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What Guys Think About Sex

May 22 2013

Because Meeka asked this question in my previous post, and I figured I'd have a shot at an answer.---Here's the thing: there's going to be at least several guys who will straight-up refute, reject, repudiate a bunch of what I'm about to say.They're full of shit. Maybe not consciously, maybe because they're trying to impress others with an 'enlightened' or 'sensitive' attitude, but by and large - most hetero guys are gonna be guilty to some degree of what I'm saying here. And by 'most', I mean fuckin all of us. I mean yeah, there are exceptions in certain cases, but mostly, this applies to guys, in general.At the time of asking this, Meeka put out there the additional question, do guys think 'any hole is a goal'. A very fair question, with the by-and-large answer:Within reason, yes. Yes, that is a basically-true statement.9/10 times, any guy upon being offered a shag with a not-thoroughly hideous woman with vaguely hygienic vagina that is totally open for pretty much whatever, in a largely consequence-free environment will pretty much shrug their shoulders, and poke out the bottom lip in a 'fuck it, why not' sort of gesture, and climb on board. That's 9/10 times for each individual dude, when faced with that situation. Any guy who says otherwise is most likely lying. Lying, because ALL of us have at least a few of 'those' stories. Whether the same applies to women, I don't know and wouldn't dare to comment, but if I was forced to guess at gunpoint, I'd say it doesn't.Anyway, there are reasons for this, mitigating factors, if you like. Some at this point might try and delve into evolutionary factors, that men are honed by evolution to have sex with lots of women, to sow our seed, whereas women are nesters. This is known as 'Bullshit'. It's bullshit, because humans have rational thought, society, and lots of other factors that put paid to this furphy. This is commonly trotted out by guys who cheat as an excuse for their behaviour. We are an advanced species with free will, conscious thought and all kinds of things that mean we don't really answer to base urges like this, in the way that, say, a lion or a wildebeest does. This isn't to say that instinct doesn't play a (small) part, but just that, evolutionarily speaking, we've outgrown it.However, we have replaced this evolutionary compulsion with a compulsion of a different variety - Culture. The films we watch, the music we listen to, the games we play, the books we read, and probably most importantly - the advertising that wraps around all of these things tell us poor men that in order to be a successful, proper man; that among other things, a man must have sex with a lot of women. Related to my last post, about sluts, where I said that when called by this 'insult' men will generally reply with a sense of pride. That they have fucked so many women is a source of pride for us. Guys will even compare numbers, some even lie to exaggerate this number, so as to appear more successful than those around them at having sex with more women than anyone else.Given that the above is absolutely an actual behaviour that lots of men (typically younger men, but still) engage in, this then supports the supposition that for most men, yes - any hole is indeed a goal. Hell, I'm sure that the women of this site can attest to the totally indiscriminate manner in which men approach them. Have a nice photo on your profile, girls , a not-so nice photo, hell - no photo: it doesn't really matter to most guys here when approaching you. Is this not indicative?Sure, many men do have 'standards' of a sort. He may not go out of his way to approach a woman who does not reach those standards, but in the right circumstance, at the right time... say, off the top of my head: 3am on a murky dancefloor at some seedy meatmarket nightclub...? Well, all of a sudden, you just watch those standards drop as fast as his pants. Certainly women do the same thing, but the discussion here is about the male approach to sex.And basically, our approach can be boiled down to a single phrase:Yes Please.

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RHP User

12 years ago

So I started out with a smartarse comment because I thought many before me had done enough, and that was all I intended to contribute.The rest was simply responding to direct questions and challenges. The long forum discussion is not really my thing, but you happened to call me out on a couple of points that do actually sit squarely in my areas of expertise and on an unusual weekend where I have some free time.Take the comments on marketing with a grain of salt (I'm sure you have). It's a minority that post purely for that purpose and I'm not suggesting you have done it intentionally. The point was made because you expressed an opinion that slighted other males, and in a competitive market you can expect some push back. I'd love to stop there, but there's one glaring issue above. Although sometimes influenced by the religious beliefs of the lawmakers our laws are secular. The mainstream in Australia however is well and truly still a culture living Christian values, whether they identify as Christians or not. The mainstream media still peddles traditional (Christian) family values, as do both mainstream political parties. They do it because that's the way the majority like it. Those mainstream values are the reason Tiger Woods lost sponsorships the moment his pre-game warm up routine went public, and why Shane Warne while revered as a cricketing genius is also commonly thought to be a bit of a wanker.Good debate, but I think it's better for all if I stick to pissweak snipes from now on.Mr C

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RHP User

12 years ago

it weird that I am so aroused right now by reading this and the visual I have of you three having a verbal stoush is magnificent - holy smoke I'm horny Thanks Lads

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Mischeviouslad

12 years ago

Without comment.... a forum is merely an editorial piece.DG

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RHP User

12 years ago

Further to you're "2 glasses before laying down" allegation. I never thought that about you at all......and its little pretentious to assume it....- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'chickcara' So I started out with a smartarse comment because I thought many before me had done enough, and that was all I intended to contribute.The rest was simply responding to direct questions and challenges. The long forum discussion is not really my thing, but you happened to call me out on a couple of points that do actually sit squarely in my areas of expertise and on an unusual weekend where I have some free time.Take the comments on marketing with a grain of salt (I'm sure you have). It's a minority that post purely for that purpose and I'm not suggesting you have done it intentionally. The point was made because you expressed an opinion that slighted other males, and in a competitive market you can expect some push back. I'd love to stop there, but there's one glaring issue above. Although sometimes influenced by the religious beliefs of the lawmakers our laws are secular. The mainstream in Australia however is well and truly still a culture living Christian values, whether they identify as Christians or not. The mainstream media still peddles traditional (Christian) family values, as do both mainstream political parties. They do it because that's the way the majority like it. Those mainstream values are the reason Tiger Woods lost sponsorships the moment his pre-game warm up routine went public, and why Shane Warne while revered as a cricketing genius is also commonly thought to be a bit of a wanker.Good debate, but I think it's better for all if I stick to pissweak snipes from now on.Mr C ---Hey, please dont get me wrong - everything Ive written has been with a smile on my face: this has been a fun back and forth, and some smart-ass-ness in that back and forth just makes it a little more fun.Again, cheers for taking the time to respond, always like a challenge, even if fall short on it.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I am exhausted,in a way from all this readingShit I didn't know men can say and write so much.So the bottom line of all of this is...... There are men who don't mind what they fuck, they just follow there instinct like a tomcat and there are others who are into meaningful sensual sex.Its great to hear and read. Again its so knowledgeable to read the posts on the forum. Can we please have more from the male. I am here to learn.....please give me more.I AM WAITING LIKE A HUNGRY CAT>>>>>>>>

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RHP User

12 years ago

Does it realy matter If your having fun who gives a shit if you end up in a relation ship it will go sower adventualy its just life and usually it will be based around sex have a look at how many profiles are divorced or jus out of a relationship or in an open one Is any thing wrong with any of that .no people just inturpritate life different and that's usually based on the life they've lived so no one will be the same So in conclusion every one is the same when it comes down to it it's just that some people don't care what others think and actualy have fun shit isn't that what were here for?

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RHP User

12 years ago

I would have like to have written as a guy myself what I think about sex, but you seem to have already done that for me. for all of men apparently.genetics play a big part in a persons sex drive. we didn't "just evolve" out of that because we "got smart", we are very much grounded by our instincts today as we were then. (both men and women)I am young, single and horny 99% of the time. I like to fuck women (multiple women). I even like fucking couples. But, thats just a matter of lust.Having said that, I am also able to love. I am able to rule over my emotions and other interests for that matter. I would be just as happy in a monogamous relationship as a polygamous one.I don't need to put my dick everywhere/anywhere and thank god have more to offer the world than that.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Another reason the whole 'men want to sow their seed' and 'women are nesters' thing is bullshit is that sexual monogamy in the animal kingdom is very rare for both sexes. A bunch of research was done in I think the '60s or '70s (could have my dates wrong there), across many species on female sexual behavior. The expected outcome was that most species would have monogamous females. As it turns out female promiscuity sweeps the board in the vast majority of species!The running theory is that females mate multiple times, because mating with only one male gives no assurance they've picked a genetic dud. I'm with sirlurkalot, I think women would probably have a lot more sex if we were empowered to do so. And I'd hope that would raise men's standards so they wouldn't feel like they have to fuck anything to get laid (the ones that behave that way anyways).But, also, I think in humans there's probably more variety than is given credit, and I certainly know a few men who don't fit the mold of trying to fuck everything that moves.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I'm sure there's guys that only see woman as a fuck an a ego boost. But seriously these type of guys stand out like dogs balls to me, so not sure why it's not so obvious to the ladies? Then of course there's the 1's who you don't see coming, but hey this is RHP so let's not forget on here most men are after sex! Some like myself want to meet amazing interesting women that ooze sex appeal, Allowing a hot energy to ignite between you. But then again not all the ladies are actually looking for the same level of connection, maybe just a lil respect is enough for them?

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RHP User

12 years ago

not all of us want to 'sow our seed' tho.... I know I never did...I was always on the lookout for a gal who'd be up for an exclusive type of arrangement....ie a 'relationship'..... and can honestly say that I've never gone out with the intent of picking up a stray....and can 100% claim to have never 'hooked up' with a random while out on the turps with my mates...if ever I came across a woman intoxicated enough to throw herself at me....I deliberately failed to catch them, or did a duck and weave so as to avoid her....nothing less attractive than a drunken gal with no decision making skills....

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RHP User

12 years ago

would have more sex, with more men if they found them attractive. A man who is coarse and rude, offends our delicate sensibilities.....''are you DTF'' does not a sonnet make

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RHP User

12 years ago

I think the basic primal urge is the same in all of us! some people can just deal with it better!my tally of different partners is 2....... am i happy with that..... no! not really............. would i like it to be closer to 20..... well i'm only human ( oops sorry male) .... If i had ceased upon every half chance/opportunity, or every so called straggler that strayed from the heard at 3 am in the local smoke filled meat market, would my number be closer to 20??? well, we will never know. But why didn't i?I blame my dad! if that 2 bit old bugger didn't teach me how to treat women..... well the sky is the limit.....All jokes a side i am as red blooded as every other male on this site, but there is a time and a place for everything no matter how kinky or depraved it is, you just have to find the right crowdwithout getting to heavy or the audience yelling " go to Oprah" i think i was lucky enough to be raised with all the right tools to be decent and respectful to everyone whether or not i choose to use them is another matter....

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RHP User

12 years ago

THIS is not news to me. OP is correct and little needs to be debated or challenged. It is however comical to read the 'matter of fact' replies of men identifying themselves as the exception to this rule. Much like the trending desire for women to portray themselves as 'different from all other women'. I acknowledge the possibility of a man brushing-off my sexual advances, it just doesn't happen. I just don't see a 'no' in my future. I have the pussy, I have the power! x x B *awaiting the "you're wrong" comment that will no doubt sway my opinion on this little-known-about topic* < sarcasm - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'Freya73' you DTF'' does not a sonnet make Hi, luvd ur profile. I have a thick hard cock, so are you DTF? Is a haiku.

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lovman8

12 years ago

The OP is on the money and if I am totally honest, on some level, the idea of a fuck is there with every interaction I have with women. And I'm not really a shallow self obsessed womaniser, honest! And well said shysquirt, you have us simple men all worked out! More power to you.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'shysquirt'I acknowledge the possibility of a man brushing-off my sexual advances, it just doesn't happen. I just don't see a 'no' in my future. I have the pussy, I have the power! Well said!

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RHP User

12 years ago

Just_chill_n, take a trip to Sydney. Third time is a charm.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Yeh - we are animals.Seriously we share 99.6% or was it 98.6%... of our DNA with Bonobo Apes - that's higher than what the Indian and African Elephant share.If you look at the Ape's sexuality - you can make a direct link to human sexuality. For both men and women. The ape is not a monogamist, but a polygamist - female included. Meaning the ape naturally and without social stigma will have a sexual relationship with as many ape's within their community as they can.If you take this idea and apply it to us - it explains why so many men find it hard to only sleep with one woman. But you are right - we have the ability to say "no" and control the situation, but what damage does this do?Just take a look at the divorce rate, it's 50% now?Some other examples include - our obsession with pornography, the lucrative nature of prostitution and the growing amount of money spent on marriage counselling, family lawyers.

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RHP User

12 years ago

and personally I find it quite easy to say no if I am not 100% interested. Even if I'm in a situation where there will be no consequences. The brain in my cock might be big - but it's relatively tiny compared to the brain in my head.:P

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RHP User

12 years ago

Cant remember, its been to long lol

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