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being stood up by single guys
January 29 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
we feel that we dont have to explain to someone when we say "no thanks you're not what we are seeking" that should be explanation enough for a reasonable and intelligent person. everyone here has personal preferences and taste, about the sort of person/s they wish to play with or not. the question was about being stood up by people who do meet our requirements and who we have invited to join us. we hold no pretensions about who we are, but as adults are quite competent to make choices about those we invite. having done so and gained an acceptance from this person, we struggle to understand why, 15 minutes from arranged meeting time, we get a cursory text stating that our guest is not able to meet, despite confirmations, chats exchanged messages photos and emails to the contrary. what gives? what about the common courtesies? as busy parents and grandparents, our time is at a premium and we really do resent the little we have being wasted by those who give us little regard.
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RHP User
15 years ago
the first time i had organized a with a couple of this site was nerve racking. im not someone who gets nervous that easy. it was a big deal but you have to remember there are many pretenders out there. since breaking the ice it has been getting easier and easier!
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bluelight_taxi
15 years ago
The majority of us in RHP are genuine people whether we are Couples, Single ladies or guys all seeking fun times and friendship etc. Most times when people fail to show they are the pecentage of time wasters and married male pretending to be single or married with permission to play alone. What they don't take into concideration is that couple may have had to arrange for baby sitters, or make other plans if they have teenage kids at home. This I have been told by many couples etc that I have met is the biggest and some times the expensive part of planing a fun night of play. Validation of members has merit, but still falls short of the mark. naming and shaming can work but these time wasters just create another profile and become time wasting pains. Life goes on -love life - love long and have fun a nice bottle of red helps. It's a bit like Politicians no matter who we vote for we always get a Politician to run the country or should I say ruining the country. Bluelight_taxi
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HotOzCouple_cc
15 years ago
Isn't this topic beyond the "I don't get replies to messages"? There's eleventy other threads about that. this is about the followings from there, beyond chatting, beyond arranging a meet up, this is about the actual meeting, or as it would seem, NOT meeting of people at an arranged time. Why does everything always come back to the lack of attention debate? We've met a couple of guys, and have been stood up by a few, but that's guys that we're friends with by that time. If someone didn't show up to the very first meet, then that's it, they get the flick. If they grovel and ask why, we'll tell them straight up that they wasted our time and we won't wear that.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi , There are some very genuine single guy's out there , I've never stood anyone up , I've been to gangbang clubs and been comfortable , however I have had mates who have said they will do it and don't show on the night I think if couples coul;d just give validations on your profile it would certainlly help people realise your genuine
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sex is extraordinarily intimate. Of course, meeting new people can be very intimidating and men, women and couples, are going to have second thoughts, not knowing what to do about that feeling. Tough luck because that's human nature. When I first started fooling around on this site and a couple of others I would arrange meets, find a place to host.. etc... it's a lot of work organizing to meet someone... getting all the messages clear.. working out what expectations other people have... and then the "no show"... I mean, I'm a professional guy.. I've got lots to do at my desk when I'm not on here pretending to work..... and time is money... and recreation time is really restricted... a "no show" is a bad experience and we all have the right to be bitter about it and bitch to each other over it... That's why I like clubs. You go there, and the people who are there are the one's who have showed up. No expectations. It's that simple really. But it's always fun to find people at clubs that you have already built up a rapport. Even if you aren't having sex with them, it makes your night so much more entertaining. I've bumped into people from RHP in clubs on occasions and it is fun catching up face to face to the person you know by type writing, Pic or Vid.. so much more dynamic. If people are too intimidated to show up, then they really wouldn't have been a very good root anyway. That's how I reconcile it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its not only guys that stand you up, we have been let down by women and couples. As late as last Saturday evening, all planned and 30 mins after the planned arrival time we recieved a text OH sorry no baby sitter. at least they sent us a text. Some people just dowt show. T and A
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RHP User
15 years ago
Dont know what goes thru guys minds because ur wife has a really hot body and u both totally sound like a nice couple !!! Just a bunch of losers dont take it to heart hey its there loss !!!!! If there is a couple or lady who is genuinely looking for the same as me dont hesitate to contact me so good luck to you all thanx !!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
We are a genuine good looking couple who have tryed to get a good looking single male 18 - 28 for HER for ages. We like to see face and body pic's before we meet and thats where the wheels fall off. Several time now we have communicated to the point of meet... then nothing. ?? I think these guys sit behind their computer screens thinking of their own grandure until reality hits then they freeze... SHE... is very attractive... They are wankers... We get heaps of guys over the age limit we require' but we ask for 18 -28 for a reason'' BUUUTTTT does this stop the time wasters... NOOOO. Fair dinkum... Talk about frustrating..
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RHP User
15 years ago
oh no! Now you guys have me worried,we have booked a expensive room,i have pick out something so sexy,got the best wine,i am so ready, so to our new found friend if your reading this,dont be scared i wont bite....much
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Wicked_Lester
15 years ago
I have chatted to a number of females and couples on this site and arranged to meet a few of them. I have never stood anyone up as i am genuine and true to my word. Afterall, that is the reason i assumed we were all here for, to meet and play. I reside very close to you mikeandshel, if you would like to meet and play with a genuine single guy who has had experience playing in mfm threesomes, contact me. jay
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RHP User
15 years ago
OH we forgot to add, We actually took the plunge ONCE (never again) and decided to meet a Married guy, well to his credit he arrived at our 4 star hotel in Parramatta. After several discussions a few drinks the guy decided "OH I cant stay I feel guilty and cant betray my wife" Fuck they want to cheat and then get the guilts. Cum boys get it right, All you guys wonder why we DONT want to meet you.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Justjuice you are complaining about single guys in the age group you are after 18-28. Despite you looking good for your age have you considered that most young guys that are 16 to 26 years your junior might be after someone younger than you. You also say you get plenty of replies from guys over your age limit. Maybe you might consider there is a very good reason for this. I know you can have your fantasy, maybe you want to pretend you are having it off with your son or something, each to their own I say. It is also commonly known that the younger guys are more unreliable than older ones. Maybe if you be a bit more realistic and go for someone 10 years younger instead you will have a lot more success. Worth considering if you genuinely want to meet guys.There are plenty that would be willing to meet you I am sure but majority would be over 28.
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RHP User
15 years ago
dunno i always stump up its fun, the first couple of times is quite nerve racking but worth the bravery. Thats a tough one to answer without being a person who fails to show. Maybe its cause being nude with another bloke in the shower after a game of footy is one thing and nude in bed with one with a hard on is another that scares the bejesus outta them??? Sounded like a good idea at the time but as the moment got nearer they chicken out? Good luck
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ive also been stood up, mainly by women, and ive also changed my mind on meeting people, but not at the last minute. It has to feel right, so I can understand it, and people genuinely think they want to meet, then on the day, the nerves kick in and its just easier not to go. Also you think youre getting to know someone and then they say something weird or behave in a certain way that can put you off. Ive got to be at lease comfortable with the person im meeting. Also it is a advantage to the couple who already know each other, and the single person has to turn up cold. Can be quite intimadating. I dont think people do it maliciously, (not turn up), I just think they get nervous and cant conquer it. Its annoying when it happens to you though. I think you just have to factor it in as a possiblity and take the risk. Give people a chance. Sooner or later you will meet someone.
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RHP User
15 years ago
it's hard enough cutting through on here and being noticed without guys doing that. don't give up couple there are genuine guys on here who will meet up. cheers
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2more4fun
15 years ago
I think (and going from one experience) that a lot of guys are pretty sure that they are up for MFM (and they are really turned on by the idea) but freak out at the last minute. If time isn't an issue, I'd consider just arranging a social date with a guy (you can always change your plans later if all works out) so there's no pressure on anyone. I think perhaps too many people assume that men are all sure-things and should be able to perform with anyone, anytime. Would we really expect a single girl to rock up with the expectation to play with people she only just met? Why would we think a guy is any different? Sure, a lot of guys put on the whole macho/stud routine but maybe they feel they need to? I have to admit I wouldn't be attracted to a guy who pussy-footed around the idea of MFM but nor would I want a guy who couldn't give a stuff if I had two heads as long as he could get his load off. Keep it respectful I say. Meet over drinks first. So much hotter to develop some attraction with your clothes on first!
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RHP User
15 years ago
How typical!!!! I have a play partner ( we are married to other people ) but rarely manage to be able to slip away from our partners on the same night. I have a singles profile ( male ) and do you think I can manage to hook up with a couple - not a chance. Of course I'm not 25 with a 10" dick........ I am experienced at MMF. Too many wannabees on this site which riuns it for the guys like me that do this sort of thing not because they THINK they want it but because they ACTUALLY enjoy doing it. I will get off my soap box now.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Singles standing up couples , Couple no - shows , Group bailouts ; N just your everyday Liazon / Meet & Greet :- The time is noted , the place is agreed upon after great effort it's all going to happen ... Yay. Your abode gets a good going over including yourself in anticipation of a hot erotic encounter . Everything is Set . The mind is racing .... Some fantastic thoughts and fantasies are emerging . The blood is pumping . Now we're coming alive . All exited & happy about things ahead ... Nuthing like anticipation and an adrenalin rush for reality .....(love it) SCREECH ,,,.. SWerve ,,.. watiff I'm not liked , am i too fat , my clothes are daggy , car's a bomb , not much cash , gaawd wotif I can't do the wild thing ? Shiite , all the doubt now it's sealed . CccRash .. The 'ol performance anxiety routine pops up & the paranoia shadow looms . EXIT - Stage right ... No delivery here.> You've seen the scenario like me ...& then the excuses > "I'm great" ...(self absorption skills generated) ... "Nuthin to worry about" ... # yup .. it's good to know that a date can be organised which makes everyone feel good about themselves . youbet .. we feel confident in the fact that we can still attract other people & luv the thrill of the chase . dealbreaker.... with the fact that it's a No-Show .... & the knowledge of other people being let down ( I'm sure they have put in some effort - an apology required/or at least sum animated grovelling) and disappointed . NnTimeWasting Wannabies abound .........At least be honest with yourself with your abilities .... Delusions aside ! We've all started somewhere ...... Grab that lungfull of fresh air and Swallow .. haha .. you'd be surprised what a bit of resolve & commitment will do in your life . The breath out is usually exhilarating ; if not .... move on and try some fresh air and breathe somewhere else ... Simple .. Methinks.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Mike and Shel Whether it be single males - females or couples - we haven't yet been stood up. We have received a call from couples on occasion - that they cannot make it for whatever reason - but they did provide the courtesy of ringing. Usually at least a day in advance. I think it comes down to the quality of qualification you do when chatting - whether msn or phone - or combinations of both. What you need to be mindful of - is when chatting especially on msn - whether they are using the chat and booking a "date" as really a sexual aid to help them masturbate at that moment. Typically they'll ask what you are wearing or tell you what they are doing - at which stage we normally cut the chat. That's not our thing. Trust your instincts - not the excitement at booking a date. P.S. Hope all is well - haven't chatted with you two for a bit. :)
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piercedfun
15 years ago
i think alot of guys stand people up cause they think they are the men and they get nervous he i always meet and still get a little nervous meeting new people but my theory is if i dont meet them how will i know if ill get along with them also i think some do it for kicks to fuck peoples plans around and make the rest of us single men look bad because a think a few people are off single men due to this reason if i was to meet someone and for some reason i was unable to make it i would give at least a days notice or still make the effort to meet after all its not all about sex it can be to meet and make new friends too
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RHP User
15 years ago
hy in all the time iv been on here satday was my met i drove 70k met her for drinks and met her to kids and too friends and then she was tiyed so i drove home it was nice to met her but she want ring. so if i say ill met you or you2 i will
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RHP User
15 years ago
This has happened to us so many times now i have lost count. We have booked motel rooms organised kids and work, we get to where we are meeting and not so much as a text to say they are not coming. It makes it really hard to believe what anybody says anymore. I would appreciate a text to say not coming buy allas that doesnt happen.
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