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Spelling and Grammar - a bit of class with your kink?
February 01 2020
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wildcrazyloving
5 years ago
I have a lover with multiple degrees, he uses text message abbreviations and incomplete sentences and could be labeled as uncultured had one only encountered online interaction. The art of seduction can start with words, though is that ever enough to satisfy?
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LadyAndTheFox
5 years ago
Loving the different points of view 👌🏻 If the headline read “A bit of effort with your kink?”,would there be less cause for outcry? It was, after all, a mere nod to some alliteration in a post about spelling and grammar. My point still stands though; a well thought out message (with some attention paid to spellcheck) is going to win out over “do yous wana fuk?” any day of the week. End of story 🤷🏼♀️ Ps - www.grammarly.com
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aroania
5 years ago
Without trying to sound like a Gramma nazi. The author made several grammatical errors in their opening message. That is just unacceptable. How could you live with yourself? On a serious note. Is it better to be a decent person or a snob? I would rather be with a nice person and not a judgemental so and so.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
Well said, my sediments exactly. Much better to be a non judgemental nice person any day of the week.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
Sentiments .. not Sediments... grrrrr
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's hot when someone has a real way with words...
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RHP User
5 years ago
Not everyone can spell and some of the greatest people I know have no education. Sure, it doesn't help if every second word is wrong, but you cant judge a book by its cover. Try and get a sit down ASAP R & K
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Lady_Fox' Loving the different points of view 👌🏻 If the headline read “A bit of effort with your kink?”,would there be less cause for outcry? It was, after all, a mere nod to some alliteration in a post about spelling and grammar. My point still stands though; a well thought out message (with some attention paid to spellcheck) is going to win out over “do yous wana fuk?” any day of the week. End of story 🤷🏼♀️ Ps - www.grammarly.com It's an app, not the real person though and I'd prefer to see the reality of them, not something they think I want to see... Something you might not know because I'm not sure how long you've been here but the topic of spelling and grammar always touches a sore point! It's not always something that under everyone's control and if I was them I'd be questioning anyone who I felt didn't have an understanding of the way I am. My outlook after a long time here is that some of the most interesting and loved people here aren't/weren't on the ball with their spelling and grammar, it is/was their imagination and personality that's the key. So, no I really still don't think spelling and grammar mean much that suits me. Peachy
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RHP User
5 years ago
I wondered how you felt about Villifies?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Well, english is not my first language, thus my spelling and grammar is not perfect. If you want to judge my intelligence and sexy based on that, feel free, however i speak 4 different languages fluently, and you? 😉
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RHP User
5 years ago
To be perfectly honest...I’m no angel with exquisite grammar... But I know of a particular young person that I talk to, and I have a lot of admiration for as well that used the word “witch” instead of “which.” When I corrected said young person, their reply was that I had read it wrong...not that they used the wrong word.... If it’s such an issue that we should ignore it, and get over it, and I’m happy to do so, what is the purpose of sending our kids to school?? As I’ve said prior in this thread, nobody expects there to be prestine and flawless composition, but to disregard it entirely has a far deeper reach in my view. Mr Dragon
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's certainly not a deal breaker for me, nobody's perfect....although I am very attracted to a man who can string a sentence together and turn me on with the written word.
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Forus1234
5 years ago
It’s pretty evident who the school teachers are on the site! 😂😂. If we were to knock back people on this site for a few spelling/grammar errors, we would have missed out on some amazing times with some sexy beautiful people! Don’t always judge a book by its’ cover! Where a person has a weakness in one area, they usually are gifted in another area & have high intellect!
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Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
Does not make someone judgemental.
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RHP User
5 years ago
But I'm not into txt msg speak when it's not required. I'm easy with mistakes and the like, just hate deliberate laziness or hard to read sentences where I'm having to guess what the person really means. No one in this world is perfect at everything. You can't always judge a book by it's cover, I think we just fall foul to the first impressions thing a lot when the first introductions here are usually always in written language. I'm not a grammar nazi, but I do try to use correct grammar/spelling. But just for some light hearted fun... "I want to" Jimmy said, his friend repeated the same thing too. The two of them kept repeating each other all night. I love that they're all standing there at the moment. Their presence together is great. I gave them all a piece of cake. Not because I felt generous, but because I wanted to keep the peace. Dessert anyone? I know it feels like the desert here with the heat, I'm sure this will help.
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RHP User
5 years ago
How many re-read their post 100 times on this thread before pressing the "post your commment" button checking for their own mistakes...
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Freaky_Fun
5 years ago
Exactly Koko. Apparently you can put over 6ft, under 35 or at least 8 inches and no one bats an eyelid. And I'm pretty sure those things are out of peoples control as well. I'm more than happy to miss out on meeting anyone that thinks youse, u, yous or you's are in the dictionary. That's my preference exactly like people prefer certain body types, hair colour or whether to have safe sex. I. don't. care. thats your preference 🤦♀️ Again nothing to do with disabilities, medical conditions, your first language or any of the above that gets your knickers in a knot.
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bifunmelbcpl
5 years ago
I think the original poster was just saying they find good spelling and grammar part of what they find attractive. I don't think they were judging anybody, just opening a conversation. We all have things that do and don't work for us. Vive la difference.
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ThingsnStuff
5 years ago
Mr here I for one am not to fussed on grammar nor spelling for the matter though frankly I can generally tell if people have made and effort. I am nor one for txt me l8ter or gd to fk or atleast like to understand what I am reading My self I only have a early 2nd form education though I fell that it is never to late to learn
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aroania
5 years ago
Wow Einstein was dyslexic. Don't judge a book by its cover.
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Threescompany02
5 years ago
If you use text speak with us, its a no reply instantly, make an effort, surely its not that difficult??
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'aroania' Wow Einstein was dyslexic. Don't judge a book by its cover.Your profile states you're looking for someone 'preferably full of curves'.You know ,you could be missing out on meeting some wonderful women by putting that in there.How dare you judge those curve-less women who can't help their body shape!
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Sawadee
5 years ago
.. my preference is to open my mind to anyone l find interesting . If ' like myself , their education level is not as advanced as some , my preference is to listen to what they have to say ' because who knows ? they might just surprise you with thier level of intelligence..
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aroania
5 years ago
Sticks are great too. We could start a fire.
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Forus1234
5 years ago
How many people pick up from parties & clubs without a RHP profile in front of them? We’re not talking about people that have conversed prior to a party organised to meet at a party, a random hook up? Having a giggle, just visualising whereby people meet at a party & eventually they find each other on the site & shock horror their profile isn’t up to standard 😂. The truth here & the point we make is, very rarely do people sound the same as their RHP profile is written in real life, sometimes people write & sound the same where they have an their accent, we love this!
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Summertime88
5 years ago
I love people that are able to articulate properly. Not a deal breaker by any means, but I do love extremely intelligent women. It’s definitely a turn on for me and if they’re dominant... even better 😊
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'aroania' Sticks are great too. Your hypocrisy is showing big time. I don't really think you have any moral ground to tell others off for being judgmental when you're calling women sticks Speaking more generally to the flak that the OP has copped from some on this topic...I think this also illustrates a salient point. The fact is, we all judge others and make decisions on whether we want to interact with them based on things we do and don't find attractive about them. People who say they don't judge people at all are basically saying that they would be happy to fuck anyone and everyone, and I find that very hard to believe. Another point. There is a very big difference between having preferences when it comes to the people you shag and what you consider sexy, versus basing your entire judgment of the worth of a person based on characteristics like education level, ethnicity, writing skills, disabilities etc. The OP posted a topic about something they find attractive and sexy. I did not see them make any judgments about people's entire worth as a human being being decreased by a lack of grammar / spelling skills.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Haha I call bull shit. Spelling is a little thing, have you seen that piece where the words are all miss spelt but the reader can still work it out. Its just a bunch of rules anyhow. I speak a couple of languages and some times want to use a word from the other language as it is a better fit. But ffs ppl would not understand. Language for me is communication and thats the important bit. Being lazy or slack is no an excuse though. I am aware that there are a lot of dick takers who get upset by poor grammer, All i can say is fuck only those that can spell in a given language? Why would you select the population that way. Do youselves a favour and get over it. Your only putting stupid limits on who you can meet.
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aroania
5 years ago
Asdaja, I think you may have to consider getting a life. Lighten up sweetheart.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Doesn't take much for the true colours to show. You self-proclaimed 'nice guys' are hilarious (and so predictable)
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
Azdaja has just summed up beautifully the gulf between preferences and judgment if you ask me. The OP was talking about a preference, maybe even leaning towards being sapiosexual, others have been rather judgmental, bordering on being downright nasty 🤷♂️
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'topgun121' Do youselves a favour and get over it. Your only putting stupid limits on who you can meet. Thing is, it's completely the OP's choice what limits they are putting on who they meet. What you are doing is verging on bullying...telling people to 'get over' their preferences and that they should conform to your standards otherwise they are stupid. Pretty sure if someone told you the same thing with respect to preference/s you have, you'd be telling them where to go and rightly so. It's so interesting with certain topics, that people who claim to be so non-judgmental will very happily judge and be incredibly rude to others who don't share their views / likes / dislikes. The hypocrisy seems completely lost on them. I knew this topic would generate some controversy but the vitriol I've read towards the OP in some responses is pretty disgusting
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naughty_natured
5 years ago
dunno how no wun carnt do it rite
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naughty_natured
5 years ago
dunno how no wun carnt do it rite
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Sawadee
5 years ago
It's a forum for God sake and people will always have a different points of view ? By continually defending the OP's reasons for posting what she did shows you are no different to anyone else . You are stating your point of view just like everyone else. So it depends on the individuals personal opinion to which foot is in which camp ? One thing i noticed in this post ' is that whenever someone comes across as stating thier superior knowledge , theres always someone here willing to let you know your not ? That's human nature and always will be..
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RHP User
5 years ago
@naughty_natured ✨😂😂✨
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threes_allowed
5 years ago
I find it hard to fathom, how many nasty responses have been posted to this very reasonable conversation starter. Is it ok to have a ’leaning’ towards kinks such as short, big, black, bi, water sports, b and d etc etc.. but it’s problematic to be attracted to eloquence? What’s the difference? I do prefer well spoken, eloquent individuals as well... why should anyone apologize to anyone for this or any other preference... Surely by being on this site, we reserve the right to, and should be unapologetic about trying to connect with those we are attracted to? I guess I would also add, that people reading profiles-myself included- do make assumptions on the individual based on what and how the profile is written.. these assumptions may turn out to be incorrect... but we all have to ‘filter’ the results in a manageable and practical way.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
By claiming eloquence ' is the real intention here to stand out from the rest of the crowd ? Seems the obvious . Reeks of ' look at me ' at least that's the way it comes across..
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RHP User
5 years ago
Isn’t that why we’re here ffs ? Everyone one does it differently, that’s the beauty of it, some use a sniper rifle some use a shotgun. So what.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I couldn’t agree more with Azdaja...and I agree with the spicy one regarding her articulation between preference and judgement. Mr dragon
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Sawadee
5 years ago
Sniper rifle or shotgun ? Fair dinkum '? Maybe you just had'nt noticed ' but not everyone on rhp needs to climb over others to get noticed ? thats what ?
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
Agree 100% Okey! I'm as guilty as the next guy of making mistakes, so I try not to judge... when you need to override spellcheck to ask "how yous going" 🤦♂️ Just make a decent effort and we're happy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Being in the world of Communications and speech writing means a m a total grammar nerd. However - I’ll give people the vendor of the doubt - for about 3 messages. When someone tells me twice they are all about ‘virginal stimulation’ I will have to correct them. I haven’t been a virgin for 40 yrs so best I let them know....
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RHP User
5 years ago
So I hope u all saw what autocorrect can do to any of us. If u don’t ‘proof’ yr message before u hit send - u end up with some crazy words.... and we all know - duck never means 🦆 😂
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RavishingDiva
5 years ago
I understand some may have difficulties in this area due to learning difficulties, it is however a part of what attracts me to a person. The ability to string a sentence together whether in written text or verbally is a first step. Poor spelling just makes my eye twitch. If this is a kink then so be it, let it be mine.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
If you understand some people have learning difficulties , why does it still bother you ? The day we accept that not all are born with equal learning abilities ' is the day you will lose that twitch..
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RHP User
5 years ago
Some people are born with physical disabilities too, we don’t have to like being around them just because it happens, it’s perfectly ok not to want to be around them if it makes you uncomfortable. This whole notion that we’re somehow obliged to accept people for who they are is quite ridiculous. You don’t have to accept it at all, it’s ok not to like it, just don’t be a jerk to people because of it. Avoid them instead of it bothers you that much. Except if their disability is something like psychopathy and they destroy lives, then I guess it’s ok to be mean back, lol. I think most people are just lazy when it comes to grammar though, they know better but just can’t be bothered. If they can’t be bothered putting a little bit of an effort into something as important and communicating with others why would you bother with them? I wouldn’t... Ms Phoenix. (Like most on here I’m not talking about the odd autocorrect stuff up, that happens to everyone at some point)
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hmmmm I absolutely accept people for who they are, how can I not ? Doesn’t mean I have to like them though. But a bit of understanding and compassion goes a long way.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don’t accept all people as they are and I highly doubt that anyone truly does. Some people I don’t accept at all and will refuse to be around (but only in extreme cases where the person is actually a bad person). Understanding and compassion does go a long way, so does good grammar 😂 I’m ok with scrolling on past though, I just don’t think anybody is obliged to overlook it or should be made to feel bad because they find bad English to be a turn off. There’s people here making out like we should just overlook it, regardless of whether it’s laziness or a disability, I think that’s bullshit. Maybe you don’t want someone who’s lazy or has a disability, as far as I’m concerned that’s ok as long as you’re not unnecessarily mean to them just because they’re not what you want. Ms Phoenix.
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non_such
5 years ago
accept them for how they are, or how they present themselves to be? People online seldom show their real selves. What we see here is often a sanitised version of themselves or an outright fiction; a persona for public consumption. Only when they drop their masks can we see their authentic self, as fully and messily human, and maybe accept them for who they are.
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RHP User
5 years ago
If you're going to be a grammar natzi, then this is defs not the forum for it. It you require a fluff instead of a muff piece, there are services for it.like there are services for everything else. HAPPY V Day, and live a little on the edge⚘⚘⚘⚘🎭♥♥♥
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Sawadee
5 years ago
The normal everyday person you meet are good people and I accept them for that. Not all of those will be Rhode scholars but alot will have fantastic personalities the Rhode scholars were denied ? No one accepts murderers , pedophiles , scumbags etc as everyday good people which goes without saying, so there are exceptions. Then theres your white and blue collar workers who are almost as bad as the rest of the crooks.. So in that case, we are not all equal.. But on the whole , most are genuine honest hard working people who may struggle with stringing a few words together ( dont you just hate that line )..
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indothomas1
5 years ago
Quoting 'RHP71' It usually bothers me but I’m just here for the sex! I love that. Most things are only as complicated or important as we are prepare to make them, Including gramma. For myself, I am in the peculiar position of being able to produce incorrect gramma in three languages - master of none, it would appear :-)
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VelvtSledgehammr
5 years ago
Allegedly, I am a spelling & grammar Nazi 🤪
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cat_n_the_hatter
5 years ago
Quoting 'aroania' Wow Einstein was dyslexic. Don't judge a book by its cover. Where do some people get their information? Einstein was dyslexic? You can’t know for sure if someone has a learning difference without an evaluation. Einstein was never diagnosed with dyslexia. Why some think that he was dyslexic? Because he was bad at math and language? He was never bad at it, he was just not brilliant at it…unlike his first wife. (Ms)
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Sawadee
5 years ago
Quote : Einstein was never diagnosed with dyslexia ? May I ask where you scource this information ... ?
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
Have a read of dyslexia.learninginfo.org and have a read on the Einstein bit, it appears to back the theory that he wasn't dyslexic.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
Search.... helenarkell.org.uk or/ and www.dyslexia.com all achive .. Scroll down the page to find ' Famous people who were dyslexic ? Clearly states Einstein was indeed dyslexic .. ?
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
I'm not sure on the argument, it's really a bit pointless and subjective if the guy was never tested. If you look at the so called 37 traits of dyslexia that's thrown around, I'll ping on 22 of them on an off day. They say if you have more than 10 you're probably dyslexic, which I'm not. You need proper psychological testing for a diagnosis, not subjecture. From what I've read professionals will argue it either way with Einstein, it just depends on whether it helps sell a book or not.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
On what you want to believe . You can find fault in anything if thats what you want..
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
More a difference of opinion than fault. It's the good thing about a forum, you can have a civil conversation and share different points of view. I love reading up on stuff like this, it's absolutely fascinating how people interpret the same problem in a completely different way. I was reading up on trait theory after a few things that non_such mentioned in another thread, it was really insightful. You're never to old to learn new things, keeps the mind active so to speak. The Romans were definitely on to something.... or you end up with communism, or a dictatorship
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RavishingDiva
5 years ago
Sawadee I think I’ve touched a nerve with you It is something that attracts me to a person and spelling and grammar are important to me so my eye does twitch when I see an error. Whether it be in a text, a forum reply or on a menu in a restaurant. You are saying I should be tolerant when you yourself are showing an intolerance for something I find attractive about a person. Double standards methinks!
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Sawadee
5 years ago
I say potato... not potatoe 😁 , so no ' no nerve damaged ' AND no twitch ? takes more than a few misspelt words for me to lose it.. lol... 😃 Cheers ...
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RHP User
5 years ago
Profiles provide little real information about the personality and other traits of the person behind the profile. We cannot hear the person speak, see how they move, get a real time impression of their appearance etc. Profiles are edited to present the side of ourselves that we consider most likely to appeal to those to whom we wish to appeal. With the little information available, how people write is often the only unintended insight we get into them. Yet, our inferences can be flawed as errors in writing or grammar can be due to inattention, dyslexia, English as a second language or bad eyesight. I do prefer well written profiles but it is the content of what is written that is more important. My favourite line in any profile I saw was 'I am an insect podiatrist in my spare time'. The irreverence and humour in the context of a dating site still make me laugh when I recall it.
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zzzyyyxxx
5 years ago
No issue, more interested in what they are saying than how they say it :)
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RavishingDiva
5 years ago
Dinning is now Dining since this topic in the forum. Coincidence?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Agree, but wish to add that spelling and punctuation are more than just a matter of "class": its about communicating effectively (why else would the English language evolve with punctuation?) I estimate that half of my failed arrangements to "rendezvous" are due to misunderstandings arising from SMS-type messaging. The most common example is asking a question but omitting the question mark.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I guess it depends on what you are looking for. I guess some don't actually care about getting a "feel" for the person that is contacting you or vice versa.... For me, I like to read peoples profiles and if it resonates in some way and I like the visual (clearly I'm not that deep) then I will send a message. I think it's important to make an effort in writing something in response that also indicates a little about who I am and what I'm looking for. It's not difficult to use spell checker if you are not comfortable with your ability to spell. And lets be honest, if you cant be bothered to put the effort in when sending a message to introduce yourself, then you are probably going to be fairly self focused if you actually meet... But hey, just my opinion!
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cat_n_the_hatter
5 years ago
Sorry for the late reply. All I can say is that diagnosis is the hardest and the most demanding part of any medical evaluation. Just as the Spicy has said, few symptoms are never enough to establish the right diagnosis especially when many disorders overlap. Mistakes can be detrimental for the individual. APA changes from time to time too, so someone can be diagnosed with one disorder only to be diagnosed with the other few years later as technology and our understanding improves. Secondly, Einstein never underwent any diagnostic evaluation and even if he did he would not be diagnosed with such then nor today. Nowadays we classify Dyslexia as disorder that affects mostly reading not language deficit per se. But that is not an issue here. One late autumn night, two of our friends (both scientists) debated in our dining room (over few glasses of red wine). The discussion was about whether Einstein alone ever came up with the Theory of Relativity and one was adamant that Einstein’s first wife, who was a brilliant mathematician and a physicist herself, helped him. The article Einstein and his wife first wrote mysteriously disappeared and he (his own admission) wrote the article again and published it by his name alone. For that he received the Nobel Price. Few years later he fled to safety with his second wife while leaving his first wife and children in Europe just before the WWII. Interesting thing (friends agreed) after that theory, early in his professional life, he never “invented” anything else. As my other friend noted “he entertained” Later I wanted to find more about this mysterious woman, however, without much success. Don’t even remember her name. I was reluctant to consult Dr Google and did not have much time to read more serious articles on this issue (if there are any). In any case I would rather have trust in my friends even when their judgement is compromised due to red wine. But why am I saying all this? Whether you are dyslexic or gifted with words it is not words that define you as a human being. It is your actions that matter. If self-confidence is “I can” and self-esteem is “I am”, then pride is “I did”. To feel proud is to take pleasure from the goodness of our past actions and achievements. (Ms)
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RHP User
5 years ago
As a man that considers intelligence as a key ingredient in the the overall sex appeal of an individual, cutting some slack to those that are not as skilled in English is a great call. Intelligence is, I think, measured by only 1/4 of the criteria it should be.
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cat_n_the_hatter
5 years ago
Eternally sorry to Mr A. Maslow “. If self-confidence is “I can…” That’s what happens when writing replies late at night.(Ms)
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Sawadee
5 years ago
.. that some people appear to know so much about what Einstein did and didn't do ' including the status of his dyslexia. Depending on which side of the historian fence your on' he either was or wasnt dyslexic.. You would swear there are those who know so much ' must of been a fly on the wall in Einstiens office ? 😏
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
No one's claiming Einstein wasn't the greatest physicist of the last century, the query is more about how much input Melina had into his work. As Churchill famously said, "history is written by the victors." E=mc2 leads to the development of the atomic bomb through tube alloys and the Manhattan project and subsequently the end of WW2. History was very much on the side of Einstein. Luckily for the west most of the leading physicists in the world were Jewish and banished from the German universities and found work in British and Canadian institutions before seeking better paying jobs in the states. The theories of Einstein's dyslexia come from evaluating biographies and second hand information, not actual psychological evidence. It comes from one side of history and that can have an interesting bias at times.
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
Clumsy fingers hit send... Some of the most intelligent people I've ever met have been in trades. A lot had the education system fail them, but they then excelled in technical fields. Hopefully that wouldn't be the case today, but I'm not sure I hold a lot of faith there. Emotional intelligence is something that's completely forgotten at times and it's probably the first thing I'll look for in someone. I have a relative that completely lacks it... he's off the charts intelligence wise, but is a complete narcissist and misogynist, although completely undiagnosed! He has the ability to completely charm the pants off you as long as everything is on his terms. You wouldn't get a glimpse of his real character until you were in really deep. At times we completely miss the attributes that make a decent human being that we'd love to spend time with🤷♂️ Empathy, compassion and just being a decent human anytime! Sorry for the rant, but hopefully you get the gist 😊
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
Bloody autocorrect.... Meliva
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RHP User
5 years ago
I fink it’s not problem Didn’t even notice any spella or gramma errors Really !
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rupamohan
5 years ago
Firstly we are here for sex, more interested in hot bodies. Yes as we are getting old we are using intelligence to cover for ageing... Secondly intelligence has many dimensions, we are not limited to find this out with grammar and spelling check. If we can understand you, it means at least one side is intelligent enough for the purpose of communication. lastly even if we are so dumb that we only know one way to judge intelligence. We still can't judge it that way, when the native language of member is not English.
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Dan6177
5 years ago
There are so many judgemental keyboard warriors on here. I'm a person that has dyslexia and stringing a sentence together can be very hard especially if people want to use the correct grammar and spelling This is why when I chat to people my message are short and sweet. Talking to someone you learn more about them. Where some people can be casasnovas with the pen or keyboard EG. telling all the bulshit under the sun that you want to hear. You'll find that people that use text talk & emojis are very smart an intellectual as I found out. you'll find that people with learning difficulties don't like to use Emojis and text talk because it's hard enough just to string a sentence together with outputting all the bulshit that goes with it.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Judgmental keyboard warriors? Because people have preferences they’re judgemental keyboard warriors? Get real! Sorry you have a disability but you pieced that long response together just fine, stop getting all offended over nothing, people have clearly stated that it’s the ones who put in no effort that are easily identifiable and selectively ignored. There’s nothing wrong with that at all and how bloody dare anyone try to make someone feel bad for it?!? Sure it might take a little more effort, it takes a little more effort for me not not be fat too but do you see me here telling people they’re rude if they don’t like chubby chicks because I have a slow metabolism and that’s not fair? Seriously! Ms Phoenix.
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Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
I dont think the OP mentioned dyslexia or learning disabilities, just people not making an effort. We are here to meet people so, for me, a well written message stands out. Nothing wrong with that, just as other people are quite happy with " HRU, DTF?" messages, each to their own.
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RHP User
5 years ago
"Spelling and Grammar - a bit of class with your kink?" Totally implies a lack of class if spelling and grammar aren't perfect. If I'm going to be a pedant... The grammar in the OP isn't perfect. Why the capital for profile? I repeat yet again that fav posters in the forum over time have not been at all perfect in their spelling and grammar and they were well loved. People say online interactions mean nothing but we gotta spell and write proper or be judged not good enough for someone's preferences. 😂 She'll be right, mate. I'm an Aussie and our vernacular (slang) is pretty relaxed so I feel comfy judging people who seem to be out of my class because of their outlook. 😊 Peachy xo
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RHP User
5 years ago
Can someone explain calculus to me ? 🧐🧐🧐
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RHP User
5 years ago
So what, Peachy, we should all leave our judgment at the door and just come in here and fuck everyone and everyTHING just because it’s rude to judge them and decide we don’t like something about them or it’s not up to our standards? Sounds pretty bloody ridiculous when you look at it like that, doesn’t it? Yet that’s what people here are trying to do, they’re trying to say we shouldn’t judge. Well I say FUCK THAT! I have standards and I don’t give a shit who thinks I shouldn’t. Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
5 years ago
P.S. I’m sure my potty mouth is a big turn off for a lot of people too and you know what? I’m ok with that too, if I wasn’t I’d put more effort into swearing less 🤷🏼♀️ Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'I dont think the OP mentioned dyslexia or learning disabilities, just people not making an effort. We are here to meet people so, for me, a well written message stands out. Nothing wrong with that, just as other people are quite happy with " HRU, DTF?" messages, each to their own. I didn't see your post when I posted Koko, but for me it's all in the heading. If the OP was inclined they have the chance to consider the constructive criticism that has been offered that not being able to spell or use grammar does not imply a lack of class at all or a person you might not like to fuck... And add to that, being able to spell and use grammar does not actually imply any class at all. Peachy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Dragon_Phoenix' So what, Peachy, we should all leave our judgment at the door and just come in here and fuck everyone and everyTHING just because it’s rude to judge them and decide we don’t like something about them or it’s not up to our standards? Sounds pretty bloody ridiculous when you look at it like that, doesn’t it? Yet that’s what people here are trying to do, they’re trying to say we shouldn’t judge. Well I say FUCK THAT! I have standards and I don’t give a shit who thinks I shouldn’t. Ms Phoenix.Quoting 'Dragon_Phoenix' P.S. I’m sure my potty mouth is a big turn off for a lot of people too and you know what? I’m ok with that too, if I wasn’t I’d put more effort into swearing less 🤷🏼♀️ Ms Phoenix. I can swear like a proper cunt too. Boo! I just have enough class to adapt my language most of the time because I am am a considerate mole. Thought I'd drag an oldie out of storage with that one. I felt like bitch didn't have enough punch to follow up my beginning. I think you've read far too much into my meaning considering the excessive reply. You wanna shock me with your ability to swear just because you know I've judged people who do so as coming across as inconsiderate because of the way they force it on others and expect them to suck it up to me in the past, meh. I still think you're OK as a person but will file it away. If people want to be judgemental, I can live with it, I'm no saint But don't tell me it's roses I'm smelling because while manure may make the plant grow well, it's the rose scent we're after in the end. I haven't said anything about SHOULD but have debated points other people have made including the OP in defence of their conclusion that people who can't string a few perfect words together with the best of us have no class. Pfft. Cheers, I guess it's a lot to me like judging a book by it's cover which you don't abide by either. Peachy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Do excuse me if I got a bit carried away there and read too much into your post myself. I did enjoy writing it though! Peachy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Peachy, it’s all good, lol. I actually didn’t know you’ve judged people for swearing before but that’s ok too, it doesn’t bother me that you think you have more class than me because you don’t type out the words, as I said if I wanted to be judged differently I’d put more effort in to omitting them 🤷🏼♀️ I’m not sure what you mean with the roses & manure comment as it doesn’t seem relevant, I wasn’t trying to say anything smelt like roses..? Same goes for the comment about me not judging books by the cover. I absolutely do judge books AND people by their covers, sometimes I get to know them and that judgment changes but other times I avoid them completely because their cover is so bad, lol. On the flip side of that, sometimes they have an awesome cover but the content is shit, judgements aren’t always correct but I believe they play a very important role in all of our dealings with people and situations. Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Dragon_Phoenix' Peachy, it’s all good, lol. I actually didn’t know you’ve judged people for swearing before but that’s ok too, it doesn’t bother me that you think you have more class than me because you don’t type out the words, as I said if I wanted to be judged differently I’d put more effort in to omitting them 🤷🏼♀️ I’m not sure what you mean with the roses & manure comment as it doesn’t seem relevant, I wasn’t trying to say anything smelt like roses..? Same goes for the comment about me not judging books by the cover. I absolutely do judge books AND people by their covers, sometimes I get to know them and that judgment changes but other times I avoid them completely because their cover is so bad, lol. On the flip side of that, sometimes they have an awesome cover but the content is shit, judgements aren’t always correct but I believe they play a very important role in all of our dealings with people and situations. Ms Phoenix. Haha, I did realise about the swearing thing after I posted and that's why my last post. But it wasn't about the swearing in itself, though some might feel I'm splitting hairs there. My manure and roses is about the judgement vs preference that has been the topic of many posts on the thread that all my posts have largely been based on. I am not arguing anyone's right to have a judgement just don't try to tell me it's not one when it is is. Judging a book by it's cover, some/many of the best spoken/written people are proper cunts able to manipulate with their sweet rhetoric. So for me, this topic the way it is written does not resonate at all and I feel very strongly about the need by so many to say there ain't any judgement going on here. Personally, I like a lot of what you've had to say in the forums. No sugar coating going on there. Peachy,
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Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
I meant the people who got defensive with the OP regarding dyslexia, learning disabilities and having another language, which was never meant. (Good thing you can understand my Scottish tone, I sometimes have to talk very slowly when Im out! :) )
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RHP User
5 years ago
Nothing irritates me more than grammar nazi’s getting off on people’s spelling to inflate their egos. It’s quiet shallow and speaks volumes of their personality. Two of the smartest woman I know are both dyslexic. Can’t spell to save their lives. So going by your metric of intelligence and class they would fail. How wrong could you be to. You’ll be amazed at what you may find if you weren’t so quick to judge and dismiss!
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
I think people are taking a lot of this thread completely out of context. We've often found that the person/couple at the end of the profile is greater than the parts that make it up.... I know, shockingly plagiarised, but hopefully you get my point! Not everyone takes a good profile pic Some put varying degrees of effort into profile descriptions Others send "hey, what's up messages" Hopefully on here if you're lacking in one area, you make up for it elsewhere. As has been mentioned a few times, it's about effective communication. Everyone has a different communication style and some don't care for one of the above, but you still need to find a way to cut through to the people you're looking for. Some on here are looking for a well written message, if that's not you they probably wouldn't have clicked with you anyway. On to the next one that does, and there'll be many that fit and completely rock your world 😊
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cat_n_the_hatter
5 years ago
Nicely said Spicy. We all have preferences and no one should be ashamed of just having them... or how strict they are in choosing with whom they wish to spend their time. However, one thing may become so important that it overshadows all the other qualities that an individual may possess. Perfect features, perfect bodies, no demands. Many men and women wanted those yet complained about others' preferences. Yes, effort matters but no amount of good looks or great effort can make a deceitful person shine. (Ms)
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RHP User
5 years ago
Peachy.. Ahh yes, I get the bit about roses and manure now, though I think it important to note that I personally never tried to cover up the fact that I’m judgmental, in fact I’m openly defending the necessity to be so. As for the well spoken/written fraudsters out there, they’re often identifiable by their use of certain phrases and language too and avoided by me even more so than those with poor grammar skills or a lack of substance to their words. To me this is no different to any other preference and I don’t think it’s fair for people to be judged so harshly for something that at the end of the day is just a pet peeve. I’ll go to fucking war over people not using their indicators at a roundabout though, now THERE’S a bunch of arseholes I REALLY want to abuse!! 😂😂 Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Sorry about the delayed reply, I got caught up elsewhere. :-) Bit annoyed I started replies and lost them when I turned the PC off. Koko. I know what you meant and I did say a similar thing in an earlier post on the thread about intent. I support fully the OP's right to discriminate. Personally, over time my preference is to meet people because the online shtick goes nowhere near enough to getting to 'know' a person. Ms Phoenix, . I absolutely agree you are open open your ability to be judgemental, and me too. Fraudsters might be easy some, but not for all. Judgement vs Preference is an interesting google... Which I did last night just before my brain decided it was done for the day and then... turned the PC off and the rest is history! It's an interesting insight if we choose take the risk though. I think we agree on this? "To me this is no different to any other preference and I don’t think it’s fair for people to be judged so harshly for something that at the end of the day is just a pet peeve." Roundabouts, new during my time driving and love them for the chance to keep traffic flowing except when people have no idea how to use them. My favourite is still the driver who assumed they could breeze through from our left even though it is something of a blind corner... and then the, "What did I do wrong?!?". Drive safe people, and don't assume. Peachy
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RHP User
5 years ago
with no intent to railroad the topic but with the intent of exploring judgemental/perceiving personalities? I remember scoring high in judgemental. No sin against it. Peachy This fourth preference pair describes how you like to live your outer life--what are the behaviors others tend to see? Do you prefer a more structured and decided lifestyle (Judging) or a more flexible and adaptable lifestyle (Perceiving)? This preference may also be thought of as your orientation to the outer world. Everyone extraverts some of the time. This pair describes whether you extravert (act in the outer world) when you are making decisions or when you are taking in information. Some people interact with the outside world when they are taking in information. Whether they use the Sensing preference or the Intuitive preference, they are still interacting in the outside world. Other people do their interacting when they are making decisions. It doesn't matter whether they are using a Thinking preference or a Feeling preference; they are still interacting in the outside world. Everyone takes in information some of the time. Everyone makes decisions some of the time. However, when it comes to dealing with the outer world, people who tend to focus on making decisions have a preference for Judging because they tend to like things decided. People who tend to focus on taking in information prefer Perceiving because they stay open to a final decision in order to get more information. Sometimes people feel they have both. That is true. The J or P preference only tells which preference the person extraverts. One person may feel very orderly/structured (J) on the inside, yet their outer life looks spontaneous and adaptable (P). Another person may feel very curious and open-ended (P) in their inner world, yet their outer life looks more structured or decided (J). Don't confuse Judging and Perceiving with a person's level of organization. Either preference can be organized. Take a minute to ask yourself which of the following descriptions seems more natural, effortless, and comfortable for you? Judging (J)I use my decision-making (Judging) preference (whether it is Thinking or Feeling) in my outer life. To others, I seem to prefer a planned or orderly way of life, like to have things settled and organized, feel more comfortable when decisions are made, and like to bring life under control as much as possible. Since this pair only describes what I prefer in the outer world, I may, inside, feel flexible and open to new information (which I am). Do not confuse Judging with judgmental, in its negative sense about people and events. They are not related. The following statements generally apply to me: I like to have things decided.I appear to be task oriented.I like to make lists of things to do.I like to get my work done before playing.I plan work to avoid rushing just before a deadline.Sometimes I focus so much on the goal that I miss new information. Perceiving (P)I use my perceiving function (whether it is Sensing or Intuition) in my outer life. To others, I seem to prefer a flexible and spontaneous way of life, and I like to understand and adapt to the world rather than organize it. Others see me staying open to new experiences and information. Since this pair only describes what I prefer in the outer world, inside I may feel very planful or decisive (which I am). Remember, in type language perceiving means "preferring to take in information." It does not mean being "perceptive" in the sense of having quick and accurate perceptions about people and events. The following statements generally apply to me: I like to stay open to respond to whatever happens.I appear to be loose and casual. I like to keep plans to a minimum.I like to approach work as play or mix work and play.I work in bursts of energy.I am stimulated by an approaching deadline.Sometimes I stay open to new information so long I miss making decisions when they are needed. Adapted from Looking at Type: The Fundamentalsby Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
I should’ve briefed Ms Phoenix on our exchanges with regards to my cuntiness, and my viewpoint that people are just cunts.... 😘😘
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RHP User
5 years ago
, haha hey, if you can't beat them join them!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Shit Cunts
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RHP User
5 years ago
Damn straight peachy Mr dragon
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