M64
do many guys like fat chicks?
July 20 2009
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RHP User
15 years ago
well well well Im a size 22, sometimes a 24, depends what time of the month it is. I am a very curvy girl with some of those curves that are not in the right places. I have cellulite I have size E tits and there is nothing small about me. Shit I even wobble sometimes. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat very healthy, I play basketball. I have perfect health. I can keep up to the best of them. So I ask the question what catagorie does this put me in as I can do everything that a so called "skinny chick" can do. Yes Im a big girl but I look after myself and I take so much pride in my apperance. In my opinion it isnt about the numbers on the scale. If you are happy in yourself and you are reasonably healthy then that all that matters. I for one couldnt care less what everybody else thinks about my size. females will always have something to complain about, will always bitch about that girl who has a big arse or that isnt wearing the right clothes...so come on girls and guys isnt it time we all just excepted each other for who we are. Life is to short, we can be taken of this earth in a blink of an eye so please lets just have fun. "Skinny girls
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh I do try and avoid forums but here goes. Firstly, each to their own desires. Different people like different things and are influenced by upbringing and life experiences, not to mention fashion and popular media. Fat, muscle, blue eyes, brown hair, long legs, big breasts, big bums? The combinations are endless for both sexes. Now there is what is fashionable and for quite some time that has been the slimmer look, for both men and women. Fashions can also be linked to the old survival of the fittest deal. In simpler societies where food isn't abundant a larger frame is more desired as it is deemed that the person has been able to obtain food and is therefore "wealthier" and healthier and more productive - ie a better prospect to shag and procreate and pass on the genes! I spent some time in an isolated community with bugger all natural food resources and the bigger the lass the more socially attractive she was as her main role was having and caring for babies, on the converse the men were all skinny little waifs, which likely aided their roles in climbing coconut trees and running over coral reefs catching fish! Now to our society where we have an over abundance of food and what's socially desirable? I don't need to answer do I? There are many reasons someone may be larger and people shouldn't be instantly judged by their frame but the fact is that we are getting fatter and unhealthier and still expecting our health system to look after us and not cost us any more. Now before the wrath of people carrying too much body fat comes down on me, consider that there are many different sized frames but there IS a healthy range for percent body fat and it DOES affect health. Then there is exercise, it's good for you but as being too thin is also unhealthy, it is possible to over exercise. Also with a heavier body mass exercise can be dangerous to joints not to mention the ol' heart! These biggest loser programs need to be careful as that kind of regime is a tad careless. Personally, I prefer people of similar size to me but what I have learned on this site is it's nice to explore outside of this. I have my ideal partner and feel I am blessed but it's nice to experience a little difference. Women we meet are amazed with her breasts and nearly all say they want a boob job whereas I am quite partial to a nice little pair but do like going home with what I have! I do laugh when people ONLY want to play with exact copies of themselves - taste the difference I say! OK getting off topic! Both my partner and I love great food and wine, love to have the odd big night out and also work ourselves into the depths of tiredness, the upshot being we don't get enough exercise and the only six pack we have is in the fridge but hey we are very comfortable with our self image and probably come in as above average, that's for you to decide? BUT some time ago having taken the plunge into training I can see how unfit I was. I've aimed to lose 10kgs, which would have me at the current "ideal" for health, well I'm a 3rd of the way and haven't changed in months but the fitness improvement is amazing. It's nice to be able to run flat out for that bus and actually catch it and not be short of breath. This I think is a good indication of basic fitness. So here's the challenge: Next time you're walking somewhere and have a couple of hundred metres to go, try running as fast as you possibly can till you reach your destination. Did you make it without stopping? Could you still stand? Could you talk without spluttering? If so continue on with no change. If not, consider what it is to be yourself and how your current fitness level will affect you, your family and the wider community. I do not come from an overly sporty bunch of friends and family so the fitness pursuit doesn't come that easy, it's a lot of hard work! Less stigma on appearance and more focus on health would be a start. Sorry for the rambling but I'm a BBW - thats Babbling Big Writer isn't it?
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RHP User
15 years ago
....just a little addition. Gyms are there to make money and MOSTLY (as a generalisation you understand) are staffed by minimally educated people (don't scream gym junkies there would be some good ones but how is the lay person to know???). Again personal trainers are a dime a dozen, I think you can actually get qualifications in 4 weeks now!!!! So IF you are not used to exercise and especially if you are over weight or have other health issues, do yourself a favour and look up an Exercise Physiologist and you may just have a chance of getting it right. If you have health issues your GP can refer you for a series of sessions with an EP and the government will pick up the tab. These guys will assess you and SHOULD give you an idea of what you need to do for the individual that is YOU. I asked mine to give me a 6 pack and he bought me a beer!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well you say that you find the larger BBW hard to find, but as a role reversal to the question we find it hard to meet people that will accept us for been 'larger' so if there are couples/men/women out there that like the larger size then search for us good looking 'fat' people as we are out there, lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
....just a little addition. Gyms are there to make money and MOSTLY (as a generalisation you understand) are staffed by minimally educated people (don't scream gym junkies there would be some good ones but how is the lay person to know???). Again personal trainers are a dime a dozen, I think you can actually get qualifications in 4 weeks now!!!! So IF you are not used to exercise and especially if you are over weight or have other health issues, do yourself a favour and look up an Exercise Physiologist and you may just have a chance of getting it right. If you have health issues your GP can refer you for a series of sessions with an EP and the government will pick up the tab. These guys will assess you and SHOULD give you an idea of what you need to do for the individual that is YOU. I asked mine to give me a 6 pack and he bought me a beer!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am a size 22 and never been skinny. Like MissBJ I am what my doctor refers to as "sickeningly healthy"! My blood pressure has always been normal (even when I was pregnant), my blood sugars and cholesterol are normal (my "bad" cholesterols are below normal) and a heart stress test I had a year ago was normal too. Heck, I even like going to the gym!! Anyway, here I am a fat tart... and I wouldn't have it any other way!! I realise that my size is not everyone's cuppa tea and that's ok... I would rather someone love me for me than for some ideal they want me to be. I say... vive la vida.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I get sooooooooooo damn annoyed at people who say overweight people are unhealthy... So therefore assuming that a slim person is healthy... How wrong is that!! Anorexia is just as dangerous on a persons health as gross obesity... So stop bagging people.. I actually went to my GP to discuss weight loss.. He said to me.. Why do you want to lose weight?? You are perfectly healthy! I have clear skin, great colour, the whites of my eyes are very clear and white.. I am very actuive, and still have the fexibility of a child. He told me that I look great just the way I am, and that there was abolutely no medical reason why I had to lose weight. In fact he discouraged me from losing weight. He did ask me why I wanted to lose weight, and all I could think of was because of the way other people saw me.. Stupid reason really! I am a size 16/18, and whilst I would like to have the options of a broader range of clothing (big girls clothes can tend to look sack like) overall I am happy with me.. Majick
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RHP User
15 years ago
there is nothing wrong with a bbwthey enjoy sex so much more and seem like real people no bullshit
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RHP User
15 years ago
I can understand people have weight issues, but a lot comes down to energy. Its a very easy equation- if you consum more energy than you spend, then you will put on weight. Simple.For 10 years i had tried to PUT on weight. I went to doctors, nutritionists, dieticians etc etc. They all told me what i should do with absolutely no success. Finally a Personal Trainer asked me to measure my energy output, so he hooked me up to a pedometer and asked me to use it for a week then average the score.Cut a long story short, i was averaging 30,000 steps a day, with peaks at 56,000, working as a builder. Then i used to go to the gym!So now when people tell me hey can't lose weight i know they are just NOT trying hard enough. Period.This is not meant to get people down, or to offend, but rather highlight the fact that if you really want to lose weight, you have to WORK HARD at it. Then when you think you have done it all, do more
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RHP User
15 years ago
i am a big girl a size 26 actually and have never been short of male admirers i take pride in my appearance and like to look nice i am a girly girl and i love sex but never used to i was embarassed to be seen naked and definitley would think someone was playing games with me if they said they wanted to take me out on a date whenever someone messages me i tell them straight i am a large gorgeous lady that has an obsession with cocks i get horny in fact we have the same urges as the skinny girls yes i am on a diet to lose weight but that is because of my health i am happy the way i am but it took a long time to realise this and a couple of great guys so come on fellars we would give you a run for your money
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RHP User
15 years ago
come on people lighten up...how boring would the world be if we were all exactly the same..none of us would be on this site. If we ate the same food every day we would soon lose our appetite, so thank God for variety...mmmmmm whats for dinner hun.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We all get judged by our appearance, whether we are male or female. You cannot say that there is a double standard whereby guys are allowed to get away with being overweight. He only gets away with it because his partner lets him. She is free to walk out if it bothers her. I accept the fact the I will never get as many girls as a Calvin Klein model but you dont hear me screaming about double standards or how superficial the world is.... One other thing, what is more superficial, somebody who likes a woman for her looks (which is part of her phyical self), or those women who go for guys because of their money?
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RHP User
15 years ago
The wording could have been put nicer I agree but I'm not gonna say the same as everyone else. I don't see the problem with being curvy, but there is a difference beteween being curvy and just being unhealthy. Skinny is the same as calling someone fat, there is a line as to how thin or how big someone should be. It has nothing to do with being thin just so everyone will like you or think your hotter, but you have to atleast look after yourself and eat nice food and exercise a bit. Sitting down eating maccas all day and being lazy isn't exactly a great lifestyle and isn't exactly looking after yourself. But then there are people who are overweight becaue of medications or medical conditions and what not so in saying that you cant judge a book by its cover there could be reason behind it. But everyone is different, some like to be supermodel stick thin, some like to be really really curvy. People who are stick thin wouldnt get given as much sh*t because their all you see on tv and magazines so its called 'normal' hmmm hard choice here so many things to consider..
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RHP User
15 years ago
why does this post keep coming up saying its got new comments when it doesnt appear to??Do the comments add to the middle??Im finding that this happens on a few of the posts.....dont know why thoughJust my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
In response to hotazice, I have recently been obth sides of te weight debate..... And itseems women are just as judgemental as women..... I kno this will gesome women fired up but it is true...Having recently broken my ankle at work quite badly and having been unable to work or exercise due to the nature my injury i hve put on roughly 22kgs over the last 6 months...I dont consider myself to be pretty boy nor ugly either, but pre injury i was about 88kgs nd pretty lean, im a stocky, heavy set kinda guy with big shoulders and arms and chest....now i have a little more around the face and a lot more around the stomach....now before my injury, i go to the pool frequently and do heaps of cycling and used to get a fair bit of attention from females at the pool, riding my bike, anywhere really...recently during a trip to the pool, saw a couple of regular girls who attend the pool staring at me and whispering..now im the kind of guy who doesnt really givea shit aout these sorts of things but it did highlight the change of attitude in these 2 girls who would have smiled and said hello....cmon girls..... guys have feelings too.....
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dms2004
15 years ago
mr dms here, i play a little game with myself when out in public situations. when i see a group of women i often ask myself who would i sleep with and invariably go for the one with biggest bum and curviest hips. it's a shame men are generalised so badly. i believe we all have a preference which stems from whatever reason be it slim or large. it's the shallower personality typers (men and women) who can't look past what the tv and mags tell us is beautiful. men and women are guilty of this. i just love curvy girls, i love their womanly shape but at the end of the day it's the personality, kinks and intelligence that is going to make me want to go to bed with them. mr dms.
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RHP User
15 years ago
They are bigger , yes , but so much more real and sexy. More confident, cheeky and fun to be with. May your God bless them all
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Out4FunWA' I agree with your comments 100%. STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR WEIGHT. If you are overweight, you are unhealthy and therefore at risk of diabetes, cardiovascular disease, strokes etc, etc. As a society we all eat way more than we need to, in order to survive. We are becoming an obese population and this will have serious consequences in the future. I speak from experience, having been a nurse and still working in the health industry. I have also suffered a back injury from lifting you selfish overweight people (most of which suffered strokes)!! Fat is NOT attractive. Curves are fine and a little extra padding may be ok too, but not excessive weight. I am a size 14 and consider that Iam somewhat overweight and that I need to keep control of my weight as I refuse to put on any more, but to lose some. I know that I can me slimmer with some effort. It's not rocket science 'Less in - more out'. I am also bi-sexual and love shapely women, but I am simply not attracted to fat chicks. Stop being PC people and get real. S OMG could you be any more nasty and horrible?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well...my 10cents here. PFFT..to bendover kitten! I admire the larger lady who goes the extra mile and holds her head high. I am 42 and see very few men 40-50 who don't have that beer gut and present well.
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RHP User
15 years ago
no such thing as fat they are women size doesnt count personality is what matters
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some thoughts that flashed through my mind while reading the above posts. I'm not going to get into an argument about them, take what you want, discard what you don't want.I don't like the term fat chicks. Mmmm I don't think using the term fat chic was the correct term to useMaybe the man wanted to stirr up a strong debateThere are really obese guys and chics in the world, there are lots of twiggys too. Mmmmm we categorise ppl according to our own individual preceived scales a measures I thinkOoops that lady said she has some extra padding.....wonder where she saw that.Oooohhhhhhh slim hey......not according to what I see in that pic.I remember seeing references in female profiles about guys with beer bellies, short dicks, dicks over x inches, skinny guys, fat guys, cut guys, uncut guys etc etc etc. We all seem to have preferences and call the game as we see it. I have seen some nasty references in guys profiles. Wow that was crude and rude mate!Mmmmm "Letsunite" did apologise and he seems genuine. Life isn't fair but its still good!I'm sorry to hear about that accident or condition.Gee life is too short to hate or dislike anyone, and it takes too much effort anyways.I ate myself stupid. Wow that took guts!I'm going to show off my beautifully toned body thats come about through gym work and enjoyment of who I amWow thats positiveWhen in doubt, then just take the next small positive stepYeah agree to disagreeResistance to choccolate is futileBeauty is in the eye of the beholderMost people are not happy with their appearanceThe very slim want to put on weight and most others want to loose it. Its a trange world Master Jack!Maybe not a good idea to compare our lives with others because we have no idea what their journey is/was likeSome under weight people have died Some way over weight ppl have diedOh yeah...mmmm get rid of what isn't useful, joyful or beautiful.....mmmmmmWhy do I get so many replies to compliments that I pay ppl that reads 'sorry not inyerested, you're outside my age bracket. Oh and I just said you have a lovely profile, have a great weekend.No one other than you yourself is incharge of your happinessWhat others think of you is none of your business. Is it really worth trying to convince them?I've seen many a beautiful book with a crappy cover...oooh remember that one that had no covers at all!Mmmmm all people and their looks will change with timeEnvy is a waste of timeI bet if we piled all our problems and low self esteem onto a pile, we'd soon run to take them back once we see what others have to put on their pileIn the end what truly matters is that you loved and if you were really fortunate you were loved tooDamn wish I was still 25!Why the heck am I not living in ............. ( I guarrantee you that was not: in the middle ages! ) lolYeah guys while the lights are on it matters but what happens when they get turned off.......would u still turn that chic down?Yeah yeah if theres a pulse! lolSome may have made you chuckle, others may have upset you.............I'm sorry if you got upset.......my thoughts go toungue in cheeck so to speak....some are from my own experiences. Lets forgive and forget, be happy in ourselves and do our best to achieve whatever we set out to achieve.............I so hope I can get to be 25 again!Take care and have a lovely weekendCiao
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Silvia00
15 years ago
I agree with PeteyWhiteShoes we are all different and are attracted to different physical aspects....I have been both the skinny chick and the fat chick and can say I have seen 1st hand peoples attitudes....We are forgetting one thing people....RESPECT
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RHP User
15 years ago
LMFAO...omg...i just realised that there are 3 pages of this post!!How fucking stupid am i?? Wonder if its coz i got a fat ass??HAHAHAHAHAHA.....(that was a joke people!)and i just wanna say....the people that like me do so because of who i am...but the ones that dont like me dont because of what i look like. Its a funny old world we live in..and it takes all types....so i dont judge the judges....i just do my thang with all my sexy friends....and it dont matter to me their size, shape, creed, religion or age...they only have to be nice.Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
He called it what it is.Fat chick is Fat chick.No misunderstanding.No pondering what he meant.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Im big on honesty and Im a fat chick. In fact I refer to myself that way on occasion and it really shits me when you get someone with a smarmy smile simpering saying "oh dont put yourself down". Hey I didnt! I just said that I was a fat chick which I am. I didnt say I was ugly. In fact Im am quite attractive and very comfortable and confident with who I am. I know what I want in and out of bed and Im not afraid to ask for what I want. If it freaks guys out then they shouldve wised up when they first got together with me. If my blunt manner of speaking doesnt give them an idea of what they are in for then god help them!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think curves on a girl a sexy, I have skinny friends and think they are beautiful. I have to agree on what has been said about guys ignoring big girls at a club, I think its crap and they all need to get over themselves. I, like BJ, am two different sizes 18 on top and 16 on the bottom, but I think I still have my sexy moments where I feel like a model. I can also relate to Frack, I too had a car accident except I just broke my femur. That was 9 months ago and I'm still recovering with another surgery in November. I have my days where I dont like what I see in the mirror, but when I am better I know I will be able to me more active, I don't eat a lot of junk food or a lot of food for that matter, its just a lack of physical activity and I can't wait to get back to it! I was 97kg back when I was 21 and a size 16 and that is where I can't wait to be.Its fair enough if big girls aren't your thing, but be polite about it, we have feelings too. HotazIce, you look like a gorgeous girl and its good to hear you are better, good luck with it and I hope you can keep on top of it.I aim to be a size 14 one day, but for now I just wanna be seen as sexy just how I am. Afterall, gotta be kind to the cripple girl :P lol j/k
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RHP User
15 years ago
Someone else who is simply honest about who they are, what they feel and how they see themselves. I hate being big, but I don't hate myself and I think I'm a great person in spite of my supposed failings as a woman. It's other people who make being bigger a problem, with their snippy, ill mannered comments. I'm not putting myself down when I call myself fat. I am! I have never told a guy he has a small cock, it's just not in my nature to be that mean to someone. I may not be attracted to a guy, but I certainly would never put someone down based on their appearance.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just adding an opinion here...I am quite comfortable being called a fat chick, as that is how I often refer to myself. I am what I am and accept it! I am size 16 bottom and 18-20 on top. I am also extremly fit! I workout an hour and a half a day at the gym, with a trainer, 6 days a week. I eat low carb low gi foods (yes i like it) and manage to not loose weight. As such, can only assume that this is the best body i can have. So I make no excuses for my lumps, curves, and rolls, as they seem to wanna stay!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sonsie - I am very confident in stating that a very small percentage of overweight people would have a genetic or hormonal disorder. Apart from sheer over-eating and lack of exercise, these 2 reasons are the only ones that apply to people who are unfortunate to be 'obese' through no fault of their own. Lets get real here, how many babies are born 'overweight'? Very few!! It is a lifestyle choice.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yay!! Well said. By the way, that is a very sexy arse in the photo.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Frack Me I am both confident and yes, maybe a little arrogant at times. However, I was brought up to believe that honesty is the best policy. I would be lying if I didn't make the comments I made. My life is pretty well fulfilled - Happy marriage, great sex with more than just my husband (mutual consent every time), healthy, happy daughter, beautiful house, good job that pays well, great social life ...... shall I go on??? Not much missing in MY life now is ther?? Actually, just one thing- could do with losing a few kilos, maybe 4-5kg
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RHP User
15 years ago
Probably, and yes I could. Just honest. I would rather spend my hard earned dollars on genuine illness and people who have major health problems through no fault of their own. Obesity related diseases will spiral out of control and cost the health system excessively. We will all have be pay for it - even you. Do you think that's fair???
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes, yes, yes to this comment from Frack_Me! I know that there are lots of other issues here but one that seems especially important to me is Frack_Me's comment "I have never told a guy he has a small cock". Exactly.. I mean why? why would you say that to someone? What possible good can it do to make mean, spiteful comments? You can bet your bottom dollar that he already knows it anyway... There are so many reasons for people to look the way they do... why all the need for negative comments... so much better to focus on the positive and if they still don't rock your boat, move on in the nicest way possible! LIVE AND LET LIVE PEOPLE!!! :-) Quoting 'Frack_Me' Someone else who is simply honest about who they are, what they feel and how they see themselves. I hate being big, but I don't hate myself and I think I'm a great person in spite of my supposed failings as a woman. It's other people who make being bigger a problem, with their snippy, ill mannered comments. I'm not putting myself down when I call myself fat. I am! I have never told a guy he has a small cock, it's just not in my nature to be that mean to someone. I may not be attracted to a guy, but I certainly would never put someone down based on their appearance.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Every day I get out of bed and feel the pain in my spine that was fractured when some dickhead in a car, on a mobile phone, bashed into the back of me. I've been paying for many years now. I havent once said that some overweight people are not their own worst enemies. I even admitted it myself.... scroll back to my large post on a pervious page, and I admit that I ate myself stupid while dealing with my depression. I lost my acting career, I lost my fitness, I lost my self confidence.... so I am paying and have paid for a long while now. I will continue to pay since I now have arthritis And I'm paying for my lap band surgery as well, so that I am no longer judged by what I look like, but what I can do, what I have always been able to do, but people tend to overlook on seeing my body shape. So please, don't tell me I'm taking tax payers money away from those who need it. I have been paying for private health insurance for years, and no one is paying for anything I want. I'm honest too. I always have been. I just don't go out of my way to hurt people's feelings.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi again Frack Me. I take your points into consideration. There are many dickheads out there who cause many prople a lot of harm. You were obviously on the receiving end of one of them. Sorry to hear this. Good on ya for having Private Health Insurance. More people should. Hats off to you also for taking the courage to have the lap banding surgery. This can be very successful. It is not my intention to hurt people's feeling, just to say it as I feel. I too have been hurt by comments in the past, so I know what it is like. I am also involved in the area of weight-loss as part of my job. This is why it is a subject that concerns me. I wish you all the luck in the world for your forthcoming surgery and hope it works for you.
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RHP User
15 years ago
So what do you call fat ..I have 12 d breast and am size 14 .......am i fat ??????? Im full figured and modeled lingerie should i now hide myself because im curvacious...get real guys shape is in............curves are in I look hotter being full figured in corsetry you dont know what u miss...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I guess then that I should consider myself lucky that I have a 2 inch scar across the base of my neck so if I were to meet you in the street you might actually see it and not jump to the conclusion that I over-eat, under excersise, not give a crap and then make 'excuses' for my weight? You seem to be overly confident in your some-what limited knowledge, so I figure you would know what that scar means.... and I think you'd be very surprised just how common it is! The point I was trying to make to you was that you shouldn't make assumptions...there aren't always noticable scars, and the scars aren't always physical - it doesn't make them less real or less of a reason. If these people can actually do something about their weight then they need understanding, support and encouragement - something I would have thought you understood given you are in the weight loss industry.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok....I need to say something.Yes...I am overweight...obese even. Yes...I dont exercise enough...and I am trying to remedy that.BUT...my problem stems from growing up with a mother that thought anything other than size 10 was too fat.A mother that decided that as a 15 year old size 12 I was too fat so therefore was not allowed any food for 1 day a week.A mother that told me as a 10 year old weighing 5 stone that I wasnt allowed horseriding because I would break its back.A mother that told me that had I gotten HIV instead of pregnant...it wouldnt have been so bad...because at least I would have lost weight.A mother that could never love me because in her eyes I weighed too much.Now....I am fat and my sister is bulimic.I dont eat enough....because there is always that voice in my head telling me I shouldnt..and my metabolism has slowed.So fuck off with your judgements....there are ALWAYS issues.Noone WANTS to be this way.It can be physiological...physical...emotional...economical...usuallly laziness is the last reason.I am so sick of people telling me why I am how I am.Have my life....see how you do with it.Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Obviously not everyone is attracted to everyone and I know I can get really turned on by a healthy fit body.. but sometimes when I am all nuded up with such a person, kissing, mentally horny, trying to get it together ... well frankly, I guess my dick knows what it wants and what it doesn't want and there's nothing I can do to convince it otherwise!! You know.. standing there starkers with this beautiful person swinging off the end of my nob thinking.. well, this isn't really working... so I say "Do you wanna go get a cup of coffee or something"... lol. Some people are just not made for each other.... I think it comes down to pheremones... so for me, the superficial initial attraction towards athletic bodies does not always pan out. I guess for what gets me going, a person's body size doesn't actually come into it, so far as my cock is concerned. I've decided to just have to go with the flow and watch for the twitches!! lmfao. Whoever says they don't have a mind of their own hasn't got one!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok well it seems soooo easy to get a rise out of some very over-sesitive people out there. Deal with your issues - get help, whatever it takes. But DEAL with it. Bored now with this debate. Everyone has an opinion and a point of view. We will all have to agree to disagree. I'll just go off now and take responsibility for my weight gain - and not blame others, it's my fault I have put on some weight and only I can sort it. Myabe it's just my strength of character that I refuse to pass the buck. Good luck to you all and happy weight loss programs. I'm off to shed a few kilos!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
while I havent read all the posts on here Ive got a general idea of the pro's and con's. Im fat. Have been all my life. Last time I saw my ribs I was probably bout 5 years old. I know they are there so Im not worried. Im fit, I play sports, I ride/compete horseriding etc and have bloody skinny muscular legs for a fat chick! Im bout a size 18 now but I used to be massssivvvee. I started losing weight when I stopped giving a shit about what people think. Its amazing how the mind more than any part of the body plays a huge factor in weightloss. The only problem I have now is I still think like a fat person. I have a friend who is a size 10 and fantastic. She tells it to me like it is and made an interesting observation about me one day. She said the fact that I had lost weight hadnt registered mentally with me and I still dragged myself around like I was carrying those extra 40 odd kilos. Even the way I got on a horse. She said it was like watching a small person trying to lugg a massive bag of weight as i threw me leg over and settled into the saddle. The only thing is that bag is all in my mind. So in my own humble opinion I think that once we sort out whats going on in our heads then thats when we have a better chance to successfully sort out whats going on with our bodies. Knowing that there are people out there that have the time and patience to have successful friendships and relationships with people of bigger body types helps more than walking down the street being ridiculed for looking different. Gives me faith that there are more than just dickheads out there looking to get their end away 'any holes a goal right!?!'
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RHP User
15 years ago
Out4Fun....I hope you weren't flattering yourself by thinking you got a rise out of me - I was actually being more patronising than defensive LOL. That chip on your shoulder would probably be a good place for you to start your weight loss, followed by your ego. MissBJ...thank you for sharing your story hon and I'm so sorry that you were made to feel that way - and by your mum of all people. Just remember - physical beauty fades, but a beautiful soul will be beautiful forever and you truly are a gem.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Gee there are some narrow minded peeps around hey??Im so glad that I dont want to know people like that!!Sonsie...thanks hon...yes...my mother is a piece of work alright...and it's something i am still dealing with....but i will prevail...coz under it all...under all the fat....I am a great person....with morals and values and a brain...and i dont have to resort to belittling others in order to feel worthy.And while i agree with Out4FunWA....that everyone has an opinion...i DONT believe that ANYONE has the right to tell anyone that theirs is wrong! And you know what?? The guys i meet....they like ME. They dont just wanna fuck a hottie...add a notch to their belts...and leave. Anyway...there are always gonna be fat chicks...just like there's always gonna be skinny chicks...and in-between chicks.Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
letsunite i think something needs to be said... you need to watch your words with great care. you wonder where the ladies are that have more to love? they are all around you but i fear the way you approach the topic and perhaps (and im guessing) how you approach ladies in life will get you nowhere. the female breed does not tolerate a arrogant man and never will. last time someone spoke to me in that way i sent them to the emergency room....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sonsie Aha maybe that's the problem, hey? Too many chips. Yep we all have an ego and because we do, we have the ability to have opinions and therefor to differentiate ourselves from each other. Ego - 'noun' meaning: the “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought. Over it lovey
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm off to get a life now. There is only SO much one can take of this pointless discussion. Wondering now why I got involved ho hum
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RHP User
15 years ago
the topic suddenly became boring. My mother once said something to me that made me re-think the difference between arrogance and self confidence. Ego has about 5 or 6 meanings including the one that Out4FunWA quoted. The one that I think applies in this case, to really describe ego is ....egotism; conceit; self-importance: Her ego becomes more unbearable each day. While Ego may not be a dirty word, it's in the way you display it that makes the real difference. Ego can very easily become ego in a very short while. I tell my students, arrogance is needing to let everyone know how good you are. You shout it from the roof tops and feel the need to big note yourself, without having to! Self confidence means you don't need to tell anyone how good you are, they will know it through what you do for people and how you treat them. You look at the group view, but you feel strength and courage for your own opinions. And this discussion has not been pointless. No discussion is pointless if people are willing see another persons side of an arguement and perhaps starting thinking about other veiwpoints. If you suscribe to that point of view, the world might actually start looking like a much nicer place. We might start excepting all people for who they are, not what they look like.
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RHP User
15 years ago
the topic suddenly became much more interesting.HugsMrsP
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RHP User
15 years ago
Viewpoints are all very valid, but it is somewhat difficult to dispute, argue, or disagree with the reality. Being overweight or indeed obese, IS EXTREMELY UNHEALTHY and is a precursor to a whole range of end organ damage that WILL require medical intervention etc, etc. Excuse me for stating the bloody obvious. Can't help the fact that I was once a nurse and have seen this for myself. Can't help the evidence-based science that cannot be changed. All the do - good, socially aware, nicey, nicey will not change these cold hard facts. Now I really MUST move on and get a life. If I sit around on this computer much longer I WILL GET FAT!!!! To quote Blur 'Cut down on your pork-life & get some exercise.' Over & out.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Firstly, I have to say, I agree with Peteywhiteshoes...THIS is just MY opinion...(female) I was always a chubby kid, all my female relatives and there are lots of them are overweight to obese. When I had my first 2 kids I went to a size 18-20. I was still the same person inside but I was uncomfortable in my skin. I then realised I was in a very unhappy marriage, booted him, and my weight followed. I am now a size 10-12, have 2 more kids and you know what? I still hate my body! I have flabby bits, I have bits that are stretched, and I have a fat ass still. I've come to realise this. It doesn't matter what other people think of you, it's how you think of yourself and your health. If you can not respect your health, then so be it. Just one problem with tat. Why should health issues directly linked with being obese be subsidised by tax payers? Just a thought. Alot of overweight people are just overweight, not obese. I am overweight. I have to lose about 7kg to be in my BMI. But I visit my family, and they say "omg look at you skinny bitch". I just think if someone is unhappy with their weight, no matter what the reason for the weight gain, there are options to losing weight. Look at Frack me, as much as it is the last option, surgery is an option. And she is taking the step to a healthier life, not necessarily a happier or sexier life. I say that because in agreeance to most of you, weight has nothing to do with inside happiness. Some people will like you, some people will hate you, no matter what your size. Everyone has a "fetish" of some description, so lets just agree to disagree that some people find curvier people sexy, some don't :) Personally, to answer the question, I know what it is like to be fatter, and I still am pretty fussy with who I want to play with. Reason being is that I am happy in my relationship and have a sexy man, I am here to have what pleases me. YES I am saying a hot body pleases me...that is my "fetish". Hope I don't offend anyone..like I said, just my thoughts :D I still love everyone the same as friends, no matter what shape, until you piss me off ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I hate to again also "state the obvious", but just because a person is fat, that doesn't mean they are stupid. As a self confessed fatty..... I have been making valid arguements about the way people treat someone who is overweight. You illustrate my point about ego exactly. You have not really listened to the valid arguements being made on both sides. This topic was not about bashing large people and calling them stupid by ommission. We are not stupid, we know we should be losing weight but for varying reasons, we can't. The reasons are individual and relevant to the person to whom the problem belongs. They certainly are not open for others to bash us over the head with, but once again, the need to make one's self feel better by making someone else feel bad rears it ugly head. You shouldn't feel you have the right to judge others. As an ex- nurse, I would have expected some compassion and understanding from you. The cold hard fact's are fine, but as any Cognitive Behavioural Therapist will tell you, it's about how you approach a situation. Personal Trainer's are employed by people who want to get fit to motivate and use their skills to get the best results. I have never seen a PT in my local gym yelling red faced at a client to "motivate" them. People with problems want understanding and empathy, not clinical, hard faced and unempathetic robots. There can be hard love, but that doesn't mean the heart is hardened towards compassion. Now, to be slightly bitchy......according to your own admission you already where "fat" and needed to lose weight. So why are you still complaining about having to get off the computer, why havent you gone out and done it already, if it's so easy!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well....all i can say is...just goes to show that someone can have a good bod (dunno about the head coz its not shown) and still be UGLY UGLY UGLY!Good on you for being so open minded and understanding and accepting of others.Are you bigotted across the board? or do you just reserve your disdain for fat people??Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am a size 20, borderlining a size 22. Yep, I'm overweight. I've lost 14 kg this year so far and as far as I'm concerned I look HOT right now.I really think it comes down to a persons self esteem and confidence in themselves. I can walk the walk and talk the talk, but can still get hurt by unnecessary "overweight" comments.Ok, now I'm overweight, but I'm not attracted to overweight men. PHYSICALLY.Some people see that as hypocrisy, but the fact of the matter is in ALL types of relationships, there needs to be some level of physical attraction!!!It's most definitely preference. Why would I bother with someone who's not attracted to me?All valid comments here though...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MissBJ'Hmm...some would call me a "fat chick"some would say...curvysome would say...voluptuoussome would say...overweightAll of these would be accurate.Myself...I call myself a chick with a fat ass.I haven't the time to worry about other people's attitudes to my appearance.You either like me or ya don't....but I might either like you or I don't.....so meh...move on.Words change their meaning depending on the manner in which they are used.The people that know me and love me do so because of WHO I am....NOT what size clothes I wear.Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe we need another thread to see what people actually feel is fat, for both men and women? I'd do it but I don't know how and don't want to learn haha.For me, well I'm 6"1' and find it hard to move from 94kgs, if I go up a bit I feel like a lard arse, if I get around 90kgs I feel like I'm damn fine haha. My BMI is somewhere ridiculous like 76kgs which I haven't been since I was 17. I think I'd be super comfortable at 86kgs as I am not a small frame. Even though I train a little I don't lose weight, why? I like good food and wine. It's a balance of what you put in and the exercise you do. Solution, eat less or exercise more. It's that easy!My "likes" in women? I'm bombarded like everyone else by the media and don't mind the odd perve at a model or two but not the skinny ones, they look shocking or like little boys (I always wonder about guys who like girls who look like little boys!!!) (Oh sorry to anyone that gets offended as they are naturally skinny, no offence meant but popularising beauty as too skinny is just as bad as accepting that too fat is ok too)I have many wonderful friends that are overweight, I love them to bits and think they are beautiful but not attracted to them physically (bodily anyway) and I do note that since I have a gay gene or two and am an awesome shopper I do prefer to shop for my slimmer friends as ultimately when I go out with my cuddlier ones they don't have as much fun as they know they are overweight and don't like shopping as it focusses on it. BUT I would NEVER say anything to them and go out of my way to find them great clothes that accenuate the good bits!!!!For me I like a girl who is smaller than me, just feels right to me, just as my partner likes a man to be bigger - she feels fat and self- conscious when with a skinny guy!It's an impossible arguement but I'll end my 2c worth by saying we've played with some picture perfect stunners who were so far up themselves and body conscious that it was damn boring, given the choice we'd have a roll in the hay with a chubbier, happy go lucky woman any day!
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RHP User
15 years ago
think your amazing hey mumma thats a big change of life. Btw check out my pic look closely at pic
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platinumcherry
15 years ago
well i would just like to say there aint nothing wrong with a little cushion nothing at all big women are gorgeous i say...too men many these days are too picky with wat they want big women got it goin on lol..
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RHP User
15 years ago
This question sounds to me like asking ,"Do all men like chilli?".Some do and some don't.There are no set formulas or stats.We all have different tastes in everything and that includes our choses companion(s).For every hat there is a head to fit and vice versa.What needs to be understood by both sides in my view is to eb comfortable with how you are and know for a fact that no matter how normal or abnormal there's a fan club for you out there and many admirers.However, if you feel unsatisfied with those type of admirers who are attracted to a person of your decriptions , then that is the right time to reinvent yourself and become something new whom will attract the type you are attracted too.Search in the right places and you'll find Gold for the price of Bronze.I'm happy to exchange Gold for Gold.
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RHP User
15 years ago
agree totally larger girls are great and can put thinner 1's to shame! fancy catchin up at play doh? lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
im a chubby girlie sort and because i am a jolly soul have never found a problem having men fancy me. i have quite a few bits of fluffs and a long term partner who i believe just adore me for being a "happy root" hehe..i feel i am pretty and you have to be happy with that, its my internal sexiness that oozes out that attracts the sort of men that make me happy and horny.. do have a issue with the old "no fat chicks" stickers and have no problem rewriting on it "no narrow minded gits" many thanks.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well this post, got just as much controversy happening as much as my post Curves V's No Curves.... seems this subject, is something that everyone has an opinion on..... Macca722.... ur comments on the fact that fat parents make for fat kids... in my opinion ( ad its only my opinion) is bullshit... My mother and i were both professional dancers... trained fom a very young age most of our lives, 5-7 days a week to become good in our industry. I was always a size 8 toned body, abs, etc... helps when u train up to 6 hrs a day! When i had an accident while training, and was told i may not walk again let alone dance, i was devastated it was all i knew... Yes i am fine now... however im still advised not to do anything to injure my spine, im also at 30 yrs old, waiting to have a hip replacement, due to EXCESSIVE excersize for a long period of time. My daughter is 6 yrs old has legs up to the arm pits, long blonde hair, big brown eyes, and at the age of 5 was already booked by a modelling agency....NOW here is my POINT!!! Since giving up dancing etc , i am a size 16 with DD boobs and an ass!! Nothing like i was... some people may call me fat, well thats there problem, but my child eats healthy, also trains in dancing 3 days a week, does karate, and is very active... which i completly encourage. So UR point that just because a parent looks a certain way, means there child is going to be the same is CRAP!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Im in perth and would love to come get u, And in response to BBW, Im a lover of larger women they are just so sexy, hot and just great to be around, They are the ultimate fantsy and so much to grab, touch, kiss and lick over mmmm xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
i wonder if theres women who like big handsome men hahahahaha
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RHP User
15 years ago
hmmmmmmmmmmm i have been with larger girls and skinny girls and everywhere in between to be honest im not fussed if a girl is skinny or large you do the right things and im butter in your hands hahah
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RHP User
15 years ago
I havent always been the weight im now....But!!! im still the same person on the inside..still possess the same qualities that my family and friends of all ages admire in me. I still have the same sexual desires needs n wants and i give of myself 100% i also still live by the golden rule.The only thing to change is my weight.Yet i dont criticise or make prejudgements of people due to their weight as we're all individuals...and should be view as such and not be compared or be defind by our size.Hence its the type of person we are and how we treat each other that should be of importance ....therefore we shouldnt be or prejude or make assumptions...due to what size we are.
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RHP User
15 years ago
honey your last comments on this subject are so true because we may be larger than the unrealistic examples that are paraded in front of us everyday does not mean that we are not healthy.... just because we may not look like the waif that walk down the catwalk does not mean we overeat(nor do i mean the waifs undereat) life throws us all sorts of curve balls...no pun intended... medication...stress...whatever.. can play a part in how we look but it does not mean we dont have pride in our apperance and are not sexual beings we are just as horny and as loving and as giving as anyone else... no matter how they appear so to all you guys out there who love a women for who she is..... bravo xxxpandaxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
In response to the original question, yes there are alot of men who do prefer larger or as I like to say ''Perfectly rounded'' women, it becomes hard to asses the actual figures as many men will not admit to themselves what they actually prefer. My personal preference is to women who are natural, I find artificial body modifications unnatractive and as such size does not matter to me as I look for intelligence and personality in my friends and partners. Some people will raise eyebrows at this if they've seen my profile, yes im quite thin; the reason for that is my genetic make up, it's unchangeable. Just as there are some people who have a genetic disposition to be perfectly rounded and in all honesty I truly envy that. These are my personal thoughts so comment if you want I will respect the opinions others.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's not just guys that like curves by the way... I absolutely love curvy girls LOL And, while lots of the comments on this thread are excellent, I love takeaseat's comment above... you can be slim or curvy or anything in between but if you don't like yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin (a universal problem), then you'll never exude that inner sexiness that takeaseat is talking about. Self-confidence and a strong sense of self-worth are what attract worthwhile people to you. The others are really not worthy of your time.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi All, Personal I find one of the most attractive things about a women's looks and size is how they hold them self, if a women is happy with herself and how she looks it shines through in nearly every aspect of her and I find this extremely attractive :) So for me it doesn't matter what size they are as long as they love who they are :)I do agree with HotasIce but also understand Frack_Me in that there are medical reason why some women gain the weight and find it hard to lose it, i still belive that they should take pride in there appearance as well (which the ones who are comfortable with themselves' do) Just my thoughts Hihellogday
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RHP User
15 years ago
yes I like everyone unless they give me reason to not like them,as for sexual partners, I prefer hardbodied, brazillian, surfer chicks, with blond hair, well tanned, who speak with a slight french accent, breath through thier ears, own a brewery in Mexico and love fat old aussie guys....I know what you mean, I find them hard to come by for some reason....cheers,kev parko
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm a BBW and actually have lost 54kg in weight (don't ask about before haha). I joined this week and two gentlemen have contacted me via messages and then to msn to chat. One did chat with me - then nothing - even quickly changing to 'away' status when I logged on.The other, he's on my msn, said he'd chat to me... came on and won't respond to my hello.Noice.Wish I knew why...I'm 5 ft 2, chubby but very pretty in the face so I am told.I felt so sexy when the weight came off but now.. I am beginning to have doubts!
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RHP User
15 years ago
social image. i have noticed, youger guys, obsess about what their mates think. The mob mentality amoungst youth is fucking disgusting, *recounts on the one experience that confirmed this, me and a my ex girlfriend had been at work until 2am, we stopped on the way home to get maccas, nothing else is open at 2am and we just did a ten hour bar wench shift, whilest pulling away from the drive thru with our seared chicken burgers, i recall a bunch of young guys hanging out in the car park screaming out something about "fucking fat cow". when my lits hit the group i laughed and yelled out my window for the guys to get a fucking hobby. we then got followed the five ks home and abused by the guys, granted after getting out of the car three foot lead pipe at hand, and politely saying that "in considering that i live less than 100meters from campbelltown police station perhaps you should leave before i call them up and say we just got stalked by two cars of p platers". i noticed one of the guys kinda hiding in the back, i spotted him. And laughed, it was a guy id been fucking the night before. He didnt know it was my car, as he always drove to me. i then made a point of saying hi and last night wasnt his best performance. Point being, i got apology texts for weeks after that. kinda my proof of the beautiful mob mentality. For the record as far how much of a fat cow i really am, i am a size 16 arse, 12 waist, 16 bust, with e cups to hide under those blouses, further more i often do pt in the mornings with my man and have no troubs doing the 5km run with the boys. But to the point at hand do guys dig the fat chicks, living proof here. I admit this freely when strapped for cash, i did a few shifts at some pretty up market parlours, i made more my first shift than the glamours i was working with combined. All below a size 10. So theres some damn strong proof. Now i am not saying all guys dig the jiggly bits, but alot sure as hell do. Personally im not into guys who look like ken dolls. But most girls my age do. I find big women sexy, i love a nice fat arse! the given if you fat because your lazy you deserve the shit that you cop for being fat. (for the record i like the f (at)word). Guys who are into big girlies, well arent exactly a rarety. So specifically to answer the question, some guys do, mainly over 25 and independent, younger caucasion guys generally no. For a female who likes the ladies, i like older bigger women, but thats cause from my experience they just fack and feel better! *stretches the busy typing fingers* thank you you have been a wonderful audience fuck well and good night!
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RHP User
15 years ago
To the curvyvoluptuousoverweight bbw fat ass (All t he above mentioned in the above posts) You are al HOT
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think there is a huge difference between someone who is curvy and maybe a bit bigger than what society considers to be a slim woman and someone who is just plain fat & unhealthy. for me I'm attracted to bigger women with curves but ones that in my eyes I consider to be living a healthy life. I might see a woman who is curvy but looks really fat & unhealthy so its a turnoff. I guess im just saying there is a difference between fat & BBW. All my partners have been really slim in nature but I guess that has just come down to the situation and other factors not relating to appearance but my real attraction is to bigger curvier women.
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RHP User
15 years ago
This isn't directed at the original post of this thread, but more at some of the other many replies in regards to what most men like, why a lot of them don't like bigger girls and weight loss difficulties. Please don't read any of this as if it's in a harsh tone, I'm just putting my opinion out there in a hopefully constructive sounding way.I'm no scientist or anything, men have evolved to be attracted to women who are physically active, capable of being on their feet all day picking berries, collecting fruit etc...while we went out and hunted animals for their meat. Fat women who sit on their bums all day at work, do little or no exercise, eat food that has been made in factories with enough salt, sugar and fat in them for a week, then go home to watch TV and eat more unhealthy foods are not hardwired into our brains yet. Why? Because the technology to make this lifestyle possible is VERY new compared to the bloody long time human beings have existed. Is it really any wonder why so few men are into girls who don't look after their bodies well enough to stay in the form we have evolved to be in?Personally I love nothing more than a chick who gets outside and does something physical, whether it's running, climbing, horse riding, skating or whatever. It doesn't matter if it's her passion or she just does it on weekends for fun. Every guy I know is the same.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know a few larger and curvy ladies, all great women, however i don't find i am ever sexually attracted, to larger women, unfortunately for me., because iam probably missing out, but its just not my thing. Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have curves in all the right places and alot in the wrong too. I know im fat and I dont whinge about it though.I gained my weight from having my children but over the years i have maintained that weight and not gained anymore.I am a sz 14 with a fat ass, size D boobs and my muffin top belly. I still care about the way i look when i walk out the door and how other people see me but I will not let other peoples opinions ruin my day.I excercise and eat healthy and am slowly gaining my pre baby body.I love they way I look and still try my best to better it ... but i NEVER complain about it because I am the only one who can change it.If you cant love the way you look and want the best for yourself ..... well your not going to get any thinner soon are ya?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have curves in all the right places and alot in the wrong too. I know im fat and I dont whinge about it though. I gained my weight from having my children but over the years i have maintained that weight and not gained anymore. I am a sz 14 with a fat ass, size D boobs and my muffin top belly. I still care about the way i look when i walk out the door and how other people see me but I will not let other peoples opinions ruin my day. I excercise and eat healthy and am slowly gaining my pre baby body. I love they way I look and still try my best to better it ... but i NEVER complain about it because I am the only one who can change it. If you cant love the way you look and want the best for yourself ..... well your not going to get any thinner soon are ya?
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RHP User
15 years ago
i just wanted to go back to the original question hahaha all women are beautiful and i have been with bbws b4 and they are great :) love it ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
what is the world coming to when a size 14 girl thinks she is fat???SIZE 14 IS THE AVERAGE NORMAL SIZE FOR AUSTRALIAN WOMEN!!!Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
LOL....I thought I was fat when I was a size 14 - hey, I even thought that when I was a size 12! Now that I am the way I am, I look back at photos and think to myself "far out, I was such a skinny chick"! Hindsight is a wonderous thing ;) S xox
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RHP User
15 years ago
I havent replied on this thread for a while, but reading Urban's response, I needed to. I fractured my spine 8 years ago and was told by doctors to take it easy. I did so. I put on weight because i stopped my normally active lifestyle, but I've always battled with my weight. Despite swimming, walking, horseriding, and being generally quite active, I've always had a battle to keep myself attractive according to men's standards. I went from being a bigger, active chick to a large, depressed, bitter chick who constantly belittled herself about her appearance because she was constantly rejected by men. I finally pulled myself out of that pit of hell to regain my zest for life, getting back to the gym, and being ok with going out and being seen by people again. I have just had Lap Band surgury. I've lost 16 kilos since the surgury, looking better, feeling beter but I still feel rejected and subjected to the gaze of men all the time. In fact at the moment I'm in the midst of a terrible bout of depression, loneliness and self rejection. I cry every day at how lonely i am. I'm getting fitter every day. My doctors when I had my surgury where amazed at just how good my body actually is. I have amazing ab's, so the surgeon tells me, from practising yoga and doing core wore to strenghten my spine. My trainer is amazed at how much work I actually put into my body. My blood tests, everything is awesome. Now I'm not looking to get super skinny.... in fact I prefer to be muscular and well built rather than thin. I'm lucky I don't lose my boobs and stay a d cup no matter what size I am. Lucky me. I get healthier and fitter every day...but looking at me, you would probably think I was one of those lazy fat chicks you are not attracted to. Men make judgement calls based on what a chick looks like, and do not take the time to get to know the person. A lot of men diss chicks for being really judgemental, but it's the same on both sides of the fence. Men and women who think they are hot judge and dismiss based on their own personal preference and what standards they expect potential partners to come to. Thats the evolutionary theory your talking about, right. I tend to think thats why so many men and women spend so much time alone. They are not willing to see behind the corporeal shell that hides the true person. When I say I'm looking for a guy thats fit and healthy in my profile, it's because I'm looking for someone who is into the same things as me, not because I'm looking for someone who looks good. If I meet a guy who isn't all that fit but is working on it, adores me and wants to get fit with me, and I like him, I'm so willing to get to know him.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Can i just say weight does not determine how horny or how sexy you are all of these things are within the mind and are personality based.. Curious as to why you need a concensus to validate you desire for a larger lady...x
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RHP User
15 years ago
What is the debate about???? size doesnt matter, there is only one thing that matters ENTHUSIASM with it you have it all - without you might as well have awank in the same room as someone else but maybe i am biased - i just LOVE girls :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am scratching to find BBW in Perth that are confident enough to let a guy in... I am a photographer and love to see the curvy womanly body and kissing the ample breasts of a BBW... come on ladies, let me please you...
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RHP User
15 years ago
HotazIce when you say fat people don't look after their appearance, perhaps some of them prefer to look that way? They enjoy their food and might not like exercise, or have better things to do with their time than body shaping to conform to the "normal" shape for everybody else's benefit... a caring and loving "fat" person would be a better partner than a gym junkie that is about conforming to everybody else's ideal's...
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RHP User
15 years ago
if all this talk of fat chicks has you feeling sorry for overweight females, think about all the fat guys out there like myself that consider themselves to be quite a catch... if only the ladies weren't so narrow minded and looked past the massive frame confronting them... I would consider the ride to be somewhat like a comfy lounge suite as you rode the padded framework, then the power of the thrust as you feel 140 kilos of weight pushing you forward with every lunge... but then there is my innate ability to pleasure you with my mouth... which happens to be the same size as most males... but beyond all this is my massive heart and the fact that few women would try to snatch me away from you... but I am content to wait and will work on my health, which the doctor says is very good and is the same as it was when I was 29... so stick that in your pipe...
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RHP User
15 years ago
larger ladys are great fun
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RHP User
15 years ago
I couldnt agree more with Bad Bad Dog - it is about sexiness not shape. While there is no debate it is a lot healthier for us all to be of a healhty weight being thinner or larger does not guarantee a great experience in bed. The comfort people feel in themselves makes them sexy and attractive and that is a turn on for me
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RHP User
15 years ago
you have got 2 b kidding there dime a dozen,some places there even giving them away!seriously we dont get the attraction, have a wank?& remember " NO FAT CHIKS" (LOL)xxxN&A
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RHP User
15 years ago
Lady,s of all size,s and all shape,s it makes me mad to read the comment,s of narrow minded fool,s who make stupid and insulting remark,s about people of who don,t fall into the box marked as sexy or hot it has been my profound delight to find that those lady,s who are called bbw,s most cases more honest with themselves than those who believe that beautiful is what you find in those magazine,s those of us few male,s who actually listen to what our lady,s say and look at their face while they are talking and not at their body will find that underneath all that wrapping is a very sensual and sexy woman the old statement don,t judge a book by it,s cover is by no mean,s a mistake and it has been my delight that the larger lady is not a reference to their size of the body but the size of the of the passion and the loyalty and the heart of them and those who don,t look beyond the cover of the book will always miss a good adventure story full of passion and love so don,t be a fool be smart and open your eye,s to a world of delight.
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RHP User
15 years ago
My peference is for ladies with curves I find I am more comfortable around them, as I'm overweight myself I like to be able to cuddle and for us both to enjoy the experience Rich
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bbwlover4me4ever' it has been my delight that the larger lady is not a reference to their size of the body but the size of the of the passion and the loyalty and the heart of them Oh bbwlover that is a really sweet and lovely thing to say...and an even greater thing to feel and believe.
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RHP User
15 years ago
perthcurvygirl...there most certainly is interest in perth. I actually prefer bigger girls to thinner girls. I would actually choose a BBW over a girl that would be normal in today's warped perception over what a woman's body should look like. Us guys are out there, and I think larger women make better lovers.
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RHP User
15 years ago
EVERY1 NEEDS 2 RELAX TKE A CHILL PIL LOLL....ME PERSONALY I LOVE BIG WOMEN,THERE JST SEXY N I FIND THEM VERY ATTRACTIVE SO HOLLA IF U WANA CHAT OR WATEVA! JST MY 2CENTS BYE BYE
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with you guys in Perth don't seem to like the BBW's - their loss I say lol :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hahaha - unlike most here I take no offence to being called a "fat chick" . I am one, I'm comfortable with who I am, I'm healthy and I can do the things I want to do... ok, well, except that one position involving the one armed handstand.I don't mind being appreciated for my size. I don't like being turned into a fetish object, but if someone has a fat fetish would prefer they were honest about it, I just wouldn't have an ongoing relationship with a fat fetishist. Feeders just squick me because, yes I am fat, but that doesn't mean I gorge myself on food all the time, I actually (now) eat rather healthily.For the record, I'm a size 24 at the moment. For those saying people above a certain size can't reallllly be healthy, think again. I am healthy, my gym records show it. I have excellent recovery on my heart rate, cholesterol, blood sugars, blood pressure all in the healthy range. My BMI is fucked, but it's not a good way of gauging anything - pretty much anyone above a size 12 is going to show up as being overweight on BMI, and don't forget those people with way more muscle than body fat.I dress well, I do my hair, I don't smell bad, I'm not inherantly lazy - OK, I am lazy sometimes but I'm not lazy with my appearance nor the other things I do with my life. I am fat. I work professionally full-time. I study part time. I socialise with mates. I go the gym. I fuck. I watch cricket on tele. I catch public transport. I ride my bike. I have pink hair (at the moment). I have friends. I have people who don't like me. I have a facial piercing. I have a tattoo. I smoke. I love rugby league. I have a cat. All of the previous are statements that could be made about me, and I take no offence to any of them, because they're true.I'm also not ashamed of being fat. There's nothing "wrong" me. I don't get upset if people aren't attracted to me. I'm not attracted to everyone else. Oh, and I won't fuck you just because I'm fat and I can't get anyone better. I won't be grateful to you for deigning to fuck the fat chick. Just my (long) 2 cents worth.Cheers,Jules
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RHP User
15 years ago
Never posted anything on here before, but have been reading the posts on this topic with great interest! My skinny husband has called me fat and unattractive for years, and thank heavens I have stopped listening to him! I'm size 16-18, love my own curves and those of other women too. I have never felt so womanly, sexy and beautiful as I have done lately, having found some truly wonderful lovers who appreciate every bit of my body and can see past the flabby tum and stretch marks (leftovers from my children, after all, and I can't regret them!) I don't even mind being called a fat chick, as long as it's meant affectionately and not with that derogatory tone that some guys have. In the end we are all attracted to different things in a partner, and I have found that when it comes down to it, it's a combination of both personality and looks that does it for all of us, so why focus on the outward appearance every time? I'm a big girl, I love being this way and all you other voluptuous ladies, I hope you do too!
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x2ForU
15 years ago
in my opinion you really dont deserve to express your opinion publicly about larger people.. have you been large yourself before?/ if so , i apologise...!! quite a shallow comment i thought !! there can be alot more going on with people that are large than just not exercising or eating healthy!! have you ever wondered why the majority of people are slim or proper body weight and the minority are overweight or behaps obese! how do you feel about alcoholics?? or people that are bulimic or suffering from anorexia?? i can say this confidently as i have been there !! i KNOW what it is like... i have experienced it first hand!! and i can tell you that its not just from over eating or being unhealthy, god i wish it was that simple... shelly x
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RHP User
15 years ago
ok so only got as far as page 1 of replies and have to agree with 'warmhoney' that there seem to be many ppl on here and other sites, that concern themselves more with choosing a person according to their age, weight and height than the 'human factor' as miss honey puts it. Those ppl who choose Age / Height / Weight over personality are truly missing something in their psyche, especially those who won't budge an inch on any of those criteria. Not surprisingly I hear many stories where they have been stood up by such ppl who select back on similar criteria - it's Karma I guess. The fact is that most women and men selet by such obscure and irrelevant standards as Age / Height / Weight. Swayed by public pressure and social images in the mass media , rather than using their own intellect to choose someone who will respect them and treat them with kindness and dignity rather than using, abusing them for a one night stand. Having said that I understand that as biological entities we are swayed by appearance, however a good looking younger or older person who obviously looks after themself despite their weight (super light or super heavy, or anywhere in between) will always get a look in in my books, especially if they have personality and display a caring giving nature. Good luck to everyone in finding what they want or need on RHP :)
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