass Grades ( UK, many moons ago ). Im not highly intelligent, and it kind of saddens me that a few of the gents on here are implying they dont like meeting with females who arent so. I can hold my own in a conversation, but I dont know much about whats going on in the world as I dont watch the news or read newspapers. I find it too depressing. However, I can talk. Especially on a first date if we click. The guys I were seeing off here were the ones I met and we chatted for ages on that first meet. We shared similar interests and so talked comfortably with each other. About things like music, nature, family, travelling....sex! Nothing very rocketsciency. Is that a word? When I met first my guy we had arranged to meet for a drink in the city at lunchtime. I left him at 7 30 that evening. We talked and laughed all afternoon. Ive appeared dumb sometimes because I tried to join in with a conversation I didnt really know much about. So now I dont bother. Ive never played dumb but I wouldnt try and appear super intelligent to win someone over either. We should just be ourselves and the people that matter to us will accept who we are xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
It is my pleasure :) These are bygones to me and if it makes anyone's life easier to learn from our mistakes/experiences, then I'm all for it. Thank you for your kind words too! With a world of so much info and little wisdom, people's stories and experiences are what makes words come to life. Hope you have a lovely break too and hope we all come back better than ever next year! - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
I'd consider myself fairly smart, and I enjoy the company of people who share similar interests and ideas to me. However, I far prefer spending time with people like yourself, who have genuine souls and high emotional IQs, than with people who have lots of letters after their names but don't care about how they make the people around th feel. Yours is my favourite kind of intelligence - and one that I hope I have too! xoxo
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
Oh, and "rocketsciency"? Trust me, it's totally a word. Trust me, I'm a professional with the words and stuff. ;-)
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter' Some communicate to draw attention to themselves. Some communicate to outcommunicate (to fight battles and win wars) And some to find the truth about the subject and satisfy curiosity.(Ms) I really love that!
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is more than one kind of intelligence ..IMO emotional and social intelligences far out rate the rocket sciencey kind. I would rather spend time with people who are aware in these ways than someone who just knows a lot of "stuff". Not that there is anything wrong with that,it is how it is conveyed. But I do love to learn new things,have elevated conversations ,and spend time with like minded people, Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Champagnesunsets' I left school with 4 pass Grades ( UK, many moons ago ). Im not highly intelligent, and it kind of saddens me that a few of the gents on here are implying they dont like meeting with females who arent so. don't be too impressed by rocket science it's just tedious :) I'd pay it as much mind as you would "I prefer redheads", "I prefer big tits only", "big cocks only" etc... particularly if it's sharper wit, it's just a thing you got or you didn't, like other features. I have plenty of friends from who wouldn't have attained any pass marks... unless you could pass simply by attendance. I don't think that it precludes meeting people, and liking them, but I know the sort of person I need for a long term relationship. I also think most people say intelligent or smart and mean it in a relative way, as in "they're smart enough I don't think they're dumb" - which is going to be very different between people. (Most people don't think they're dumb, but logic says we can't all be well above median) IMO it doesn't make sense to reduce it to an either-or situation as some have seemed to. Hanging with Sheldon Cooper (Big Bang Theory) might be annoying because of his complete lack of social skills, but similarly, so would hanging with the most EQ'd up person in the world if they can't also hold your interest. Same with the beautiful people - no doubt we've all encountered them, someone you just think "wow" in a good way, then hear them talk and think "wow" in a bad way. A one trick pony might be spectacular at first - but one trick gets boring quickly.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you and...ooh la la, nice photo! x
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
Thank you! I though red would be appropriate for the season. :-)
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scorleo
8 years ago
Seriously - intelligence is hot. My only disclaimer - and this applies for both men and women - pretending they know everything and not being open to different points of view is the worst... and is a sign of a lack of intelligence. So you end up with people who think they're smart but are actually just really opinionated and full of themselves; who go around saying "I have to pretend to be dumb and ask questions for men/women to find me attractive". They're not acting dumb to be attractive - they're acting interested in other people's point of view, and everyone likes that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've realised it's not intelligence, it's ego. Pretending to be more smart or less smart is balancing your ego. Everybody has an ego - it's a protection mechanism. I just googled it and my intuition appears to be correct. That balance between wanting to show off to hide something or be curious and get information. I think the best balanced stance is if you are confident in what you say and you say it to help others whether it's just a funny joke or something more serious. I don't think it actually has anything to do with intelligence (however you like to define it or yourself in relation to this term). Let's go a bit deeper into our human psychology shall we? Oooh, the epiphanies... - Posted from rhpmobile
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codsworth
8 years ago
flygirl i would suggest you find a better place to do your reading if it is telling you to act dumb to make men feel good also if your men cannot appreciate your mind, then id recommend you find some new ones a woman dumbing her self down in a effort to create sex appeal .... i cannot think of a more unattractive experience not to mention frustrating if your knowledge on a topic is advanced, that means we can talk about it on a higher level thats the exciting part about a conversation, the discovery of a persons thoughts on a expanded topic so why would we want to sit around explaining the basics if you already know the answers if you are smarter than me and have still selected me as a sexual partner well, thats its own ego boost isnt it
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RHP User
8 years ago
@Codsworth I don't believe you read my post properly or any of the other posts above...? It was a friend, not me. Intelligence comes in many forms, as a few others have mentioned above. It is something I feel when people get it and express/communicate it back to me. Whether it be a subtle hint, body language or paying attention. People who are observant, remember, listen, pay attention, willing to explore and/or test theories - learn faster. I'd much rather that than someone who is textbook smart. If the ego is stopping you from learning then, life may become stagnant. That scares me. Sometimes I love a bit of an acute learning curve to make me feel alive and shake me up. How do you learn? You ask questions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' About intelligence but there is something very lonely about realising that your partner is just simply not on the same page Q Love your insights. So true. Gets to be soul destroying. If you constantly change who you are to make someone else feel better you are living your life as a lie. I guess it could have payoffs materially but spiritually it would take its toll.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Intelligence is very sexy in a woman to me . All well and good looking like a model but if it's like talking to a brick wall it can be extremely painful. A woman should be allowed to show her grey matter!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing better than an articulate and educated woman. No a prerequisite but bloody hard to ignore. Good convo and interaction take the experience to another level.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No way!! I've done it for years. Years ago I played Marilyn Monroe and boy, could she dumb it down. The woman was a sharp as they come! I like to look the part of a dumb blonde but that's where it ends. I've attracted far too many lovers who were just not for me. These days, I'm me. To hell with manufacturing chemistry, anyone can bung it on, pretend to be something they're not - I want to be ravished because he finds me fucking irresistible. - Posted from rhpmobile
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