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What does NOT attract you on a profile.

April 15 2015

Hey all. Been here for a bit now and read a few threads about what is good in a profile. Am thinking I should update mine which is very basic but still unsure how I will go about this as I need it to portray my true being so not really wishing it to be showy in anyway as I am more about words and emotions. So I am asking not for what makes it a good profile to peruse but what is it that turns you off a profile. Cheers Tis

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  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Any template use. I dont want to fuck a template. I want a real person who has the ability to describe him or herself as an individual. Doesnt need to be a literary genius but needs to have a crack. Yeah needs a crack too.......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Template use, grey ghosts and overuse of "hehehe" . Just sounds sleazy. Lots of ask mes?

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Template and Ask Me responses. And hate those that boast that they can go fucking on and on forever. Am not interested in bedding the Everyready Wabbit who is intent in lighting a scout bonfire from my smoking vagina. show me you arr a man of substance worth knowing - sexy confident funny kind man I can feel safe to explore our sexuality together.

  • langton11

    langton11

    10 years ago

    grey'stemplatesShort or lazily filled profilesunfilled criteriatoo much attitudelimited sexual interestsmore than a couple of validationscertain physical/sexual/personal criteria (personal preference stuff)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Lily Orchid, you should have your own stand up comedy act! Scouts Bonfire indeed

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Grey ghosts Boastful people who belittle others Ask me And try not to be tooo negative

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    And the all about me profile, I want, I want, I want and if you don't have it your BLOCKED !

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    That go along the lines of: SEND ME A FLIRT INSTEAD OF A MESSAGE AND YOU WILL BE BLOCKED! IF YOU MESSAGE ME AND YOU'RE OUTSIDE MY AGE BRACKET YOU WILL BE BLOCKED! IF YOU DON'T HAVE AN EIGHT PACK YOU WILL BE BLOCKED! SMOKERS WILL BE BLOCKED! LEAVE THE TOILET SEAT UP AND YOU WILL BE BLOCKED! IF YOU EAT CAULIFLOWER YOU WILL BE BLOCKED!!!!!! People can put whatever they want on their profile, I guess, but geez my ears hurt sometimes from the yelling.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    Bloody hell - you got in first! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It depends on my mood..sometimes the grey ghost guest intrigues me.I reply to their flirt to discover what might be behind that facade..Clearly I don't get inundated with messages 😀..and occassionly I discover a little golden nugget...so I dont have any rules as such but if I am bored or repulsed I move on xxFreya

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    I don't like offering specifics, because as most profiles are, they truly represent the person behind them. Generalisation ahead.... IF they have no effort, the owner won't offer others much effort.IF they are full of grand claims about their sexual abilities and read like a sex-god-resume .... they're pretty well into themselves and will also focus on themselves.IF they lack creativity in a profile they've had time to draft, redraft, edit and then post.... they're probably going to lack creativity, be in a hurry and have a fast agendaYEs, yes, there will be those who say "don't judge a book by the cover". But... I say....if that book looks like a moist turd... are you really going to want to pick it up to see if its really a mars bar?! So rather than offer specifics, I'll say...... Look at MOST guys profiles............ your "competition"..... ...and dont do what they do. Seriously though, most guys type the same phrases and post the same photos.... ..... because their ego tells them those things are what the women they hope to attract want to read. And when everybody does it....... you get lost in the noise of the crowd. So what makes you...... irresistibly, undeniably impossible to ignore?! (and you say... seeking NSA, not into wasting time, I have a 8 inch cock, love to lick for hours, get your pleasure from giving it and can go for hour sand hours and you won't be disappointed hehe.... ima' gon' come up there n' bitchslap you upside da head for ignoring the first comment!!!) On with the fun.Happy RHPing.!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The "I will"s, like "I will make you cum over and over", "I will make you squirt", "I will make your eyes roll back in your head." Also: The "You will"s, like "You will be this and that" and of course "You will not be disappointed."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Anything template instant turn off - "ask me " answered - turn off - small penis - turn off ( for me and what I am looking for ) safe sex "if required " turn off .......mostly the biggest deal breaker is template stuff - it is an instant "next" - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Why even have them? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    NSA ask meask meask me cock shots speeling mistakes hahahahah

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'The_3somes' Grey ghosts Boastful people who belittle others Ask me And try not to be tooo negative Ahh. in conclusion, a negative profile is okay as long as it is 'not tooo negative'?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't mind people saying what they don't like. Saves me having to waste a message on them. Like when people put "fit" instead of saying they don't like people who aren't...just say what you mean.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thanks all for sharing your views. And as always cheers for a good laugh, love the humour peoples.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    people who ask for what they are not courtesy to offer back for example asking to only be contacted by people with pictures when they dont have one! people who ask for face pics but dont have one them selfs ! couples who dont have clear recent pictures of both the couples. single girl profiles that suddenly become couple profiles after you contacting them and say that they only play with their FWB ! templates, profiles with not enough information or not much at all unverified profiles !! its not that hard really not vibrant, positive and fun profiles If i cant tell after reading your profiles and seeing your eyes and smile that weather we are or aren't attracted to some or many aspects of your personality then you have not really put in the effort to show others who you are..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No photos. Makes window shopping hard. People who want some long drawn out courting process. If I was after that I'd be dating.

  • TallBaldSexy

    TallBaldSexy

    10 years ago

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  • TallBaldSexy

    TallBaldSexy

    10 years ago

    Mate just be honest. Your post seems to have that feel already, "honesty from the heart" ....I'll bet you go alright!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think the "ask me" should be banned. Nobody likes it. Or replaced by "I don't give a fuck!" or "I'm too lazy to select answers from a drop down pre-filled menu. Now, Imagine how much effort I will put into sex" ...it would at least be more amusing this way ;) Another turn off for me is height restrictions. You're not a shopping mall car park, geeezzz... I don't even have a chance to talk to a person because I don't meet the criteria of "you have to be this tall to talk to me". It is upsetting! (says the angry midget :p).

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Lily Orchid, you should have your own stand up comedy act! Scouts Bonfire indeed Why thank you maam... you can be my support act. but to thee I bestow the role of the royal bringer of the Orange Slices at half time...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Txt spk.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    On the shot SA...... I'm not Into blue vein, but something smooth that looks like it's speaking to me, well I might reply..... :))

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I have a naked waiter lined up for that honour

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My favourite profile draw...a lovely smile. Wouldnt even look at your height. Can I add people who say they only want attractive playmates? Attraction is not only physical. Id rather be in a room full of normal, happy people than a room full of shallow and smug narcissists.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Maybenow2 I like those replacements for the ask me. As far as what people are saying about the grey ghost I will say hi to a gg but not the gg with ask me plastered everywhere. Just don't know what I may be in for

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I hear ya on that one

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ...those women who come across as portraying themselves as God's gift to men; * profiles that say they want to go slowly, be friends, and see what develops. Seriously?! Sign up for a dating site if that's what you want. * profiles that say they must see a picture, but when they write they never offer up their picture first. Um... hello?! McFly? You wrote me. If you want to see my picture, better show me yours. * profiles that only show boobs. Please ladies. Boobs grow on trees and there's plenty of firm ones out there. Every man on this site has seen a nice set of boobs. Show us something more interesting than the "valley between the peaks". * profiles that only have one picture close up. Yeah, like that's a sex magnet -- seeing an extreme close up of your tits. Not. * profiles that only have stuff like "ask and I will tell". I'm not here to play 20 questions. Seeing that tells people:1) you're uninteresting2) and already too much effortall rolled up into one. * the rare profile picture where the person is so far away we need the Hubble Space Telescope to see you. Immediately tells us, "you look good from afar but are far from good." * profiles which contain sms txt msg speak or can't even properly use "your" and "you're". My goodness I know foreigners who write better English. Turn off!

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'lilyorchid' Template and Ask Me responses. And hate those that boast that they can go fucking on and on forever. Am not interested in bedding the Everyready Wabbit who is intent in lighting a scout bonfire from my smoking vagina. show me you arr a man of substance worth knowing - sexy confident funny kind man I can feel safe to explore our sexuality together. I know an EverReady Wabbit that I'd bed any day of the week, who just happens to be a man of substance and one of the kindest and sexiest men I know .... but that's a different story for a different thread On topic.... what I don't like is an assumption that I will like their 'talents' and that my life won't be complete without experiencing them. Personally I prefer to work out what works for us, not be subjected to what he/they think will work for me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is,it's a profile,not a person...many lovely people are crap at writing profiles...many crap people are good at writing profiles ..simples xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Haha, he's the thing, i still laugh about this but was once getting hot and steamy with a guy, back seat of car, he starts to tell me he doesn't have much, why he chose to tell me then i don't know, but the poor guy, he wasn't kidding, nothing for me to even grab hold of, it was awkward and i had to halt proceedings because he couldn't even get hard. So usually press the back arrow if i don't see penis size, personal preference as with, i'm sorry to say, height and athletic body, body hair nil or not for me and hate ask me's and template answers, though accept a lot of new people don't want to be hit on, they only register to view others, the profiles then get updated - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Looks size or age don't matter but sadly 99% time it does matter to them...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    women love to lie to our face or just talk shit on here! you don't like single men messaging you in watever contex! if your not a celebrity a gym junkie or a man in a magaizine u better have the money for the or wat ever she dreams - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'maybenow2' Another turn off for me is height restrictions. You're not a shopping mall car park, geeezzz... I don't even have a chance to talk to a person because I don't meet the criteria of "you have to be this tall to talk to me". It is upsetting! (says the angry midget :p). I saw you check out my profile just before you posted this, so I'll bite. Who said anything about not being allowed to talk? I'm here to find men I'm completely sexually attracted to, and I tend to not be physically attracted to men who aren't tall. I'm usually not attracted to blond guys or men with full beards either, sue me. Now there, there. p.s. But didn't I say it nicely though? I least I don't BLOCK THEM.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ...life must be hard for the wee, little people ; ) But seriously, the "ask me's" do serve a purpose...they're just used and abused because not all of us need to put in an equal effort. You know what they say about men..and women..and equality.... I use an "ask me" for my race...as I don't fit into any of the options offered. : )

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    A person trying to present themselves with a piece of themself would surely get more response than having the same shite as a thousand others. Guess interpretation plays a lot in connection. Perhaps someone reading a profile with the same template as their own will think they have so much in common........

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    A case of jack russell syndrome......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    a female or a couple describe themselves as 'hot' in their profile, it usually indicates an inflated sense of self and it very rarely holds true. I will be the judge of that based on the pics i see and your prowess once we meet.

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    10 years ago

    Templatesask meage limitslack of infoLack of pics

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't really have any dislikes about profiles...RHP give people an option to be lazy....I dislike that... But I don't really dislike what people put in their profile...it's their journey and they'll attract whomever they attract from what is projected through their profile. It just may not be me.... 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Great way to see it sir stir. Really the only way to see most things in our lives. Some will like you others may not and those that don't, well no loss, just life.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Lets see.Couple profiles, me no like.Then there are all the female profile, yuk me no like.What then, male profiles, oh dear god, me no like,In between that lot there are all the TS/TV and groups, guess what, me no like. Profiles just don't cut it in reality, spend a few years looking through the endless supply of white green and faded blues of RHP profile pages and they all look the same. They come in a variety of bland, dull and try hard, with the occasional "Give me a break!" and "Utterly pointless." RHP does not in any way provide any type of customization to layout, colour schemes, backgrounds, fonts or much of anything to make any profile stand out at all or add a bit of personal flare. Hot pinks, moody blacks, or just a big rainbow emblazoned in big and bold text "Love me tenderly". Nop just another same old light grey blurb. Nuff said bouts profiles. Its the people behind the grey endless rows of monotony that make a profile good or bad and there is only one way to find out if a profile is on the side of good, or bad. Talk to me you sexy thing, and suddenly your profile has life.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    " keep it simple stupid " I prefer those who are grounded explaining who they are what their interests are without being too in your face.. paint a picture without the razza ma taz..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    So true sir so true, I used to coach people regarding their profiles but not any more it's just deception. Peoples profiles speak for themselves, as they should.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Unverified profiles.Too many cock shots(seriously, you think it looks different from 12 angles?)No face pics(in PG)The "discretion required" comment from couples, of course it is given and expected! If you are a single guy, then I see that as you are cheating.The "please no timewasters" comment. Is that because your time is more precious than mine? Or is it that you are so special I should drop everything for you? Or are you so lazy you won't put any effort in to woo me? And above all else, as has already been mentioned, single girl profiles, who actually have single in their relationship status, but eventually reveal they have a partner. I despise liars!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'unicorn99' The "discretion required" comment from couples, of course it is given and expected! If you are a single guy, then I see that as you are cheating. Unicorn99, as a single male, that's not what it means to me and I didn't consider the possibility of your interpretation before. I see what you mean, however, I'm not cheating anyone, I prefer my sex life to be private. The discretion required is about not telling everyone you fucked me or if you see me in the 'real world' you won't shout "heeeyyyyyy it's you from RHP" in the middle of the mall (there are children around hehe). Just because that is my own private life and I like it to be mine ;) Same reason why we both don't show our faces in our main profile, to avoid being recognised by close minded people that like to name and shame, and disapprove of the polygamous lifestyle (we don't need to make it easier for them). The sexy things I whisper in your ear while I have my hands in your panties should stay between us. Let others wonder... It's about being discreet regarding the dirty nasty naughty delicious lustful sexy sweaty forbidden bad devilish things we do to ourselves.... Well, at least one day I will.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My pet hate is couples profiles with only female pics, or only male pics. Why? If you are a couple have fruggin both of you on the profile. Do it properly! Please! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'maybenow2' Another turn off for me is height restrictions. You're not a shopping mall car park, geeezzz... I don't even have a chance to talk to a person because I don't meet the criteria of "you have to be this tall to talk to me". It is upsetting! (says the angry midget :p). I saw you check out my profile just before you posted this, so I'll bite. Who said anything about not being allowed to talk? I'm here to find men I'm completely sexually attracted to, and I tend to not be physically attracted to men who aren't tall. I'm usually not attracted to blond guys or men with full beards either, sue me. Now there, there. p.s. But didn't I say it nicely though? I least I don't BLOCK THEM. You have no proof of that!! haha so many accusations...Please don't say you'll bite me, you got me all hot now :p It's like rubbing chocolate in my face and say I can't have it. Not fair.I looked at your profile because of your cute heels, sexy ass and lovely feet. Not to rant :) I see your point, but by having height restrictions you completely excludes someone who might have or be something you like, although you are not "usually" attracted to. You used the words '...tend to not be attracted...' and '...I'm usually not attracted to...', so being open might be something to consider. If not attracted to, then it's fine. Yeap, I'd like to sue you in the RHP court :p I just can't imagine that there's absolutely nothing in a shorter person that wouldn't make you want to fuck theirs brains out. People are attractive in so many ways. It might be my hopeful midget wishful thinking, but I don't even consider height as an instant dismissive parameter.

  • lovman8

    lovman8

    10 years ago

    That indicates a lack of personality or no sense of humour. Which by this post, I qualify.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I certainly don't have a template profile..I just like to be a little curious about the grey ghosts and so called lazy profiles..not everyone is a wordsmith,doesn't mean they are lazy...but if I contact a man and he bores me.that is different..and I have conversed with men who were articulate but lacking in sanity 😳xxFreya

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Yes i hear you about the sanity bit, but bless you, you still chat to me....... Annie xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'maybenow2' I see your point, but by having height restrictions you completely excludes someone who might have or be something you like, although you are not "usually" attracted to. You used the words '...tend to not be attracted...' and '...I'm usually not attracted to...', so being open might be something to consider. If not attracted to, then it's fine. Yeap, I'd like to sue you in the RHP court :p I just can't imagine that there's absolutely nothing in a shorter person that wouldn't make you want to fuck theirs brains out. People are attractive in so many ways. It might be my hopeful midget wishful thinking, but I don't even consider height as an instant dismissive parameter. I think you'll get the ladies no worries with you sense of humour - given that you've got 18-35 as an age restriction, they'll love your strong sense irony ;) But about this 18-35 business... why don't you want to hook up with Grandma? shes the talk of the old folks home, even got 'extra mobility hips' installed, hers go all the way back - and around again! phwoar She also has a great command of the language, and can talk about anything - she was alive when so much history happened. Now the elephant (trunk) in the room, why be closed off to experiences with guys? no, no, not me don't worry I'm not propositioning you, but as you say "being open might be something to consider"... a few witty words, cheeky smile, hard grabbing hands, and a you never know, maybe a turgid truncheon 'tween the cheeks (I'm not being serious, I just thought it was funny complaining about restrictions when you have them on your profile too)

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'maybenow2' I just can't imagine that there's absolutely nothing in a shorter person that wouldn't make you want to fuck theirs brains out. People are attractive in so many ways. It might be my hopeful midget wishful thinking, but I don't even consider height as an instant dismissive parameter. The thing is.... its OTHER people making that decision as their deal-breaker...... not you. Few women are attracted to men considerably shorter than them. Its not fair. But then....... Im tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You talkin' 'bout me again cos I resemble those remarks 😜...now how come you ain't wearing them gold hot pants I crocheted for you in therapy class 😘xx Gran

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Man, that's a turnoff! No way would I ever send a message to someone with that in their profile!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I just choked on my wine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose'I think you'll get the ladies no worries with you sense of humour - given that you've got 18-35 as an age restriction, they'll love your strong sense irony ;) But about this 18-35 business... why don't you want to hook up with Grandma? shes the talk of the old folks home, even got 'extra mobility hips' installed, hers go all the way back - and around again! phwoar She also has a great command of the language, and can talk about anything - she was alive when so much history happened. Now the elephant (trunk) in the room, why be closed off to experiences with guys? no, no, not me don't worry I'm not propositioning you, but as you say "being open might be something to consider"... a few witty words, cheeky smile, hard grabbing hands, and a you never know, maybe a turgid truncheon 'tween the cheeks (I'm not being serious, I just thought it was funny complaining about restrictions when you have them on your profile too) S, Even if I took your premise as true... Just because you don't like strawberries, you can't ask someone why they don't like cucumbers?That's what you're trying to point out. It is a massive failure in logical thinking generating classic fallacies and invalidating your point. You should be a politician or work for mainstream media ;) You probably do. I'd like to see your answer for the question of the topic first... So I can also side with the prettiest girl in the room, then interpret what is written literally, then unnecessarily say something to attack the person and not the argument (a classic Ad Hominem in philosophy), then completely take it out of context, exaggerate, distort and show my sarcasm by using a red herring to deviate attention of people from what was being discussed. The topic is not entitled "How teenagers argue". Oh I believed Meander was joking when she replied to my post. I didn't know her security guard was gonna come after me without even answering the question we are trying to debate. I thought the forums were more lighthearted than this. I didn't know the forums were a private club and I was even more surprised they let high school students post here. Because when you are an adult, there's no need for this type of response. So, enough. On topic now :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79' You talkin' 'bout me again cos I resemble those remarks 😜...now how come you ain't wearing them gold hot pants I crocheted for you in therapy class 😘xx Gran ....lets teach that young whipper-snapper some lessons. Shaz

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I do have a paddle .......😝and such a spankable pair of shorts 😜xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'maybenow2' Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose'I think you'll get the ladies no worries with you sense of humour - given that you've got 18-35 as an age restriction, they'll love your strong sense irony ;) But about this 18-35 business... why don't you want to hook up with Grandma? shes the talk of the old folks home, even got 'extra mobility hips' installed, hers go all the way back - and around again! phwoar She also has a great command of the language, and can talk about anything - she was alive when so much history happened. Now the elephant (trunk) in the room, why be closed off to experiences with guys? no, no, not me don't worry I'm not propositioning you, but as you say "being open might be something to consider"... a few witty words, cheeky smile, hard grabbing hands, and a you never know, maybe a turgid truncheon 'tween the cheeks (I'm not being serious, I just thought it was funny complaining about restrictions when you have them on your profile too) S, Even if I took your premise as true... Just because you don't like strawberries, you can't ask someone why they don't like cucumbers?That's what you're trying to point out. It is a massive failure in logical thinking generating classic fallacies and invalidating your point. You should be a politician or work for mainstream media ;) You probably do. I'd like to see your answer for the question of the topic first... So I can also side with the prettiest girl in the room, then interpret what is written literally, then unnecessarily say something to attack the person and not the argument (a classic Ad Hominem in philosophy), then completely take it out of context, exaggerate, distort and show my sarcasm by using a red herring to deviate attention of people from what was being discussed. The topic is not entitled "How teenagers argue". Oh I believed Meander was joking when she replied to my post. I didn't know her security guard was gonna come after me without even answering the question we are trying to debate. I thought the forums were more lighthearted than this. I didn't know the forums were a private club and I was even more surprised they let high school students post here. Because when you are an adult, there's no need for this type of response. So, enough. On topic now :) on the topic of "what turns me off a profile" - smoking, and "Ask Me", especially where it is used for many answers. I think there is also "see my photos" for body type... and they're a grey ghost or just a picture of a mouth or something that clearly doesn't give any clues about their body type. (If I knew about making good profiles, I'd make myself one - but as I'm really here for the forums, it isn't a big priority) Now, I thought it was pretty clear I'm only 'playing' in my response (I'd hardly call the opening an 'attack') just as I assumed you were not _actually_ an angry midget - that that was just hyperbole. I didn't say what turned me off on a profile because I didn't have anything much to add, and because the OP is a guy after women, so he is better tailoring his profile to their responses - not what guys find a turn-off on womens profiles. No, I'm not a politician, but if I were, I like to think I'd give some answers Sir Humphrey Appleby would be proud of ;) I think it is fine to ask any question, of any person, the fact that you asked Meander is purely coincidental - if you were female and asking BruceyBruce54 I'd have put similar comments to you. Everything in your height focussed comments/questions could be said/asked with age range related terms back to you. I don't have any issue with having limits on age range, I do too - but don't you see that your argument about height is not consistent with your own profile because the general form is closer to "you shouldn't exclude people with X from your candidate set because people with X might also be good" "I just can't imagine that there's absolutely nothing in a 36+ person that wouldn't make you want to fuck theirs brains out. People are attractive in so many ways. It might be my hopeful 36+ wishful thinking, but I don't even consider AGE as an instant dismissive parameter." (text in red is added by me, S) Now, that isn't asking "why don't you like cucumbers". Again, no issues with you having your own likes/dislikes and "only looking for this" - just that your post doesn't seem consistent with what your profile says. I could have kept it short and to the point "your post seems hypocritical given your profile" and that be it, but it sounds a bit terse, I'd thought the other way was more light hearted. I can grok some of your shock though, "single male that read through a profile" that sort of thing doesn't happen here (long running stereotype). I don't think the red herring argument works in this case, since the post isn't aimed at distracting or confusing the topic of discussion - nor was anything aimed at distracting from the argument in my post to you. I don't think claiming it was an ad hominem attack works either, as my contention is quite clear that it is with the inconsistency between stated position in profile and post with respect to restrictions. (just to clarify, the suggestions of activity outside your preferred age range or genders wasn't an attack in any way) If that is "going after you", well... you must be new to forums, a smiling jocular post isn't "attacking" or "coming after" you. I'm sure you'll see some others go at it fairly shortly on some topic, it can get rather robust and frank in here. (BTW yes, there is a bit of a forum clique on here, I'm not in it. Can the forums be light hearted? yes. Will any given topic be light hearted? flip a coin on that one ;) ) Freya - I don't know if you had quite finished them, they seemed to be missing most of the backside ;) (and you've now set the bar high for next M&G, imagine the dance floor antics they'll expect from you now ;) )

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'maybenow2'Oh I believed Meander was joking when she replied to my post. I didn't know her security guard was gonna come after me without even answering the question we are trying to debate. I thought the forums were more lighthearted than this. I didn't know the forums were a private club and I was even more surprised they let high school students post here. Because when you are an adult, there's no need for this type of response. No actually, I was only kidding in the "There there" and p.s. parts of my post. I want what I want and make no excuses for that. If that bugs anyone, so be it. And since S's response to you was more light-hearted than mine, I don't see your point. What a childish dig at him by the way.Thumbs down.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    S, you my security guard? I think I'm the more intimidating one.

  • twodare

    twodare

    10 years ago

    Firstly, really bad names. There was a guy who contacted us called "Pussydestroyer" or something like that. It immediately turned us off and so we told him why, and he got it Secondly, face shots that look menacing or nasty, VB can in hand holding a fish etc etc. Profiles with a LOT OF CAPS and spelling mistakes. Shows intellect . Short people are hot too, just saw that in the list. Short people are just as hot as tall people ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You both scare me equally😳.......as for them crocheted hot pants,they were perfectly fine when I posted them to you ,S...how did they become unravelled😜...the mind boggles xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Just come over here possum and let me measure you up...now would you like a silver pair of hotties,or a matching gold pair? Xx S's Gran

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Turn off for me on a profile..anyone who describes themselves as "cheeky"...it always conjures up Benny Hill..So not sexy 😁xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think keeping genitals in the private galleries is great, but since my profile says I really don't like them, please don't ask me to give my opinion on your pics and open your pg that only has cock shots in it. I don't care how well-written your profile is if you can't be bothered to read or respect mine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Norti and Nauti. Wha? Was naughty to hard or are they trying to fit in with the kids?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    They are sailors who are a bit confused😜xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Norti and Nauti. Wha? Was naughty to hard or are they trying to fit in with the kids? incredibly annoying, the bad spelling just makes it worse. What are we? Children breaking the rules? I've had opening messages asking me if I want to be naughty and it's an instant turn off. I"m not sure quite why it bothers me so much but I get really irritated by it.

  • twodare

    twodare

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Norti and Nauti. Wha? Was naughty to hard or are they trying to fit in with the kids? Kids are home so we need to be quiet, that's a huge turn off.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    And pssst, people, discrete and discreet are two different things!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Deviate is a verb. The noun is deviant. So you're not sexual deviates, people, you're sexual deviants.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' S, you my security guard? I think I'm the more intimidating one. quite likely you are more intimidating at the moment, I'm on cloud nine since I just found a place selling hawaiian style ahi poké by the pound. Happy and smiling isn't a particularly fearsome look... Why a security guard? Why not dashing white knight on his steed riding to the assistance of a damsel in distress? (can anyone imagine Meander playing the hapless damsel? ) Quoting 'Freya79' Turn off for me on a profile..anyone who describes themselves as "cheeky"...it always conjures up Benny Hill..So not sexy 😁xxFreya ugh, now I'm not going to get any sleep tonight, the Benny Hill music is stuck playing in my head now!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If I receive a message asking me if I like to be naughty...or if it's on a profile..do you like to be naughty...no but I like to have hot jungle sex,will that do ? And yes I know it's fussy,but the puerile profile at any age is a big turnoff ..oh and photos of you holding the catch of the day...please explain what that's about? xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If I receive a message asking me if I like to be naughty...or if it's on a profile..do you like to be naughty...no but I like to have hot jungle sex,will that do ? And yes I know it's fussy,but the puerile profile at any age is a big turnoff ..oh and photos of you holding the catch of the day...please explain what that's about? xxFreya

  • TallBaldSexy

    TallBaldSexy

    10 years ago

    Agree with K.I.S above........ Yes guys get these mssgs too.... Id not say it irritates me but the underlying presumption feels imposing........Akin to the old sleazy bouncers in Kings cross two decades ago - hassling you from the outset....... My mind usually goes straight to two words... %$#@ *&*

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The one that kills it for me is looking for hotties. Just reminds me of bimbos looking for action at a club/bar. Apologies to those that use this term and are not bimbos, yep that too is a crap word

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Please tell me this place is in Sydney, and take me there! *Swoons* Rick, thanks, I really thought the Deviate thing was Australian, like I used to think "would of" and "could of" were. Did we have this yet: Text speak. "Lookin 4 a playm8 4 me and my gf to have 3somes with." Keep looking.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When you make a grammatical error in public, is it as if you were walking down a crowded street and you realise you have a large tear in your stocking after five hundred metres? Sorry, I'm not having a dig but you remind me of Me! Except I proof read my comments.That's how anal I am.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No, not that bad. Freya I see you liked Kool's post, but you'll have to agree I'm only bagging me since I've had this profile and not pointing my fingers at forum posters unless they make funny typo's. Your "Today I cried" forum ages ago made an impression.

  • Tart_Du_Jour

    Tart_Du_Jour

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79' Turn off for me on a profile..anyone who describes themselves as "cheeky"...it always conjures up Benny Hill..So not sexy 😁xxFreya Maybe smart ass tart would be better? Pain in the butt?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You are very particular about your grammar and spelling..Kool is actually agreeing with you..well that's how I read his post. And yes,I am not so particular..I just thought it was a bit of banter and certainly not cause for offence.But I apologise if you thought otherwise..Thank you or for remembering my Today I cried post...I still support kids with learning difficulties,particularly dyslexia...and I know many forumites find poor spelling a turn off and equate it with a lack of intelligence..a prejudice that is so hard to overcome...xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79' You are very particular about your grammar and spelling..Kool is actually agreeing with you..well that's how I read his post. And yes,I am not so particular..I just thought it was a bit of banter and certainly not cause for offence.But I apologise if you thought otherwise..Thank you or for remembering my Today I cried post...I still support kids with learning difficulties,particularly dyslexia...and I know many forumites find poor spelling a turn off and equate it with a lack of intelligence..a prejudice that is so hard to overcome...xxFreya I knew what Kool meant (he's better than me because he proofreads. I kid!). Just didn't want you to think I'm not trying.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    That is nice Meander,thank you hugs xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Please tell me this place is in Sydney, and take me there! *Swoons* Rick, thanks, I really thought the Deviate thing was Australian, like I used to think "would of" and "could of" were. Did we have this yet: Text speak. "Lookin 4 a playm8 4 me and my gf to have 3somes with." Keep looking. "of" instead of "have" drives me nuts. But I reckon we'd better close off this Grammar Nazi distributary before we bore everyone to tears...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Please tell me this place is in Sydney, and take me there! *Swoons* Rick, thanks, I really thought the Deviate thing was Australian, like I used to think "would of" and "could of" were. Did we have this yet: Text speak. "Lookin 4 a playm8 4 me and my gf to have 3somes with." Keep looking. alas, it's in Honolulu, Hawaii - I'll keep an eye out for good deals ;) (what a place - paddleboarding, poke, corvettes and north shore shrimp trucks - my list of favourite things is different to Julie Andrews') Apparently poke is on the menu at Showbox Coffee in Manly, and there is also a place in Coogee called Poke - I haven't tried either one yet, Poke looks better. Will review it soon :p "could of" and "would of" are interesting since I'm sure some people use them simply thinking "could/would" and "of" go to together, whereas others use it mistakenly thinking "could've" is "could of" not the contraction of "could have". (Did you listen to the segment on Radio National recently that talked about this? They used the same examples in the segment)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Here's a news flash possums..The fora is meant to be about chatting..how you would express yourself in real life...you ain't writing a dissertation for your phd,although one forumite did post part of his phd on a thread about grammar and spelling...grammar nasties shit me to tears...imo they are just bullies xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Could of was an Australian thing, the Aussie language is full of, shall we say, unique words and phrases!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The English speak English but have so many regional variations ..sometimes TV shows and films need subtitles,or should have subtitles...the Americans speak an American version of English and Aussies seal Strine..Meander you learnt English as a second language in a much purer form than those of us for whom it is a first language...English is an ever changing ,evolving thing...it has myriad influences one being popular culture..I predict that in fifty years text speak will be the dominant form..I hopefully will be dead😳xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79' Here's a news flash possums..The fora is meant to be about chatting..how you would express yourself in real life...you ain't writing a dissertation for your phd,although one forumite did post part of his phd on a thread about grammar and spelling...grammar nasties shit me to tears...imo they are just bullies xxFreya lol Freya that _is_ how I express myself in real life. I recently spent some time discussing the proper pronunciation of "algae" with my niece (she thought she was correcting me, but was incorrect. 5 yr olds are difficult like that... she conceded the point after I provided the proof that was demanded). I lump "could of" & "would of" in there with attempts at phrases like "for all intensive purposes" and "mute point" (or "wait with baited breath" and "just desserts" in written form)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79'.Meander you learnt English as a second language in a much purer form than those of us for whom it is a first language... Actually, since I learned most of it by watching TV I beg to differ. OP, here's another: Kewl. Also: "Hit me up". Both make me think the guy is far too young for me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    "Meander you learnt English as a second language in a much purer form than those of us for whom it is a first language" I find that if I can understand what you are trying to say that is all I need. If you text speak that is a different matter drives me batty. I too understand learning difficulties used to help my Mother correct school work all the time and it is scary when you see the young not understand words even scarier for an adult. I found your point interesting Freya and can relate a story. A lass I was kind of seeing in Russia was an English teacher (Russian girl). Her take on English language and its written form was precise when she had trouble with understanding certain formalities and why a this should not be written with a that grammatically., she would query me online. I had to explain that some of those rules I just do not know anymore. As an English speaker we are taught these things in school, those of us lucky enough to have the intelligence most are referring to here did okay and understood. Those with a different intelligence not the mental form struggled. When we leave school this just becomes unimportant it is understanding what counts the placement and setting of words is unimportant (unless your job dictates it). Most parents if their children brought home work about grammatical rules would not be able to help their kids with their homework without google IMO.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    "Stop shaming people on the internet for grammar mistakes" for an article from today on SMH online.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Are such a big,bad bully..that child is now scarred for life..She will be pondering algae for milenia 😰xx Freya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Perhaps S you and Miss Five were both right..English pronunciation...al-gee....American..al-guy 😘xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Apologies OP for being totally of topic but S_OnTheLoose mentioned a couple of phrases and I just have to add my own pet hate to the list: dry reaching. FFS sake people, it's dry RETCH!!!!! Much love, Elle xx

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