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Teething problems for newbies
September 21 2018
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RHP User
6 years ago
I can say with some certainty that profiles who have yet to indulge in their fantasy often get overlooked. Yes, we all have to start somewhere but most couples, whether they are in the scene or not (we fall into the latter) generally skip first timers due to past experiences. Although we have only ever played with a handful of couples, we have been through the experience and know that when we want to play, we do. Past experience for us with a new couple with the fantasy but not the experience wasn’t much fun. It could possibly be why, but a lot of ghosting, fake profiles and picture hunters also inhabit this site. Best of luck xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I have noticed many cautious couples as well. Couples yet to play or who do not do full swaps are often avoided. Also I believe couples who are too picky or not picky enough, don't get the responses they desire. Thank you to all the kind comments. I am sure we'll make some lovely friends this weekend. We hope everyone has a great time and finds what and who they are after.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I am a writer. Most of my contacts are met online. We learn very early not to show our face or give our real name. Many of my best friends are men in masks. We get to know each other through our writing for that, not our eyes, is the window to our soul. I was once abused for being a man when a guy who had a crush on me read one of my chapters written from the male perspective. I had convinced him I was a 26 year old, 6 foot 4 male, rather than a petite blonde. Instead of arguing, me being me, changed my profile picture to a picture of Dolph Lundgren. He was not impressed. Verified profiles are a must :D PS I am NOT Dolph Lundgren :D
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RHP User
6 years ago
We are sure you will find what your looking for at some point. We have been guilty of not getting back to messages on the very off occasion, sometimes life gets in the way and your so busy that there simply isn’t time and you forget. We usually don’t respond to messages that on very first contact ask to view your galleries or face pics. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Of course i do..I am terribly sorry to have presented focusing on the negatives.yes Ive met stacks of nice guys and couples.I am very successful on all these sites. Despite everyone else i meet usually only having met myself or a very low number of others..However, noone really turn out to be ongoing. I just wanted to point out what a shit fight this is for single women.I have met nice couples.Despite this there are plenty that disrespect me as a person.Often I do not even get the courtesy of a proper introduction.I do not know who i am even speaking with. Looking back I am immensely proud of myself for sticking with it. The rubbish that was done to me by others on these site. Abuse, grotesque images, being called names, being stood up and ghosted for no real reason. I still get inundated and often block an average of 15 or so profiles a week. Thats not counting the obviously dodgy profiles with nothing on them. I am stupid if i let them a bitch if I block them. It could be closer to 50. I personally see the funny side to it all. They can stay home and play with their dicks etc etc. Couples often complain they cant get any action and so do males... I, on the other hand, GET PLENTY.And some fantastic sex too.I can be very very picky.Trust me I dont need pity men tell me everyday how hot i am and I still prefer talking to them than couples profiles. They top the list for making me uncomfortable.It doesn't mean I am not successful though. I just wanted to convey how horrendous this place is for single women and it explains the low number of them on here or ones willing to meet. The worst part is we are then often told it is our fault for choosing the wrong people. Under no circumstances am i responsible for the behaviours of others.I give people a chance something that many couples and single men complain they dont feel they are getting.I'm not responsible for their personal problems, their lives, relationships, mental states or even the fact they get shitty over me getting more sex! I have every right to give them boundaries.Its a bit of a damned if I do damned if i dont. Anyone who knows me knows i am a happy person with my shit together.I just dont think its fair that us single women dont get a proper hearing on these forums when we seem to be the most sought after. Some behaviours and attitudes need to change if you not only want the numbers of single women on here to increase and retain. With a set of lady balls this arena is a smorgasboard for women like myself.I wish YOU ALL luck.I dont need your wishes of luck for someone like myself this is easy.. I was just trying to educate you all. Good luck have fun!
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
looks like your going on sat night ,now besides making a decision on what to wear , omg what to wear what to wear to show off the amazing body , but not too much and not too little ,do i want to stand out or blend in and honestly. those calf’s 😍god i wish i had those ,lol ,if your nervous about your first time , think about arrival ,are you a person who wants to be there early. snd make some quick friends be busy and look like part of the furniture and look at people as they arrive. or be late. and feel like everyone is looking at you. trust us ,in the early days it can make a big difference as a new comer to how you feel at the start ,i suppose it’s comes down to are you both a get in the shallow end and slowly go to the deep end ,or straight to jump off the deep end whilst doing a somersault rip that bandaid off sort of person hope this all helps with my bad english and gramma ,i’m sure you have a vodddoo doll full of pins to give to me followed by a You!!!!!’ give me headaches ,lmao mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I actually chose my dress as soon as we decided. I've had it for a few months now. It's suitable for nightclubbing and a little tight and short for everything else. This will be my first chance to wear it out. I have tried it on and Hunter took some photos, but sharing them now would spoil the fun. Both of us having long hair and me being so blonde tends to make us stand out anyway. I'd probably like to get there a little after 7pm but will probably have dinner first so depending on when we finish. I won't be able to eat too much because nothing else is fitting in that dress :D So looking forward to it. We would love everyone to introduce themselves and say hi.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Single women have had a hard time all through history. Just look at what is said to be the "Oldest profession." If that were the case, how were they paid and if it were with food, wouldn't hunting be the oldest profession? Also it is supply and demand. If no men wanted their services... In my opinion, you treat people with respect until they prove they don't deserve it, then you simply avoid them. You are right when you say if we want single women, we need to treat them with respect. I agree fully. I also wish people in a couple would say who is talking. It often confuses me. Best of luck, beautiful lady xxx
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
you both have long hair ,well while i still have a memory that works , so did i ,only feels like yesterday it was well past my collar ,but with all the product i used in the 80s and 90s,i fear i may have caused the hole in the ozone single handily ,aghhhh hair nothing but a distant memory now , ohhh but a man with long hair, watch out, mrs b will spot that one and be like a moth to the flame ,i suspect she is hairiest deep down ,lmao mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
It's easier said to go out to social meet and greets and parties but very difficult when you live away from the mainstream populous where these events occur it is hard to decipher who is genuine and who is just somebody on the other side of a keyboard ghosting has happened a lot, people say they're interested then when it comes time to meet and excuses made or they don't show without any explanation and I found this very off putting and rude when it comes to meet. we would love to meet other people and be taken in under their wing and Shown how things really are we are open minded we are an open marriage we trying to spice things up but trust is a huge issue...not between us but with the whole swinger concept.... I thought it was supposed to be all about discretion and respect as well as meeting and having fun and not just about the bedroom it's about meeting like minded people and friends you could have a good time with. Hence to say we will stay on RHP and maybe one day the right opportunity will arrive - Posted from rhpmobile
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WeekendFunsters
6 years ago
We went up a few dry gullies trying to meet up privately with other couples. Then we decided to go to a party. It was the best thing we’ve done. We had fun on the night plus met a few People. Meeting up with couples privately puts her n too much pressure - kind of like a first date. But in a party/ club situation all of that pressure goes out the window. We just approached it as a fun night out, with no expectations. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I trust verified people more and will only give phone numbers or arrange private meetings with verified people. Meeting at a meet and greet is different but I certainly would not go out of my way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
There are some awesome people on here but the dishonesty is crippling....got a message, promising, were seriously considering catching up..we were keen...exchanged pics...nice..then realise we have seen them before and that the profile is one of three with two currently operating and commenting on the same forums as different entities and stating different preferences....yeah na..no thanks...opening line in message...we're genuine.... probably some billy bob look alike wanking in his trackies... if you are not for real find some other entertainment and let the grown ups ....talk....
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RHP User
6 years ago
Been on RHP for nearly 12 months our first few messages turned into scam text messages. We then proceeded with caution only to then have sent pics with no response. Then we only swapped pics with couples after they sent first then we got blocked a few times. Now we have deleted all pics only to be flirted with single men that can't read. Still waiting to fulfill fantasy's If nothing happens before xmas i don't think we will be on here for much longer unfortunately the time and effort is to much - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
We don't usually exchange pics with non verified people and never if they don't have a photo. Both these things would improve your chances. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
that could have been written by us ,obviously not though ,it hasn’t enough errors ,lol, we only just had a conversation. the other night saying blehhh meeting up privately for the first time is hard work with lots of pressure like dating ,some love it ,some dont ,pressure come off in folds if your out and about. and can just move on or go home after you have had enough ,and not appear to be rude or hurt feelings of people you don’t really know mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well in to my 2nd month of membership and can barely get a response to messages.... guess I'm just not wat people are looking for. So cancelled and will look elsewhere
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think it is harder for the single guy. Maybe combine rhp with some singles nights. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yeah why not keep commenting..lolAs a single woman I dont feel overly comfortable going to parties. I am concerned about exposing myself to guys I wouldve otherwise quickly distanced myself from online as well as whether the demographic will actually offer me what I am looking for. Still keep your guard on with verification.I have very recently, as well as historically, had issues with a number of profiles. I am guessing they may just find ways around verification as they look similar or in some cases be using someone elses account. Sometimes they just wing it. I once had a guy turn up who looked sooo different but it was him. Maybe 10 years ago.I gave him a chance as he had been so nice then raised it politely later. He is like Oh yeah I dont use it much.. Sure mate you arent 18 any more..lol Be prepared to tell people straight to their faces, I have. Tell them it isnt acceptable. Lies or not being the person in the pic. Fair enough we all pick our best side, lighting etc. My pics are all very recent and true.Admittedly i sift out the ones that look like I have a lazy eye, but they are really me now. Why?Its called self respect.If you men wont take yourselves seriously and show me respect why should I do that for you..? Look out for funny face pulling. Main profile pics being taken down when verification occurs after your request. Blocking access to their private pics after they verify.. As well as broken english ahem yeah Im hinting something here. I dont mean someone who is openly an immigrant and tries.I mean just grammatical errors like My instead of Im. And I want to suck u.. Yeah I suck chicks all the time mate its like a thing. Fucking idiots they wonder why nice women dont bother.. If it aint flowing dont be going...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yeah, I really do sympathise. I have practically had the same experiences- it hard to figure who is real, I am also picky so I usually will only try interact with someone with at least a few photo's. I myself have not had any success but I think of it as just throwing a hook out, if something grabs it grabs.
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RHP User
6 years ago
We met some great people last night including some other newbies that this post encouraged to attend. Hope you all had a great time and got an insight to this bold new world. - Posted from rhpmobile
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johnrossgeller
6 years ago
Good for you, guys! We are still looking for) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Maybe look for Meet and Greets in your area or if there isn't one, you can create your own.
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RHP User
6 years ago
How do newbies, especially cautious ones, manage expectations at a meet and greet?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Apart from yielding to them of course.....
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
Do you mean a meet & greet with a potential play partner? If so, be very clear with in yoursekves as to what you wantm what you are prepared to do, and follow through with those plans. For instance, if you always have the rule if meet first, play at a later date try to stick by that rule. There's not much worse than one person in a couple trying to change their rules of engagement when meeting other people; that puts an enormous level of pressure on the other person. And of course, be really clear with those you are meeting as to what your expectations are. Be prepared for some to try to change your mind on the night, it happens often. And no one takes pne for the team. 🙄
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RHP User
6 years ago
We were still nervous as hell and my apprehension probably scared off potential play partners, a few may have even been our type although way more experienced. The most that happened for us was I was literally picked up by a girl who pulled my skirt up to my waist in the process, probably showing half the room my bare butt. Luckily or unluckily for some, it was late - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
missed it , but that would only be one girl we know ,yup she likes to do that and not only to women 😳 if you don’t want it again ,she is easlily distracted. by talk of chips and gravy ,lol mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
It was a lot of fun although I was scared she would dump me on my head when she tried to throw me over her shoulder. A very sexy girl.
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
the unpredictable moments at a typical meet and greet ,it’s the storys, the fun ,as much as meeting people for a first timer jay stick ,not the worry’s and pressures of sex and attraction , oddly in the many times we have seen your friend pick people up literally ,have never. seen her drop anyone ,😂 mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I know what you are thinking but...it was over the shoulder that scared me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
6 years ago
A woman tried the pick you up and throw you over her shoulder at the Melbourne meet and greet? Wth? I wonder who it would be? It's not Mr B dressed in drag is it? 😋 I don't know of any woman who would do that. Did I miss that at the Melbourne meet? I must have left too early 😞. All the shenanigans happen after midnight 😎
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Are just guys on fake profiles.. worst part is single guys cop all the crap and judgement. Yet no female is willing to help make us a couple .. or couple happy to want to keep us as a regualr play friend.. we are the toilet paper and are treated that way, just a wipe your ass clean and throw away.. so single guys will forever cop shit - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sorry you feel that way. Most coules with a bi girl prefer the idea of a couple or a girl. We, personally, want a committed couple. Good luck with finding a lady - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
It was lovely to meet you. I didn't actually go over her shoulder but was lifted quite high up by the legs. She is a tiny little thing, not much bigger than I. - Posted from rhpmobile
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nma87
6 years ago
Been on here over ten years and I must say recently it’s been dominated by single men (sadly) it use to be more for swingers !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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usemenow
6 years ago
I’m very keen and willing. DDF and have not met one person yet. Nothing. I’m starting to think maybe there’s something wrong with me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I would suggest single men need to ALSO get out there. Meet people off and online. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey if you have loads of single friends send some my way... I have been on here for a little while now and don't seem to be able to generate any real interest... Maybe I'm doing something wrong??? Im very new to this online thing and think that maybe i need some help
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RHP User
6 years ago
Is there a link? A process? Ive been looking but maybe Im having a blokes look. Thanks in advance
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RHP User
6 years ago
If you are on the phone app click on the three dotts on the right hand side, go into edit profile and press verification.
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Buck08
6 years ago
In 6 months and about 200 messages sent to people I have had a about 4 replies. I put myself up for dates all the time. nooo interest shown. I have not gotten 1 reply from a message sent in search. I'm actually starting to think Im doing something wrong...sigh
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RHP User
6 years ago
We are struggling as a couple to find another couple. You woud find it more difficult. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
We have been on RHP for a little while as individuals and also as a couple, but not getting much luck either. Some who check out our pg albums disappear not long after viewing too. Its frustrating as it makes you second guess your attractiveness to others or whether its just fake profiles. My newly discovered heighten sexually was actually by a random hookup with a much younger hottie I meet online (not via RHP) who I later realised was just playing mind games with me for a quick screw (that he never got in the end). The attention and what I thought was chemistry & spark sent my sex drive into overload, hence why Im now on RHP. As a couple we also went to a swingers club for the first time recently. We were very fortunate to meet a gorgeous younger couple which lead to a very fun evening altogether. Alas, since then RHP has left us both feeling deflated. But we are still hopeful there are some good ones (and couples) in there somewhere. Only time will tell. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
We feel the same. We have met some couples at a meet and greet but nothing apart from friendship has happened yet. We have had a few messages and exchanged pgs but most just disappear without a word. The good ones say they are not interested or start chatting with you. I am keeping up with the forum posts and stories for a while but if nothing happens, by March, I guess RHP isn't for us. If we meet someone through RHP and wish to meet more, we will become paid members. We just don't want to pay for something that doesn't work.
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RHP User
6 years ago
the reality is you gotta wade throught some crap before u find someone the matches
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RHP User
6 years ago
Your boobs are to big
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RHP User
6 years ago
No one has ever said that to me. I guess it has been said to you.
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swingalingson
6 years ago
Patience peeps. Some times good things can be a while. You know on the events RHP page there are some awesome clubs and parties hell even meet and greets. You guys could check them out in person and meet people face to face. At least you know they show their face and show up if agreed. Fortunately there are alot of couples and females looking to fulfill their fantasies with SINGLE GUYS. I wish you guys (the couple) luck and hope you find the extras to join you and your fantasies. Your forum PAL Swinga ..
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swingalingson
6 years ago
Xantheahunter Your boobs are fine. Dont mind juhju.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thank you. Sorry for the single guy bashing. I did not mean it to snowball, just confused by fake profiles etc.
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RHP User
6 years ago
We have only recently joined as well & have got to play once which was great but I’m a bit timid & worried if I say something wrong or worried about not been sexy enough and most couples don’t have piercings like us so I’m even worried about that! Haha! Oh well I’m going to try make more of an effort!
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RHP User
6 years ago
We have no piercings or tattoos and are quite fit. Some people like that; others think it is boring. Find the people with the personalities who most suit yours and be yourself. It isn't worth it if it makes you feel bad about yourself. You should feel sexy and desired.
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